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Is it bad for a woman to be too sexually forward?

I am currently single and I would like to get into a relationship. I’m kind of rusty in the dating department though. I get a lot of male attention and I get asked out on a lot of dates. I’ve met three guys that I like, but I’m worried that they won’t take me seriously because I am pretty forward about sex. I don’t sleep around or anything like that. I’ve only ever had sex with 4 people and two of which were boyfriends and the other two were long term friends with benefits. It’s just that when I really like someone I also really want to have sex with them. But I don’t want them to look at me like some whore, or like I’m not relationship material. I’ve been really trying to restrain myself, I’ve only sexted with the first guy, I’ve only ever made out with the second, the third one has gone down on me but I stopped him from doing anything further. I just want them to respect me and see me as something worth loving and not just a walking vagina.
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  • *Most* (not all) men lose interest faster if it's given too quickly. I lose interest if there's anything but eagerness and smooth progression over some hours to a week because otherwise it seems like a lack of experience or a relationship/monogamy trap. I wouldn't try to force every man into relationship by withholding/playing hard-to-get/etc. Huge mistake. I leave because it's dishonest, needy, insecure game-playing. I've left a lot of women (about 2 dozen so far) for this because it was clear they felt *entitled* to a "relationship" *their way* more than they wanted something real and undefined with me that could turn into something else organically.

    OTOH: Experienced, attractive women (<26) are nearly always extremely open, friendly, comfortable, and forward with me... and often too fast for me. They almost always try moving-in something on the first overnight at my place or "forgetting" something. I usually have to slow them down and set the pace, because I'm not just a penis, wallet, free labor tool, social status upgrade, arm accessory, or lifestyle upgrade. Also, I'm never a therapist, emotional MaxiPad, or gay male friend because those are disrespectful, codependent modalities.

    If someone isn't interested in your dreams, goals, interests, likes/dislikes, story, and being part of a cooperative team... it's not love.

    Not all interactions with the opposite sex need to be about The One True Love Forever. Fucking is also okay. It's not my cup of tea, but it's healthy for lots of people who want that.

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  • Sweetheart, you OWN subconscious's choice of wording betrays you!
    I quote: "see me as something worth loving and not just a walking vagina."
    The KEY word is: 'someTHING' instead of 'someONE'

    Before you can get THEM to love you, you must FIRST get your own self-image to love You.
    As long as you subconsciously can only think of yourself as "an experience" for a Suitor
    if they're just there to 'scratch a transient lusty itch' they are casting themselves
    at best as another 'friend with benefits' although that 'friendship' is primarily just concupiscent ~

Most Helpful Girls

  • Girl, I am beyond sexually forward 🤣🤣🤣 I'm sure there are people out there who think I'm not "relationship material" or they label me a "whore" but what I've come to learn is their opinions mean nothing to me and in no way reflect who I really am. The people who matter will see you for who you are and love you no matter what. If you want to have sex with these guys that is entirely OK, if they choose to label you a certain that is completely on them. Do what makes you happy because in the end your happiness is the most important thing in the world. Be safe and have fun 😁

    • It’s never really been something I’ve been insecure about until recently. Hell my last relationship started as a friends with benefits situation and we ended up in a committed relationship for years. I guess just being newly single and having to make a fresh start on the dating scene is making me question myself.

    • Girl, I get it. It's always hard coming off a relationship. Don't overthink things and have a good time. Maybe don't think about relationships right now, just focus on yourself and have a good time 😁

  • you know the answers already... we have our fetishes and our likes... i can't stop from sucking cock and getting that cum in mouth love... i really can't stop from doing that and i know it hurts my relationships although i never told a man i do that... you just know your a filthy cocksucker and you feel about it... i really mean it... there are a group of girls on here that feel that way too... ironically they're all hot and beautiful so there's a correalation of cocksucking and being hot too.

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  • There is nothing wrong with being forward and it is ok to talk about sex after all. Just let them know what your expectations are... early in the relationship. It sounds like you can have some great orgasms with these guys... don't forget condoms!!

  • Not at all! It's 2021 not 1921!

  • Many guys won't like it, but there are some that prefer the forthcomingness and positive attitude towards sex. Continue to be forthcoming and watch the incompatible ones run. You'd be doing yourself a favor in the long run.

  • Let them take baby steps like high school dating. I suggest walking the bases through mutual oral.

  • I see nothing wrong with that.
    Maybe the guy feels the same way about you and is too shy to ask, or approach the subject.
    So you might miss out on something special.
    Myself, I was and still am horribly clueless about picking up on signals.
    Now if someone asks if you want to come over and have sex I will be there in a heart beat.
    Don't be afraid to ask someone for what you want.

  • I totally agree with you!

    • Those girls won't last. They want the thrill. And you are someone like that.

  • From my experience and at this point in my life I would say the quicker sex comes up the more likely I am going to categorize the relationship as something that probably won’t last and to not become too emotionally invested in it. But that may just be me.

  • Nope. Just don't be so aggressive that it makes people uncomfortable. Don't be afraid to respect the answer "no."

  • Nope. Tell him with you want. Especially if he or she does not figure it out on their own.

  • YOU have made yourself a walking vagina. Not them.
    Sexting is a giant fail.

    Start with choosing a really great guy and develop a meaningful relationship FIRST. The sex will come naturally.

    I find it amazing that young women these days don't even know how to date or develop a relationship with someone. Just fukkin amazing.

    • To be more specific, by sexting I meant that he sent me nude pictures and FaceTimed me while nude. I haven’t sent him anything or shown him anything. They are all great guys with good personalities. Guy #1 and I met on social media and we’ve been texting and face-timing for a month. Guy #2 and I met in a club like two months ago and we’ve been on like 7 dates. Guy #3 and I met a few weeks ago, but we talk everyday and we’ve been on two dates. The dating part has actually been going pretty well. I’m just not really sure which one I’d like to get serious with, and if so how to pursue that, and when is too soon for sex?

    • I recommend you date them all, simultaneously. Just don't tell them. I would take the time required to be able to discern which is the more desirable and compatible with YOU, and then the sex will come naturally. When you've had sufficient time with each, it will be much easier to decide. Until then, just get to know by spending quality time dating IRL - face to face. You cannot build a relationship with someone by texting. PERIOD.

  • No not at all, but dont get all offended when a guy is reluctant at the beginning.

  • Well you're acting like a walking vagina based on what you said, which is fine if that's what you want

    • I haven’t slept with any of them.

    • You did sexual things with each of them or the like.

    • They initiated all of them. I’ve actually been behaving pretty tame in my opinion.

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  • You sound like a nice girl and that's nice you aren't a whore.

  • It can be kind of exciting.

  • I think that’s good.

  • See your problem is that you have slept with 4 guys. Now any guy that you date finds that out and you don't sleep with them will be upset.

    • I don’t think that’s my problem.

  • Nah. No worse than men.

  • not a bad thing at all I love when a woman is straightforward and let's me know what she wants

  • I don't think it is wrong.

  • There's always "too much of a good thing". But your risk here isn't being seen as a slut, more likely being accused of sexual impropriety.

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