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Is it a good decision to try anal for spicing things up in the marriage?

It's been 6 years of my marriage and mostly we have done vanilla sex, but it is getting boring at least for me, sometimes it's jus feel like a chore, from many days it's just been the interaction of our bottom private parts only nothing else, our sex life have always been great, in many ways my husband is better than me in this and we are considering totry anal now and even more things afterwards but I guess taking one step at a time is good, although I have heard some things about anal that it can be a real turn off for some although I am feeling excited, should I try it or not and if yes then what will be most safe way to go on, on this.
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  • I love doing anal with a girl so i may be biased here but i'll share my opinion, its up to you to decide in the end. Truth be told, you don't know if you will like anal until you have done it few time. Its not like vaginal sex that its hurt 1st time and later its ok. It definitely take more attempts for your body to get used to it and be less tight. There are many girls who prefer anal over vaginal and ofc vice versa. Now if you are really interested in doing it know that it doesn't actually hurts as much as it feels like its more of a mixture of unpleasantness and bit of pain and being uncomfortable since this is a feeling that is completely new to you and your body, that is why i said that you do need to do it few times, not 10+ or anything like that but lets say 4-5 times, if after 5th time you simply dont get any pleasure from it that is when you know its not for your. First 2 times will be practically the same except on your 2nd time you will know what to expect. on your 3-4 time you will slightly get used to it and your body won't be as tight as before. That is why i recommend 4-5 times and after that you will know. Now i can write what i recommend you start with, although it is a few step process, would be more comfortable saying stuff in pm where i dont have to watch my language and be more direct but i'll say few here. Also there are other thing to do like cosplay, role-play and also abstinence. First 2 your probably know about so no need to explain them.3rd one is something i only heard from my buddies but they were freaks in bed, extremely open minded and they experiment with everything. Short story is that you kinda tease each other for 2,3 days, like sexy dress, showing your areas, basically seducing each other without going all the way, no ejaculation for him, no hj, bj etc, if you live alone only wear some sexy lingerie when at home, simply make him drool over you tease him a bit, after few days of that he will ravage you if everything done correctly, but ofc its up to him as well but i think if he reads this he will know what i mean about teasing and showing off, needs to have at least tiny bit of kinky/playful side in him. I'll write few steps in comment section so this ain't too long

    • I know you both want this and since i read below you know about doiching/cleaning we can skip that.#1 you should buy a box if dildos, fingers are fine but in a good store you can buy a box that has from min dildo to extra extra big. I do recommend those over fingers cuz its more similar to the real thing.#2 you both can do it together but i think it would be best if you do use those dildos alone, that way you can find out for yourself what feels good and what doesn't.#3 start with the smallest one, and every 3-4 days try 1 size bigger until you reach and use the at least 1 bigger than that of your husband.. It does takes few week to do all that but i'm sure your husband can wait. Once you used at least 1 size bigger than your husband let h im join you (by now you should know what tempo and ''other'' stuff you like as you practiced by yourself). Play with that bigger sized dildo for 2 nights or so but make it romantic, kissing, caressing even sex if you want just not anal. Guide him and tell him what you like and what speed you like when using the dildo, let him get used to your needs in that regards (you can count that as a foreplay before actual sex) after at least 2 days of doing that, you should try anal then, now i think he should do it without condom and use silicone or oil based lube, oil is more slippery and hard to wash off from sheet but i'm sure that won't matter if you are successful. but you need to feel good too otherwise its just gonna hurt you and maybe your marriage. Communication and honesty are key ingredient to any relationship.

    • ofc but a big bottle of lube and use a 1/3rd of it or more, just when it becomes too much stop a moment and re-lube, some girls only need a tiny bit some need a lot, and its your 1st time and will be nervous its better to use more than needed than less

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  • So, from a man's perspective, I think it's a great idea.

    I love anal and using toys on her while we do anal or flip it the other ways around. My ex-wife and several girlfriends since, would allow me in her ass, while she rode cowgirl with a vibrator basically on my stomach with her grinding on it. So, she was getting the vaginal stimulation with my dick in her ass... and I was an extremely happy man.

    then you can do doggie style with the vibrator in her ass, and you dick in her vagina. Or the opposite she is using the vibrate while I am hitting the ass from behind. Or she is in missionary using the vibrate with me in her ass. I mean it opens the door for a lot of fun excitement.

    So, first time though go with the lubricant. Seriously, and he has to go slow, its best that you use your hand to guide his penis. Guys might get over excited and thrust when they should not thrust and it might hurt... when lub your ass lub his penis.

    For my wife and I, she was a squirter, if I made her cum then that was all the lub I needed so my reward for doing good was anal. So, I would work really hard at pleasing her for my reward.

    Over time as he and you become better at it, you will know when lub is absolutely needed, and when you are right without it. Because good sex gets a lot of the juices you need already flowing naturally.

Most Helpful Girls

  • So go for it! Slow gentle easy and it won't happen the first night or second!

    . you need to be lovingly stretched fingered and just getting relaxed with things inside your but!

    For us we did it to spice it up and while it is slicey exciting I'd rather be spooned snuggled and loved!

    Maybes the issue is also just bottom bits are involved? Does he not like your chest? My hubby can't get enough and loves me all over!

    Some times he is so naughty just kisses me there and slips inside my bra after bed!

    Does he not want anything to do with kisses either?

    One thing won't make it qmzong it needs to be all addressed! Or just boring again soon.

  • . I think everyone should try anal but not to spice things up. Only do it if you want to.

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  • We do anal but not often. Hubby wanted to try it, so we did. He usually does that once or twice a year just the change things up.

  • Anal is a pretty difficult thing to do comfortably at the beginning and all the prep work is too tedious for me and takes the fun out of it. cleaning the inside of your butthole isn’t exactly foreplay or something you would want to do together. If you do the secret is lots of lube, and when I say lots whatever amount you think is appropriate it’s not you need more and by that point still you need more. You should probably try small stuff before the big guy brings in his holy rod and goes fishing Because well pain. Last thing the actual key is you, you need to be in the mood and relaxed. When it is time for Monsieur to go fishing the rough stuff is probably best left till later the best results come by being gentle. Since you went anonymous if you do end up trying it I’m sure people would be interested to know if it went okay or if it all went to shit l, keep us posted ✌️

    • Cleaning my asshole is not a big deal actually I have already prepared it, i have barely used to lubes for sex, my vagina never needed lubes and i am not really scared of pain either although still my husband is suggesting same, trying with small toys and fingers. I don't know much about lubes which one will be best?

    • Yeah without lube and enough vigor you should be able to start a fire, anyhow best stuff I could recommend is from get Maude shine-organic-lube silicone is best for anal as it doesn’t dry up too fast it’s also messier though so water based is a good alternative but you need to reapply a few times depending on the duration of your fun time. It’s a lot cheaper in the us than in Europe. There’s surely others I’m not exactly a connaisseur

  • perhaps try it in some solo play first. anal is a fairly big step instead of just spicing up the vagina sex.

    • How can I spice up vagin? Solo play sounds like task

  • That depends wether you two want it or not

  • Try it.

  • Having a lot of orgasms first will help you be more relaxed. A buttplug through the day will also make it easier to take him. Good luck and have fun and kudos to you both for being adventurous (with trust) That’s huge!

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  • i mean one thing that can be a big turn off is the thorough cleaning you have to do before hand, if you don't want stuff to get poopy. another thing is the risk for fissures and higher likelyhood of developing hemorrhoids... but other than that, it's cool i guess.

  • Always worth a try, but we found we didn’t like and enjoy it and the ways we spice things up is like lingerie, she gets her nails done and uses them on me, candles, sex games, sex coupons, bed restraints, blindfold, vibrators/toys, massage oil/lubes, sex wedge pillow, try diff positions, etc. We’re so long into our relationship that we don’t have many quickies anymore and we just have longer and more passionate love making sessions now which is even better!

  • Absolutely. They that and toys and anything else the two of you can dream up. Nothing wrong with trying / experimenting / experiencing new and different things together.

  • No it's not I was just at a Woman's an a Mans home an she ask me to teach her how to take her Man Cock when he puts it into her butt an he said ok are u ok with all of this an to say at the least I was taken to hear him ask me such a thing about his own Wife but it went off an I'll show them how its all done over the next 6 days of this being the first day so I took her an place her in front of me an had her place her butt on my lap as I put my Cock into her.
    Oh yes we are all in the living room by the way just to let u know what part of there home we are in.
    Because at the begining she was some what nervous an had already ask me if it was going to hurt her an I told her not if we take it slowly as I had done with other Women an as she felt my Cock touch her spot she stood back up an said if we could use some oil an I said ok so then her husband went an get it for me an after giving it to me I put some between her bun's an place back in front of me again an I get the head in after a while an she began to enjoy her self so no it's not a bad thing to do it all.
    I teach Women how to receive a Cock by useing mine with them.
    God Bless

  • very good

  • good idea

  • Nooooo it isn't a good idea

  • nowadays anal become mainstream so you should jump on it quickly. do it well.

  • If you're not sure on Anal, have you thought about light bandage?

  • Sure. I know I like it when a female lets me get her like that. It’s hot as fuck. Maybe while you’re giving him head, have him finger you then slowly insert his other finger in your ass at the same time. Three holes in one. I love that. I wouldn’t say to take it up the ass normally like you do w sex. Maybe special occasions or something. But that is obviously up to you. You may find you don’t like it.

  • I think it may or may not, depending on the couple. It has been very good for my marriage though. I think you have a good chance for it to be a good thing in your relationship too because, like in mine, it's something you both are interested in trying. Too often it's just the guy who wants it and the woman does it to please him. In your case you are both interested and are doing it for the right reasons. In our marriage it feels like it has deepened our intimacy and trust in each other. There is something very endearing about a woman being willing to give herself to her man completely and allow him access to her most private parts.

    I will say that it must be approached properly or it probably won't go well. Anal sex, especially early on, should not be approached casually. We chose to take a longer term approach to help ensure it was pleasurable for her, and that worked well for us. We started with anal play using fingers and toys to get her used to the sensations and associate them with pleasure in her brain. She had many orgasms with a combination of clitoral play and anal stimulation before we ever tried actual anal sex. I think her discovering how anal stimulation could enhance her orgasms was key to success for us. She also had learned to relax herself and comfortably take a toy the size of my penis before we did the real thing too. That gave her complete control over everything without the pressure of feeling like she needed to continue when she wasn't feeling it for fear of disapointing me. We spent months getting her ready, but we had a lot of fun during that time.

    If you do decide to try anal, I hope you'll both be thoughtful and patient in your approach. Good luck!

  • If you do try it, make sure you clean inside the area beforehand. Go slow, don't rush because it's not comfortable when you first do it.

    • I wanna ask something. Can you message me?

  • Sure, you might like it.

  • No

    its not a good idea

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