Is it a turn-off for a guy to learn that his girlfriend had lots of group sex in the past and did things that she wouldn't repeat with him?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is not as experienced as I am. He had some exes, but he cannot imagine the kind and the amount of experiences I've had in my past. I've had very wild teenage and young years. For me sex used to be totally disconnected from feelings and I would do it with somebody just like I'd go to the movies, p. ex. I 've done almost everything, and with many people. Most men I know, I've had sex with someday in the past, with many of them in big or small group sex sessions, since a young age

[hbg84]

It would be a huge deal breaker for me. Especially if you weren't being slutty like that with me. I have a friend who was like you. Super slutty would have sex with any guy anywhere anytime. Now she won't even hardly have sex with her boyfriend.

If you're gonna be with someone you should be totally honest with him. So he can make a decision about whether he wants to be with you or not. If we were together and you told me right away when first started seeing each other I wouldn't be mad about. I would accept it and expect you to be that type of slutty with me. On the other hand if you kept it from me and told me after dating for awhile I'd probably leave you especially if you wasn't being slutty with me.

So yes tell him about your past and expect the worse. Cuz the longer you wait it's only going to get worse

[Asker]

I love him and I don't want to lose him. He is the greatest man I've ever met and he loves me more than anything. And I feel terrible that my past would destroy this relationship. But I understand what you say because I've thought that inversely and it would bother me if he had lied about his past and was a player instead of the gentle guy he seems to be

[hbg84]

It sounds like you know you need to tell him.

[Asker]

Yes, I do. I have to risk. But you know, I feel much more mature now than back then and I 'm afraid that I'll always be treated as a slut and through my past I'll be condemned to relate myself to guys like those with whom I was having this kind of lifestyle and I don't want it anymore

[hbg84]

All you can do is tell him and hope he is mature enough to accept you. Hopefully he doesn't start treating you differently. Which could happen. He could start treating you like an object. Take you whenever he wants.

[FilmGuy93]

I imagine that would probably turn most men off, yes.

[Hotwifebecky]

My hubby maybe different but it makes him hard when I tell him things I have done in the past. He gets rock hard. We even use it to role play

[PolkSallad]

Are you still in the game?

[Dargil]

Nope. Just an immediate deal breaker.

[Soldieronmission]

Do you want to know if it's a turn off or if you think he'll accept you if he knows your past.

If he doesn't accept who you are now, knowing you've changed and are not into that stuff anymore then the turn off question doesn't even matter.

Have you guys talked about it yet?

[LiamJHayden]

Just don't bring it up.

[In_Trance]

Absolutely it is

[Luckycharms12]

Yes big one

[brandon1122]

It depends on the guy. Better to be honest with him

[abc--123]

Id have no problem aslong as she was willing to do those things with me

[Anonymous]

for me it's a turn on

[Anonymous]

I would never be with someone like that. It's repulsive to me.