Is it a red flag that I need pain or feel uncomfortable to orgasm?

I don't like rough sex I like it nice slow and passionate but I need it to hurt thing is I don't think most guys would be ok with it, I need it to hurt while you penetrate me but I will never let you know it is hurting me. It feels like the only time I feel alive, feel something. I'm super discreet about it I move in my own ways so you wouldn't notice. I wasn't like that, but with time I've been getting into super weird things to get off. Is it a red flag?
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  • I am not sure what you mean, do you feel pain when a guy penetrate you by default or it only happen sometimes? actually I don't think that many guys are going to care, as guy tend to care mostly about getting a pussy, as long as you put out, would a guy care if you feel pain or pleasure? plus you say that you are good at hiding it anyway.

  • Absolutely not. And it does not necessarily mean you are a masochist and have to engage in BDSM.

    It only means you like the "danger!" element of pain and sex, and you are open enough to explore it! That can be very good!
    Like Roger Waters sings:
    "Shine on you crazy diamond!"

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    • When I said "provoke" I should have added "and foster" good replies. Fostering is even more important than provoking, since it might make the member more confident in addressing the question, my views, his views, and the topic and mood they are changing.

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  • Not for me. I suspect that with the right man, you might find that other forms of erotic pain are valuable.

  • We all have our own preferences and desires.
    Why do you feel it's a red flag?
    Hit me up to talk about it

  • Plenty of kinky guys out there who will be happy to give you what you need. And plenty who won't. You'll just have to ask for what you want. What sort of pain works for you?

  • No, but it would make me a bit concerned for your wellbeing.

  • nope. sounds like you are still experimenting with what truly works for you.

  • Let it out. That's the only way you can keep it going

  • Girls desiring to be overpowered is a recurring theme. Many like physical pain and being degraded.

  • Intriguing but s little strange

  • we each have different things that we need to orgasm, i have known ladies that need pain to get off, but they wanted to be used and abused very hard and rough. how do you find pain in easy and gentle. feel free to message me if you need

  • It's a bit weird... Maybe you just like big dicks?