Is it considered BDSM if my boyfriend wants to bend me over his knees and spank me?

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tinkerth3 · Accepted Answer

BDSM, in this case, i guess no, it's not complete picture of BDSM, it's just the outer surface u are talking about, only the fruits hanging on the tree, u are talking about,
the root is trust , caring, faith, consent about when u have to say no, and ur no will be respected without even asking any question or doubt, it's more about touching the pleasure point thats intersaction of pain to pleasure ( the higher point of pleasure is equal to pain, some may doubt it, but those are interconnected at the peak point) this is a very thin line U have to choose, need to be done with care and not to harm ur partner.

UnknownReflection · Accepted Answer

In my opinion; it's more likely just [Spanking] not necessarily BDSM.

BDSM is a combination of moves as well as creating a certain atmosphere rising the heat of dominance and submissiveness.

Spanking; hair pulling; biting; groping and so on. These acts alone can't be categorized as BDSM.

fauchelevent · Accepted Answer

It’s a part of BDSM but it’s on the lighter, more vanilla side

hsshannah96 · Accepted Answer

I have had this done. Did not like it. not sure what it is

BinaryPurple · Answer

BDSM means “Bondage Domination Sadism Masochism” (or any variation of that) and I would assume that bending over his lap and being spanked counts as “domination”, so I would say that it’s “light BDSM”