Is it bad if I like pleasuring myself more than sex with my husband?

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Plus i do not want anymore kids and he does.

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

sounds like friction so yes it's bad in that erosion of a drop of water can take a mountain down. It can destroy a marriage and trash those kids lives.

Something else is going on such that you don't want that, which is probably emotional. time to work on selfs... time to see therapist to start but do some exploring, writing, emotional work.

life gets harder sometimes before better because stuff gets stirred up, things change, etc.. this why marriages blow up... well, one reason.

AndyOh · Accepted Answer

For whatever reason, you are not sexually attracted to your husband, maybe a hormone thing. I feel for the guy, having had something similar happen to me. He is frustrated, and wonders why you don't want to have sex with him.
If you are not happy with him, then you need to have a good heart to heart talk with him. What happens after that will hopefully be the right path for both of you. Sex is important in a relationship, however it is.

SarahP080102 · Accepted Answer

No it isn't bad. Maybe it is time to find a new lover

Berethor · Answer

It's bad, though you kinda already did your duty if you have kids, but you likely have problems with keeping your husband satisfied with that mindset, plus your husband want more kids.

triff · Answer

No its not lWrong and I expect your husband would enjoy it You need to spice it up more play together prescribed Now thatz all I can say on the children

wankiam · Answer

is this about no longer wanting sex with your husband or do you think you just prefer masturbation generally?

MikeTheBartender · Answer

well this is a tough one, do you not have genuine desire for him? Are you thinking about that alpha Chad that you dated in high school or college rather than your husband? Or is it just a mechanical thing, I love being with my girl when I'm naked and stuff but I can honestly jerk myself off better than she can. But sex I will always take it with a woman rather than with my hand!

chriscdi · Answer

yea... bad for him 😂

Iron_Man · Answer

Thanks for sharing

AD240pCharlie · Answer

Not necessarily. Sometimes, masturbation is superior simply because you don't have to worry about the pleasure of someone else. You can just do what feels good to you.

Wise4myage · Answer

Its bad because unless he were to agree to this, then its bound to cause problems in your marriage and you have kids to think about.

mrArcher · Answer

It's not bad that you like pleasuring yourself, but it seems to me like there's a lack of communication between the two of you.

Valnac · Answer

No it’s not bad to masturbate, and the kids thing, maybe you both should get counseling.

viraak18 · Answer

It's not bad, hope he would like to do more foreplay and have you orgasm more (the way I like to do it). But always let him finish, if he's already edging have him finish on you or help him without sex.