Is it bad to reveal my sexual desires to the man I love/ I have a crush on?

[passenger]

I have a crush on this guy. So, is it bad to reveal my sexual desires to him?

[Cynicaldreamer]

That entirely depends on: if it's single or not, and if he's interested in you or not.

If you reveal that to him and the feeling isn't mutual, or he isn't attracted to him, he might not see it as flattering. He might avoid you or look at you differently.

... yeah, sorry to burst your bubble; just being honest with you and what might happen.

Since he's a crush, I take it he doesn't even know that you like him. Start there. Ask him how he feels about you. If there seems to be a spark there? Then maybe ease into telling him more over time.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

If he is just a crush and not a long-time partner, I would keep those fantasies & desires to yourself. It is not a good idea to tell about them because then your crush might get the wrong idea of what you want from them. Especially if you also have romantic feelings & attraction towards them.

[Lliam]

It's not bad at all. Go for it. But be tactful.

What you might want to do, though, is see if he is interested in meeting you for a date at a bar or restaurant or someplace. If you met under such circumstances, it would give both of you a chance let your hair down and get acquainted. See where he's coming from. At that point, you could confess your fantasies about him.

I've had girls from work ask if I wanted to see their new apartment or drive their new car as a way of getting me alone.

[Lionman95]

No but it could come off bad if you just tell him sexual desires and your sexual fantasies since it could give the feeling that you´re just looking for sex.
To be fair for many guys that´s not a problem but if you talk to a guy who´s looking for someone to settle down with it could come off bad.

[MrNameless]

I agree with Cynicaldreamer. I wouldn't even think about revealing this, unless he is single, and you know he is interested in you as well.

[TheorionMage]

How ELSE is he supposed to 'please' you?
...Is he supposed to guess by trial & error?
Do YOU REALLY WANT to endure him fumbling by trial & error?

[Flower7]

This would be bad without knowing how he already feels about you. He might use you for sex, even if overall, he’s not interested in you.

[Berethor]

I think that guys tend to be more accepting to it then girls, most guys are very sexual.

[Reece12345]

How could that be bad? But unless you're after a one-night stand, I would just be sure that he really likes you as a person.

[BrightBubblyKat]

It’s a bit inappropriate. You don’t want to come across as horny and easy. Be misinterpreted as horny and easy. Better to just tell him you’d like to be his girlfriend or start off as friends and flirt with him.

[slatyb]

Are you dating? Why not? Have you asked him? Wait until the first or second data.

[Summeroflove]

Not if all you want is sex.

[Dargil]

To me, it depends how well you know him. Neither of you can be married to anyone else. It's a single crush.

[Fireguy17]

it might pique his interest, so I would go with know.
he might just love one of your kinks/fetishes.

[misogynistic_pig]

Yes.

[mstbooblover]

Very difficult to answer such a question without knowing both involved persons, nor the circumstances. If I was the man a woman loved, yes, you can be sure I'd love her to tell me her sexual desires ! That's the best way to know each other, and a real proof of confidence, at least if from my side I was allowed to do the same with the woman involved.

[Crafteroon]

Revealing something is a good way to gauge interest, but spilling too much can make the relationship too sexual or even off-putting. If you ever end up dating for real, reveal more then.

[RealMarek]

Maybe make sure he reciprocates your interest and have some dates with him first, just to be on the safe side.

[RavVid]

Well you may have a crush and sexual desire but at this point you don't know much about him. If you do reveal your sexual desires than you can expect him to take you up on them.

If your virginity is involved it may not be as you might want.

It depends on where you are as to whether it is bad or good. After the reveal I'd just be expecting you to be having sex. Up to you to assess.

[Charlesbrandonf]

No reveal the best way you can. Don’t worry about being perfect in tell him. It’s okay. Just make yourself comfortable and let him know.

[bowenw]

I wouldn't lead with that unless you're just wanting a fling. I don't see a problem discussing it after you get to know a guy better.

[Ninania]

Are you dating the guy? Otherwise, sexual desire should not be your go-to approach.

[call_me_scar]

Nope go for it one of my female friends talked to me about how she likes being choked

[Justneedtokno]

For myself, No, if have established a relationship with them. If I’ve never spoken to them before I wouldn’t