Is it a turnoff for a girl to be a virgin in college?

I'm 18 and going to uni in a few days, I'm super excited about meeting new people and friends and the course of course. But I've had the same group of friends all my life who all know I'm a virgin, but of course there's no judgement there they just know me. I feel like when I meet my flatmates and we're playing never have I ever and stuff it's going to be really awkward that I'm probably the most inexperienced person there (the other girls I've met that I'll be living with are both in relationships and not virgins). So on the whole friend spectrum I feel like it will make me feel sort of out for it? I've even contemplated whether I should exaggerate about how far I've gone, which is pathetic lol.
I've never had a boyfriend, I've had a few situations where I could've had sex (not including like randomers on a night out) but it's never been right. I recently decided that I finally feel ready, but I've just stopped seeing a guy I liked because our personalities clashed and we're both introverted so he never would've made a move if we were together.
I'm not desperate or in a rush, I just feel like I'm going into the adult world and guys might not be into the whole 'virgin' shit. Like most of my friends are having one night stands, while I'm here taking it slow and hoping for the right person. I don't want to scare someone off.
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  • I think some people are turned off by virgins while others are turned on by virgins

  • i have a kot of respect when a girl stays a virgin... but lof course i want on that f***s haha

  • Lol we're in the same boat. I'm a virgin heading off to Uni too

    • woop woop! haha lord save us lol

    • I just don't take sex really lightly like most people our age.

    • mm I don't necessarily think there has to be a reason behind it either like a lot of people our age, like there's no due date for when it should happen it's the who that people should value most

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  • Hey hey hey! Don't ever think that okay? I'm in uni and I have never had a girlfriend or ever had sex before.

    This is partly because I am more introverted and can't approach a girl... and the girls always go for the badass guys and don't care about the good guys like me.

    I've accepted myself like this... and I feel proud that I am a virgin!

    I think when the appropriate time arrives... you can do it! There's nothing turnoff about it being a virgin!

  • Childish if any guy doesn't respect it.

  • Keep your virginity until after marriage. You will have a better marriage. Back when I used to go clubbing men valued female virgins. No matter what men tell you most men don't like whores.

  • Its never a turn off for a girl to be a virgin

  • Nope.

  • No, it's not really a turnoff. there's plenty of people who haven't had sex in college, so dont worry about it. Have fun, be safe. Just have sex when you're comfortable with someone and ready. You can always say no, so do it at your own pace.

  • No..

  • Nope a turn on

  • there is no right person, the magical first time is a lie, in all probability your first time will be inexperienced and it will feel painful and weird. Take someone with experience (love him or don't your choice)

    • I guess that's fine, the guy I was seeing I was physically attracted to him but I knew we would never be in a relationship because of his personality was just too dry for me, but even then I thought I would do stuff with him this summer until I realised he was shy and wasn't making much moves passed kissing (I think he was worried about me moving to college soon too). I get what you mean, I think as long as I trust the person then I think it will be fine I suppose haha.

    • yeah as long as there is trust ;)

  • Hell no. You should be a virgin until you're darn sure you are ready to not be a virgin. That is sexy.

  • Well if you give good head then you can remain a virgin for awhile but any man /boy is gonna expect a little action by the 3rd or 4 th dste

  • Well, I myself am one so for me, NO. But if you're THAT worried about it, just lie and say you've had sex.

    • Probably shouldn't lie. Especially women, because we can bleed our first times.

  • Nah you will be fine most guys may actually like that. Hold on. How will they even know your a virgin? You going to parade around in a hat and t shirt that says virgin on it

    • lol I was thinking more of guys I date or want to be with in that way... I mean I'd have to tell them beforehand if it happens, right? or they'll find out themselves lol I've never even put a tampon or anything in there like it's gonna be noticeable!

    • Oh you will be fine don't worry about it

  • i love virgin and love to break it.

  • You're absolutely fine.. there is nothing wrong being virgin.. wait for the right time and right person.. I'm 31 and still virigin, I don't have any regret for this

  • Thats hot. I would love to gave sex with a girl like you. A virgin feels so good

  • Personally i am not, i like the fact that you aren't, it makes it (at least seem) like you want ti wait for the one, and when someone has sex with you they should feel happy knowing you trust them enough and love then enough.

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