Me 33m her 24f. We been dating 6 weeks now and things been going well and have had a lot of fun hanging out. We been having amazing sex regularly since the 1st week but last night I asked if we could try anal and she said no and killed the mood? What's the deal should I just move on?
You need to understand some things about anal.
Of all the sexual things a woman can do, anal is probably the one where 100% trust in her partner is most important. No offense, but you don't sound very trustworthy. That trust is something you have to earn.
In my experience anal is something women need to warm up to. Some girls love it and are willing to do it fairly early in a relationship, but others are not as comfortable with the idea and you just have to wait until they're ready. That can take a while, sometimes a long while, and some may never be ready.
If you care about this girl (for more than just sex, and so far you don't seem to), you need to have a long term perspective. In my experience, the best thing you can do is patiently help her discover how good it can feel to have her ass stimulated during an orgasm. If she has a few orgasms with your finger in her ass while you're giving her oral, that is a great start. For a lot of girls that's all it takes... the light goes on when she feels how much more intense her orgasms are with some anal stimulation, and you can (patiently) build on it from there.
But for other girls it just won't happen. If she's one of those girls, you must respect it.
XFD looking at most of the replies and women just sound insane
"You want something from the woman you're dating? You entitled ass you!!"
Lol I'm glad my woman has no prob with a dick up her ass. Keep fighting the good fight OP 😂
Interesting that you never used the word “relationship” in your question or comment. Once you’re in a stable relationship, the subject of anal often comes up. As others have said, anal requires a high level of trust, so perhaps that trust hasn’t yet been established. In other words, you’ve not yet reached the level of a trusting, solid relationship….. at least from her perspective. That doesn’t mean she won’t try have anal at some future point, just now now. Also, you could just ask her why she’s not interested in anal. If she says she doesn’t want it ever (whether she’s previously tried it or not) then that’s her choice and you should respect it. If that’s on your “must have” list, then move on and find someone who better meets your needs.
Could be. Maybe you just caught her off guard with your request and she might be open to it a little later. Most girls I know have tried it so I wouldn't say it's that uncommon or that rude of a request
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!No, I’d say its more wise and self respecting on her part. Sounds like a good woman.
Given that you have amazing sex already this really should not matter. Not everybody likes everything.
Also, a red flag is an indication for future serious trouble. Can't see how this could apply. You simply do not do anal and that's it.
Well it is a red flag that she is a single mom at 24 as for her saying no to anal if that is something you enjoy she isn't the one lol
Not a red flag. She doesn't want or like anal. Plenty of people don't like certain sexual things or do like sexual things. Liking or not liking something sexual isn't a red flag. It just might mean you're not compatible.
A lot of women don't like anal sex. If a woman not wanting/ liking anal is a deal breaker, then move on.
no. respect her boundaries.
What about respecting my boundaries?
if not wanting to have anal sex is a dealbreaker for you, end your relationship with her. all i meant was don’t pressure her.
@beautyjoyfover200 eh I'll prob just find a normal girl. Don't see how wasting time with person you're incompatible with would be whining
Yes. If it is one of your requirements for sexual compatibility.
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Red flag of what?
Yes. Spare her of the entitlement issues you seem to have.
Don't see how me wanting something is entitlement but her wanting something isn't entitlement
Regrettably dude, this is what it is culturally since millennias ago, from the East to the West. Even until today, it what differentiate a boy from a man, an asshole from a gentleman.
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