Is it bad that I’ve only had sex twice with two different one night stands?

[Anonymous]

I’m 19. A I got a bit sad that I kept my virginity for so long I was really curious and was going through a lot of depression about turning in three months met a guy and hooked up. And then 3 weeks later I did the same again. I feel so disgusting for it and lame I told two of my friends from back at home (I stay at college campus) they didn’t even know I was a Virgin they were extremely shocked I only hooked up twice... like they found that shocking and weird. I guess hook up culture is popular in college

[Glenn603]

You have no reason to feel disgusted with yourself for losing your virginity through a one night stand and 19 isn`t old for losing it.
I can totally relate to what you`re saying and how you`re feeling. I was a lot older than you when i lost mine and i lost it at a swingers club. I felt ashamed and embarrassed that i`d never seen a girl naked let alone never had sex with one, and i could never tell anybody that i was still a virgin and i used to lie and say that i wasn`t one.
When i did get with somebody for the first time and we started doing things to each other i was so happy about it, i couldn`t believe it was actually happening, then the next day i got with a different girl and the same thing happened, again i felt great that i`d actually done it.
But afterwards i felt really ashamed about what i`d done and that i was no longer a virgin but the hardest thing was i couldn`t tell anyone about what had happened, although after a short time you don`t think anything else about it.
Don`t worry about anything, you have no reason to and just be happy that you`ve done it

[AustinMan]

You're caught between two cultural forces. One is how you were brought up that sex isn't something you do except with SOs which is straight out of the 50s. The other is the sexual freedom movement of the 60s and onward. I'd suggest you split the difference. You will find sex much more rewarding and meaningful with someone with whom you have a strong emotional connection. I never had casual sex after college and it's served me well. Another thing to consider is exploring your sexuality. Do you have any kinks, fetishes or other "different" preferences. I certainly do and I talk to my prospective partners about them in depth before we ever have sex together. I find that works extremely well.

I don't know if any on this is helpful but I hope it is. Godspeed!

[ZiZi_Bell]

It's not bad.
I honestly don't think you should feel disgusting. Sex is natural. It's fun, and it should help us feel better about ourselves. I have sex quite a bit, and honestly every time I have it it makes me feel powerful. Lol

That being said, if it makes you feel bad, just don't do it anymore. Everyone is wired differently, and if it's not your thing that's completely valid. Just know that the act in and of itself is not bad, and I personally don't think you're disgusting or wrong or bad for doing it. In fact I respect you for just saying screw it and going for it. People put a lot of weight behind sex, and I feel it holds them back.

[simonqq]

Why would it be bad? Don't put yourself down for something like that and I was virgin until 20, we all have sex the first time at different ages and it really does not matter when it happened.

[Berethor]

Yea it's bad. You lost your virginity to only one of them, and you should waited until marriage.

[Gavilar1]

Least ur not a 24 year old virgin. No it's not bad aslong as you felt it was your time

[wondering_guy]

It's not bad at all, you shouldn't be disgustes with yourself, you are the one that chose to do it and if it was good then cool

[OutdoorsForLife]

Yes, you need more experience

[poneglyphs]

I don't know, I'm virgin and never hookup with anyone in college before.

[joeldalton]

No, but it's not good for your emotional health to keep having them.

[Tztop2006]

It’s not bad hooking up is just fine as long as you are safe about it. Enjoy your sexuality and learn what you enjoy

[jimmy2]

No its not bad dear

[Anonymous]

Not bad at all. Was shitty sex, wasn't it? Well, that is what ONS tend to be. It is the same for many guys. I would have skipped on most of my ONS had I known before how bad the sex would be. It took me an embarrassing amount of mistakes to wisen up on that. Some guys use ONS to boost their self-confidence. As a woman, you could probably flirt with guys, date some without having sex straight away and finally pick one who really cares, who is tender and whom you feel very comfortable with so that you can relax during sex. For your confidence just tease them, enjoy their attention, watch them fighting for your attention, send them home... XD
You are young. Sex with you should be valuable for men. Don't let sex be "extorted" from you for little pleasure in return, be it by other peoples judgement or ideas about when you should have had how much sex... play your own game. You are the desireable women, you set the rules!

[Anonymous]

Well did the guys fuck your pussy well? Were you dripping all over them?