Is it better to be a Fuckboy or a Slut?

[Anonymous]

[Missgingles]

Fuckboy. Because men are glorified when they have slept with a lot of women and women are looked down on.

Most women will settle down with a man that has slept with 20 women. But most men would not settle down with a woman who has slept with 20 men. :)

[SiberFox]

Can you elaborate on as to why that is?

[Missgingles]

@SiberFox well women and men value different things. Also because it dates back to the primal era

[SiberFox]

That's just dodging the answer. It is like you said, but why is it that way? Why is it that men who can seduce many women are better seen than women who can seduce many men? Keep in mind that both the womanizer and the slut are seen poorly.

[Missgingles]

@SiberFox no because women see men that can get women as on top and men that can't get women in the bottom of the piké beca when that can get women are more confident and good to be a husband.. we women even call other women who sleep with any man sluts, beca if you marry a slut she will sleep around in her husbands name. Look irs evolution and its like this women no matter what majority even me want someone that can attract other women sexually Because then if I get him i got the best where as with women you just won't be taken seriously if you slept with too many men because you are easy. ..

[SiberFox]

So... men must put in effort to attract women, they have to be ressourcefull, they have to work for it. Whereas women don't have to put in much effort, if at all, to attract men. Men work for it. Women don't.

[Asker]

@missgingles "women see men that can get women as on top and men that can't get women in the bottom" So you think a fuckboy is a good thing? Is that what you're telling us?

[Missgingles]

@SiberFox not really. Both men and women need to make them self attractive with hygien, staying in shape, outfits, haircut, women wearing makeup etc. But 99% of the time it's the man that needs to get the girl. So all that work is most of the time the mans job. Most women would never ask a man out even if they liked him. Because in their mind he would have asked her out already if he liked her.:)

[Missgingles]

No I dont wanna settle down with a fuckboy, specifically. I just dont care if he has slept with 5 or 50 women as long as he is ready to be a husband when I meet him. I'd prefer him to have been with 10 women over 0 women but both are fine. Also I've only dated one man in the past and I'm not dating any man unless its for the future.

[SiberFox]

You're on the cusp of understanding, but you seem to willingly prevent yourself from doing so. Women stand at the finish line and pick the winners. Men need to win in order to get a woman. Women win the social hierarchy by being a woman.

[Missgingles]

@SiberFox yes I know its 99% of the mans job to get the woman. Thats why an avarage looking woman will have more options than a man who is 10/10

[Asker]

@missgingles So you're telling me that my virgin, decent looking friend who is pre-med and has stayed on the straight and narrow his whole life is a loser in the eyes of females compared to any random man who has slept with many women but who is now looking to settle down?

[Missgingles]

Its just one aspect. Its not all. But yes most women would rather go for a man with exeprince. And I would never call anyone a looser.

[Asker]

@SiberFox I believe it is culture. Each culture has a set way of thinking. Even when it is damaging, it can take generations for it to be tampered off. That is often because people don't change and so the new generations are the ones that are actually different because they were taught to be different from the start. That's my take on it. I personally don't believe it is some innate thing to dislike women who have slept with many guys nor do I believe innately that a man who has slept with many is a better man then the one who has slept with less or none. I believe that is all paradigm/culture.

[Missgingles]

I see well agree to disagree!:)

[Asker]

Yeah. It was a good convo though. Different. I'd love to hear more girls on the topic though. The part for me that just doesn't make sense from my male perspective is: How can one be more valued due to body count. Now if one had said the fuckboy is valued more because of the qualities he has, that lead to him being with many women, then that would make sense to me. More charming and such. The cause makes sense but the effect being the measurement makes no sense to me. Like a girl who can get many guys vs a girl who can't. The girl who can get them clearly has qualities that are more valued. Whether she has been with more guys or not is not the measurement I would go by. It is her qualities that is the measurement. The bigger question is, is this just your outlook on the world. People of the same gender rarely all agree with one another exclusively. Which would make it belief thing and not science. Where as, what I'm saying about culture is science.

[Missgingles]

I see how you think. I mean its from evolution. Its how we work. But would really like to see what other woman say too!

[Asker]

I'd post a question on it but I'm all out and I don't think many people would comment on it seeing as I'm a blue account with less than 5 subs. I read something about it earlier but it said umm it said basically women find men surrounded or with another woman more attractive; however it said it was because of the tendency that people have to not do their own thinking and copy one another. Which is literally what I said about culture... It's basically reading a book by it's cover or generalizing. I think it can be true but not because of the cover.

[Asker]

I think @lazerbean doesn't agree with you. So that is one.

[YollyM]

Nothing is better especially if you end up with kids you didn't plan for, it's even worse for them. You multiply your chances of getting STD's and STI's of which some of them are chronic etc. And personally I don't imagine that a healthy minded person would be happy living like that with no underlying issues regardless of their gender.

[Berethor]

You mean what is worse? sluts are worse, because a woman is like a lock.

[LazerBean]

Same thing

[Asker]

@lazerbean What do you think? Do you agree with Missgingles's comments below her comments? Do you think men who slept with more women are valued higher (in the eyes of women) than men who sleep with less or none? Like my friend is a virgin, he is pre-med, good guy, just not focused on women at this point in his life. Do you think women view another man higher solely on the fact that that other man has slept with more women? @missgingles is basically saying, from what I understand, that a fuckboy that is ready to settle down and commitment is seen as more valuable to women than my friend would be solely because he is a virgin. I'd need to hear many women all agree on this before it would convince me. Because basically what it would be saying is go out there and be a fuckboy and that will make you more desirable. A fuckboy may be more attractive to women than my friend (who is decent looking in my opinion) but I don't think it is because of his body count.

[LazerBean]

I look down sluts of both genders, they are no different from eachother.

[Asker]

Okay so you don't agree with @missgingles that a man with higher body count is more valuable. Then do you agree with me that men look down on women because of cultural reasons and they also cheer on fuckboys because of culture (way of thinking) as well?

[LazerBean]

Yes I do agree that it's cultural, which is why I'm proud to be a part of a community that looks down on sluts without discriminating genders

[AsaKyo]

It's better to be neither

[maximumpower]

Less to lose