Had sex with this guy after a night out. Before that I have met him in the club some months ago where we were dancing, we have texted a little bit, i sometimes see him when I am out at the club or events like and we chat.
Yes, that's a ONS. You not only didn't establish any basis for a ROMANTIC relationship, but you didn't even set up any future dates or meetings, other than "I'll see ya if I see ya" kind of thing. That's a ONS - even a friends with benefits has more structure and intentionally sets up an on-going relationship (a casual sex-only relationship). Just because you've made the guy's acquaintance before doesn't change that.
Structure in a relationship doesn't just happen, it has to be built, intentionally, by you and/or by the guy. If neither of you builds any structure, then all you end up with is casual sex, and probably one-time casual sex. A bit more structure and you get on-going casual sex, i. e., friends with benefits. It takes a LOT of structure to build an actual romantic relationship, or at least a framework that you can propose a romantic relationship or even vet a guy as being viable for a romantic relationship. The less effort you put in, the less reward you're likely to get back.
For me an ONS is one night of sex with someone you don’t know, just picked up that night. You have sex, one of you leaves, and dont see each other again. Maybe yours was, maybe not. I think my question to you is, do you want to have sex with him again or see him for a date?
You can know someone we'll for years and it's still a one night stand. The term just means you're not in a relationship with him.
I always think of a one night stand as being when someone has sex with a person they have never met before
I feel the same kinda, that’s why I asked the question. Now I am Confused hahah. But maybe it doesn’t matter that much to put a label on it.
That's how I always defined it, otherwise it's a hook up. Most of my hook ups did end up in short term relationships. It was fun while it lasted.
Almost a friends with benefits?
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Why does it matter what you call it? A label doesn’t change the facts of what happened.
Does it really matter one way or the other?
Was it only for one night? That's a one night stand
Well at least he isn’t a stranger.
Are you going to have sex with him again? If not it was a one night stand.
Maybe… thanks:)
I would call it simply 'casual sex"
If you had casual sex with him for just one night, that’s the definition of a one night stand.
So many variables, in person it should be obvious. After you had sex when did he leave?
Okay so we actually had car sex, after a party. Then we talked, little later he drove me home, he wanted to come up but I told him no because I had people staying there.
How often did y'all text before that? He ever mention wanting to hang out more in the past or currently now that time has passed?
Nope
If it's the first time and last time you had sex with him, it's a ons.
I’ve kinda wondered the same….. I’ve had several of those. I think there isn’t a technical meaning so you can consider it either way. Lol. You can count it as that on not count it as that. lol
Nope it's hookup...
I'm horny.. can I fuck you please?
Yes makes sense and no.
Pull you closer from your waist Kiss ya neck 😘😘😘 Why no? I want to.
Yep, that is the definition of a one night stand.
Okay thanks for answering my question:)
Sure, you're welcome.
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