Is it common to hug naked with your boyfriend and him not be hard?

We’ve been together 7 years and sometimes when we hug naked to just go to sleep etc he won’t be hard. Is this normal? Or is he not into me anymore? There’s times we’re both naked and he doesn’t get hard if we are just hugging or talking

He mostly gets semi from touching and kissing then hard from doing more things but depending on how long it’s been less makes him harder.

Should he get semi-hard every time he sees me naked or is hugging me naked?
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  • It's perfectly normal. I have been with my fiance for 5 years and I'm a toucher so there are times when I just lay in bed and play with him while we are watching a movie and there are times when he doesn't get even remotely hard. Or like.. taking a shower together where he will just hold me naked under the water. Sometimes he gets hard but not often enough to mention, you know? And trust me, it's completely normal. My fiance is literally obsessed with me and tells me how much he loves me every 5 minutes and he still doesn't get hard every time I touch him lol He is still in to you girl. I know insecurities are a bitch sometimes but try not to think too much on it.

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  • Look… If you said you’ve been together for seven days or seven weeks I’d have to say that it was very strange that you would be hugging naked in bed and he wouldn’t be hard, but after seven years? No, that is perfectly normal. Seven years is a long time to program your brain. A guy gets hard when he is sexually aroused, and if sleeping naked is something that’s common for you, then he (and his libido) knows that just because you’re hugging him naked, that does not mean you want sex. So why would he possibly become sexually aroused after seven years of experience, KNOWING that hugging naked does not equal sex?

    • I agree!!

    • @Jamie05rhs Thanks Jamie, I really appreciate you giving your input! It is really nice hearing a guy confirm what I believed to be true about guys. I wish there were more guys on here who did nice things like that!

    • @CrazyGirl No problem at all! :)

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  • Yes it is normal it depends upon the man. Depends upon his hereditary disposition. He starts having erectile dysfunctions. If you've been with your boyfriend for 7 years and he doesn't get erected used to you. If you have siblings do your brothers have erections every time they hug you? I'd say not because you're part of the family that you don't do things like that.

  • SMH. This is probably your fault. You probably were like, "NO, babe! I don't want to have sex right now. (Even though we're naked.). I just want to CUDDLE!!"
    So you psychologically and physiologically trained him to contain himself in those situations.

    • Thanks for the MHO.

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  • I think a better question is to ask yourself if you’re always horny and turned on when you see him naked and hug?

  • totally normal babe. a guy can appreciate you naked without being hard. besides... guys don't have an unlimited supply of whatever chemical it is in their blood that gives them erections. when they run out, no matter how aroused they are, they can't get hard. in fact- that's why viagra is blue- because viagra is a commercially produced version of the same chemical, and in concentrated form it looks blue.

    so- it's best if your man saves it up for when he's actually about to rearrange your insides.

  • He's not going to get a hard-on just seeing your naked or hugging you naked. It's going to depend on where his big head is. Is he tired from work, are you talking about something other than sex, is it late at night, is he drunk, is he pre-occupied with an issue.

    Do you get wet every time you see him nude?

  • That’s very normal. We are not hard all the time

  • If you're around each other naked as often as many people in a 7 year relationship are, that's perfectly normal. Nudity doesn't always mean sex. And physical affection doesn't always mean sex.

  • after 7 years he might not be, i've never been with anyone this long

  • An erection is not a fool proof positive for his undying affection for you. Let the organ have some down time. You’re most likely loved.

  • You understand that it's not a mechanical device, right? You can't just flip a switch and it gets hard. Stop making everything about you.

  • my husband doesn't get hard just because we are naked in bed and hugging or spooning. Guys don't stay hard just because they are naked or see a naked all the time.

  • Yes that's very normal, I'm actually surprised that he gets hard from hugging. I don't know if I've ever gotten hard from a hug. Takes more stimulation than that to get me hard

  • Normal...

  • It is totally possible. Can be nice to just hug and cuddle when naked.

  • Have you talked to him first before going online and asking the internet?

  • a dick isn't mechanical spring. that will sproing up as soon as a naked woman comes within range of them xD

  • If he switched on his mind then get hard.

    All about mind.

  • Every dude is different and I can only speak for me that when I hug naked, I get semi hard or hard. I don't think it's a problem for you guys unless he's just not getting hard during sex, then he might have ED.

  • It's really hard, hell I still get hard when we hug wearing clothes

  • Quite normal.

  • Sometimes he just wants to get comfortable and sleep. Nothing abnormal about this.

    • Even at only 25?

    • Absolutely

  • yes that's ok some of us know how to control

    • Even at 25?

    • yes! it's not age.. i ask you do you get a wet pussy when hugging him would his tool just slid in with ant help , girls have control much early than us boys

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