Guys, is it a turn off if your girlfriend’s a virgin?

I’m mainly talking to guys 25+. Most guys at this age have lost their virginity. I’m 25 and I haven’t. I don’t know if I’ll have sex yet, it depends on if I am comfortable with the person and actually believe they’re attracted to me. However if it happens, I’ve always wondered if it’s a turn off because I’m older and won’t have the same skills and experience as most women my age.
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  • PLEASE, never make your choices, for sex, or relationships, based on what people think about you! You know YOU, and what is important to you, and waiting, and wanting the "First Time" to be with someone you really love, and TRUST (You have to trust him!!) is SUPER-IMPORTANT!
    Never rush into it, and never let teasing, or what others say that they did, or whatever, affect your choice!
    I have been with two virgins, and each was a wonderful lady, and each needed a lot more time, and caring, and understanding, than others. That is NOT BAD, in ANY way, and both (years apart) helped to remind me that taking the time, and focusing on the relationship, and TRUST, and her comfort, is so important!!
    I was never one that had a lot of GFs, or loves, just average, really.
    Several times, both thought they were 'ready' but then weren't. TOTALLY OK!! We just had a nice dinner, and cuddled, watching a movie, or something else.
    Any guy that you want to be with, worth your time, will wait, and take the time, even if you think you might want to, but then don't, at the last minute.
    The guy that TRULY CARES about you, won't mind, and will NEVER try to coerce you into something you don't want, or aren't ready for.
    When you are ready, you will know, and take your time, and make sure he makes it a special experience! :)

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  • Yes and no, it means more effort to train you. Though it does mean I can direct that and have greater control over what to shape you into.

    Probably the biggest obstacle to overcome would be the fact that you don't even know your own desires before even getting into how to satisfy my own. Again, another bonus is never having to hear about or be compared to an ex-boyfriend. Even if it's in a positive way, it is annoying.

    For you though, the older you get, the more difficult that choice is going to be to make to have sex. Your options get more limited and are willing to put in less effort for that comfort. I'm going to jump out on a limb and guess you just graduated college or something and are starting to have time to start to explore this?

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  • If I already like someone her actual experience, or lack of it, matters very little to me. Of course I would be less prone to picking someone I know to be a virgin for a ONS or alike. Ultimately though it really isn't half as big a deal as people make it out to be. It can be special if it is made to be. A big deal if it is made to be. But in terms of practicality it just means you stay extra gentle, attentive and try to make it more memorable.

    Anyhow. Most guys won't mind. Among those that do it might be more common they view it as a positive.

  • Most guys don't have a problem if you're a virgin, but they MAY have a problem if you have a problem with sex. Guys may be concerned that you're asexual, that you might have been abused as a kid, that your libido is super low, or that you have a fear of sex. Those things could potentially be a problem, but not the virginity itself.

  • In 40+ years, I've encountered one virgin, and she was around your age- 22 and right out of college.

    She said more or less the same things that you're saying, "You'd rather be with a more experienced woman."

    No, I'd rather be with her.

    Honestly, don't over think this. Guys aren't going to care. What they should do is to be extremely gentle. When the time arrives, make sure you're with a guy that you like, and that you can trust.

  • No. The only turn off would be if she was promiscuous, or if she was a virgin because she didn't like sex (her not having experience is not a bad thing, in fact it can be good if she is comfortable with her sexuality (you get to explore it together, thats a good thing). Her being a virgin in and of itself is not a problem at all.

  • Most guys would not know.
    it would simply be your experience and if you told them.

    same if a girl who was not told them she was a virgin, they would not know.

    also depending where you are, chances are the guy might also be inexperienced.

  • No it´s a turn on for me because it shows me that you value so much that you´ve waited until now. I don´t like how modern culture treats and thinks about sex. It´s not about trying things out being intimately with another person in a way you´ll rarely be with anyone else.

  • It's a turn on, as it means that she is not a slut.

  • For me, kinda. Had my way with a couple virgins in my times and boy-oh-boy are they NOT fun.
    But I'm also a sucker for a cute girl being awkward about sex so I'd probably go for another one, even though I'd not be a fan.

  • Not a problem. There's a first time for everyone, and little skill is required. The most important thing is an open mind.

  • No, I don't see why it would be

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