Is it bad that I enjoy it when guys check out my body when I'm in a bikini? Is this especially bad since I'm married?

[Anonymous]

The primary reason why I wear a bikini is to get tan and because that's what you wear at the beach. With that being said I still do like the attention I get from wearing a bikini. I know I've got a really great body (especially for a woman in her 40s whose had 4 kids). When I walk down the beach in my bikini I get stared at by men everywhere. In all honesty I really like that. I find it super flattering. It does make me feel really good about myself and my body (especially since I'm 42 and have had 4 kids). I wouldn't ever actually do anything with any of these guys since I'm happily married, but the fact they like checking out my body so much does give me an ego boost I enjoy.

I never actually openly tell anyone this because I know it would make me look
arrogant/conceited and people wouldn't appreciate me saying that. In all honesty I sometimes feel a little conceited for thinking these things myself

Is it bad that I like the attention I get when I'm wearing a bikini? Is this especially bad since I'm married but still enjoy knowing other guys are checking me out?

[ohshee]

If you look good if you feel good if you have it beautiful energy Aura floating all around you if you have nice clothes on if you have Kiki clothes on it doesn't matter what you're wearing guys are going to look at you and says simple you could wear a cardboard box and if you have good energy guys are going to stare at you and just drill I think it's cool that you take care of yourself so guys will look at you there's nothing wrong with that if you got it and got it and if you don't we'll go get it I like looking at a well put together woman that's for sure

[Anonymous]

This is a common thing among older women especially single or married.
You want people especially men to find you attractive even though old and have kids.
It gives you an ego boost because sometimes maybe you think you are out of the DATING GAME.
HONESTLY THOSE KIND OF GUYS WILL GIVE YOU ATTENTION BUT LET THEM FIND WHO YOU ARE... THAT'S THE TIME THINGS CHANGES...

You have maintained yourself upto know thats very good... You have a HUSBAND THAT'S GREAT... THE EGO BOOST IS JUST A FANTASY... WILL YOU WEAR BIKINI EVERYTIME BECAUSE IT SEEMS THAT THE WAY YOU GET A LOT Of ATTENTION...
Anyway good luck..

[lucyloo76]

I find it great to be checked out. Guys looking at your ass when you bend over or looking down your front. I found it creepy at school now just part of life.

[Asker]

Well, I don't like it when guys check me out in a creepy way. I think there's a line between a certain way a guy checks you out that's flattering and another way that's really creepy

[lucyloo76]

I found this in school, the guys there were so pervy about it. But when I use to work in the office the guys did it, I felt quite flattered. Considering some of the dolls that worked there. I find it amasing that guys have this ability of stripping you with there eyes.

[lucas262]

Oh. But that would be objectifying women. And men are creeps for that. Women out here have no idea rhe messages men are getting out here.

[SarahP080102]

It definitely isn't bad, everyone wants to be noticed, looked at and felt desired. We all want to be wanted

[Asker]

I just feel kind of conceited and vain. I also know my husband doesn't really like all those guys checking me out. He ignores it and/or turns his other way (and I think it's because he's pretty sure nothing will come of it), but I know it does bother him (at least to the level of annoyance)

[SarahP080102]

Make him jealous.

[Stazz76]

If you want to be an exhibitionist WITH your husband, try omegling together.

[Katie1964]

Everyone appreciates some attention, nothing wrong with that.

[Asker]

But I do feel kind of bad because 1. I am married and I am enjoying the attention of other guys admiring my body in (what's honestly) a pretty sexual way 2. I do feel conceited and vain for enjoying the attention

[Red_Arrow]

As long as your husband is okay with that attention, then you are offending no one, and have every right to enjoy the sexual heat of the guys looking at your body. And you are not conceited for that.

[Katie1964]

@Red_Arrow Absolutely! As long as everyone is consenting adults, especially Hubby. No harm in that.

[Katie1964]

Well I am married and when we go to clothing optional locations, I know I enjoy the feeling of admiration I get from others there. Hubby does as well, we have talked about it and as long as you are open and honest with your spouse and they consent, no issues.

[Asker]

Well, he does consent (if you want to put it that way), but there are times I can tell he doesn't particularly like so many guys checking me out. However, I think he kind of just ignores it and just thinks nothing will come of it anyways.

[Katie1964]

My Hubby actually takes it as a complement that they are lusting over what he has free access to.

[Red_Arrow]

Nothing wrong at all with enjoying the attention. In your 40s and 4 kids and still maintaining a great body is something to be proud of. You do not look arrogant or conceited at all. You are just proud for maintaining your looks! And as long as your guy is not bothered by the attention, then you should enjoy the attention as much as you can. Flaunt it and let them check you out!

[spartan55]

I see nothing wrong with it, as long as you keep it to yourself.

[AndyOh]

Nope, nothing wrong with it.
If you got it, enjoy the attention.
Just like wearing a nice dress or top with a low cut front that shows your cleavage... you get a lot of attention.. enjoy it, love it, and have fun with it.
Good for you!

[The_Maphio]

As long as you don't go wandering off with someone else that isn't your partner (unless he's a cuck), the fact that you enjoy a complimenting stare or a sincere word of plause it's all but wrong.

[slatyb]

Not at all, I would enjoy it too if women were checking me out. But tanning is not a great idea. It leads to premature aging.

[Bricealan]

No, that is just normal behavior. Most women like the attention of men, married or not. Human nature.
If you look good in a bikini, enjoy it. Nothing is forever.

[LiamSawyer]

Mmmm.. I'd love to check you out in a bikini.

[0112358]

Nah. Enjoy it.

[HawkPerception]

NOt at all. It just means you like the attention you get. It's a confirming feeling. Just like I like it if girls check me out at a beach. As long as you're not cheating on your partner, you're in the green.

[Dargil]

Validation is never bad.

[exitseven]

You spend a lot of time and effort to maintain a fit body. You should show it off. It would be a damn shame not to.

[bowenw]

I think most people like to confirm they are attractive to the opposite sex even if they are in a relationship. A lot of guys tell their partners they look great regardless of the truth, so unbiased confirmation is beneficial.

[FilmGuy93]

Being married doesn't mean that you no longer want to feel desirable. Just make sure that you are careful not to step out.

[elizamichale1]

Not at all i think its natural

[Makeushiver]

The biggest erotic thrill for anyone is to be desirable, married, single. We get turned on when people we find a5tractive find us desirable. If you examine most fantasies the turn on about them is evoking an uncontrollable desire in someone we find attractive. I’m sure you look great in a bikini and even better out of one

[Browneye57]

Yes it's bad. It means you're desperate for attention and validation. AKA 'needy'.
If you're married, the question becomes... WHY?

[soe11]

Nothing wrong to do that.

[AmeerX]

Actually it is not bad and seriously people if people of opposite gender talk to each other married or unmarried it doesn't mean something's cooking

[LazyProphet]

Of course not, its perfectly normal to like attention, nothing wrong with being flattered that others think you are attractive.

[Jamie05rhs]

No, it's not necessarily bad. It's only bad if your husband gives you compliments and you reject them.

[kellytheman]

No it's not bad you like getting noticed by men and know you still got it in your 40s. I don't think your man wouldn't mind too much unless thetget to flirty or handsy. He be like yeah I hit that lol. Honestly no women or even man should not feel bad how they look and if it makes you feel good being noticed.

[Tunasub]

Its not bad. We all want to be noticed.. you're married not dead... being married doesn't end the the desire to be desired. Men go through that "I wonder if I still got it" phase. If you feel good about guys checking you out then so be it. You aren't commiting a crime.

[Wise4myage]

Of course its not bad, isn't that one of the reasons women wear bikinis in the first place? Id say its only bad if it leads to you cheating.

[Wise4myage]

I bet you're a hot looking MILF.

[TheFlak38]

slut alert

[Dchrls78104]

How many of the men you enjoy checking you out at the beach did you vow before God and scores of others, including your husband, to love, honour, and cherish as long as you both shall live?

[swettannie]

why would it be bad?

[Asker]

It's a bit conceited and vain. Also, I'm married but I enjoy (and honestly kind of encourage) other men (and some women) checking out my body.

[swettannie]

if you enjoy, do it !

[Wise4myage]

Its ok to feel those things and get an ego boost from them.

[COMMODOREII]

Hell no!! Strut it girl!! 😎

[jasco]

Well all women like attention as for you tho. It's only bad when your doing things for attention that you know your husband wouldn't like. However if your just walking around, men are bound to notice someone who looks good

[Unbeatable]

bad bitch

[JamieLoves]

Not bad at all! Who doesn’t want positive feedback that we’re attracting others !

[andy530]

No it’s not bad it just means you’re a bit of an exhibitionist and there is nothing wrong with that

[najekim]

Nope. More power to ya!

[Waldoe]

it is refreshing that you admit it... I think most women wear bikini's for that reason

[MACTEP]

perfectly normal.

[sidh69]

Every person likes to get attention and admiration

Don't see a problem in this part

[jeetmeep]

not at all

[JRRoberts]

Perfectly normal. I think we all like to be checked out, especially when we work hard on our body

[Open2It]

As the saying goes, 'Flaunt it if you got it!'

You're human and it feels good to be appreciated. You have an exhibitionist streak in you too and your outlet right now is a bikini. Have you ever secretly flashed in public... perhaps bending forward in front of a stranger while wearing a loose blouse and no bra, or a short skirt and no panties?

I think it's hot that you do...

[Harleyguy]

Nope. I think it’s normal. Most people like to be appreciated

[Ragnarocckk]

Sounds pretty good, I would love to do that too. Also as side note it is just normal to feel beautiful and sexy even if you are married.

[cndni80]

it's good

[kaspian]

I'm going to say no, it doesn't make you a bad person or conceited. It is giving you confidence, which is good for you. Nothing wrong with a little eye candy. And, it is nice to see someone that takes care of their body and is proud of it.

[Anonymous]

I dont think so as long as you don't act on it or overly try to get noticed. A little attention to feel beautiful isn't too bad.

[Anonymous]

Nope. Not at all.