Is it gay if I have sex with transgenders bc Women never give me a chance?

Im 33. Ripped. Healthy. Charismatic. Funny. Intelligent. Creative. Disciplined. I’m 5’11 above average but not rich or 6ft tall. I work as a freelance videographer, previously was a successful manager of a major shipping facility. I’ve approached women all over the USA and never got a number or date in my life. I’ve tried dating apps and if I even get a match, sometimes 3-5 if I use it for 6 months, they never want to meet and just stop responding. I haven’t had sex in years and I’ve done no fap which makes my dk rage after 3 months. Im always more focused and productive if I do fap. But I need sex. I need it. No women like me or give me the time of day. What should I do? I’ve been considering fking a trans bc they treat me like im human, a Man and are sexually expressive towards me. I love pssy I love the female body their booty lips the magnetism between the sexes but none want to Fk me. I have a pretty big Dk as women before have said 10 years ago when I was able to have sex. What do I do? I’m not gay or bi. Just super horny and women don’t understand or care or desire me.
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  • Dude, I was a freelance videographer, and the way you describe it, I'd look like a fat sack of crap standing next to you - but I can still get laid. Yes, it takes me some effort and, no, I don't have my pick of the litter like a celebrity, but it doesn't mean getting girls is impossible. If I can do it - and I can - it's got to be even easier for you unless you are doing a few things tragically wrong.

    I don't know you or anything about you that isn't in this post, but I'd guess that you are projecting yourself as a low-value man in a number of ways that women can easily pick up on - and that's working against you. I got a surprising amount of interest when I was doing videography - it's an interesting job to many people.

    Anyway, I would say: forget dating apps. If you aren't in the top 10% of guys, dating apps are a waste of your time. It's SO easy for women to swipe left and send you straight to the pit of hell, never to be heard from again, that you should spend zero time on that. Instead, find a girl - a girl with some style - and get her - pay her if you have to - to go to the mall and help you find some better clothes. Dress a notch better than is the norm for whatever you are doing or wherever you are going. Always be the best-dressed guy in the room or the restaurant or the party. That doesn't mean that you wear a tuxedo to the beach, but if you are going to a backyard party, and everyone is wearing shorts and T-shirts, you should be in a casual button-down shirt. If everyone is wearing business casual (polo shirts and chinos), you should be wearing a casual dress shirt and tie.

    You also need to figure out a hobby - something that you can demonstrate that women will be at least somewhat interested in. Maybe you can draw. Maybe you can play an instrument. Maybe you like to work on cars, or fix up your back yard by building decks and pergolas. SOMETHING. You need to have something you are good at, knowledgeable about, and passionate about, because THAT is attractive to women. You probably want to avoid more arcane or geeky things - though there ARE girls who are into SciFi or video games or Anime and you might connect with one of those girls if that's what you're into.

    You could also find (even pay) a girl to be a wingman for you. If women see you out with an attractive woman, even as just friends, you will be instantly much more valuable and interesting in her eyes. If girls see you laughing and having a good time together with that girl, they're going to feel more comfortable around you too. Women REALLY value the "stamp of approval" from another woman.

    I'm not trying to TELL you what to do - you can do what you want - but I can't see a straight guy being reduced to sleeping with other men (even if they're dressed as women) when a woman is what you really want. I just feel like you either don't understand women at all, have been given a lot of bad advice, or you're REALLY awkward and weird and just didn't mention it (and I suspect the latter isn't the case). All of those things can be fixed - if you want to know more, let me know.

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  • yes its gay because you still see them as men. if you actually thought that they had gender dysphoria or something like that you wouldn't be asking this stupid question. you would be dating one and happy.

    you state that you are "Ripped. Healthy. Charismatic. Funny. Intelligent. Creative. Disciplined. I’m 5’11 above average" then you must be able to get a lady, unless...
    - you dont talk to them nicely and just ask for sex (ain't going to work)
    - get friend zoned by not dropping the right hints
    - your not as ripped as you think (unless you mean you ripped your geans trying to put them on haha)
    - have an unrealistic view of what lady you aim for e. g. want a supper model or 10 years younger.
    - socially inept
    at the end of the day nearly every guy (no correction every guy i know) can pull a lady. you must be doing something incredibly wrong.

    i used to be on the dating websites and got lots of responses. ok some i didn't want to meet, some couldnt string a sentence together. but i met lots and lots of ladies. i didn't sleep with all of them, not by a long shot. but unless they are total sluts, they dont sleep with you on the first date.

    to have sex you need to put time and effort in to it. some take more, some take less, but they all take time and effort, thats the one thing i can guarantee.
    what sort of things do you say to these ladies that gets you such a bad response and makes them dislike you so much?

    if all you want is sex, which reading the statement above seems to indicate, which may be why you haven't had much luck, as most ladies want a relationship and to feel wanted and not used like a piece of meat. try going to a prostitute...

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  • Have you ever tried to date women from nearby cities or towns? Would you date a woman from another state?

    I've never had sex before, sometimes I crave it so I can imagine how you feel. If you have sex with a transgender woman that doesn't make you gay. She identifies as a woman and she probably had a gender reassignment surgery.

    • I’ve tried other states or long distance but it’s the same. Seems like all women want the same type of guy, famous, rapper, millionaire, 6ft or above, says the right thing all the time etc. Imagine you try everything you know and everything everyone recommends and you get no where. Appreciate your comment😉

    • I know what you mean. I don't care about any of these things, but I see that it's important for some women. You'll find someone I'm sure. :) No problem. ;)

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  • Sounds like it to me…Just because you put a dress 👗 on Pork 🐖 doesn’t transform it to steak 🥩..,

  • Yes.

  • I'm surprised you hang out with trans people and just refer to them as "transgenders" not even specify trans man or woman. But look if you think they're men and you're only fucking with them because cis women don't want you, then I would just not do it. You want a woman go after women. Don't go after people you don't actually want that's not really fair to either parties.

    You say you've never gotten a date, but you have had sex, just not in the past years? If that's the case maybe however you got sex before can be done again, even if you don't get a relationship if you just need sex that would still help.

    • I’ve never hung out with transgenders it’s always my match on tinder or if I’m walking in the city they are the only ones who look. I’ve gone after women for 3 years straight with nothing but rude comments and them trying to use me bc I’m friendly. I had sex bc I was with high school lover for 8 years. Never dated.

    • *secret admirer on tinder

    • Damn you got 8 years lover? That's more than all mine combined! Sorry it didn't work out that must've sucked to end. Well i stand by the first part I don't think you should go after a trans woman just because you can't get a cis one. But if you actually see them as a viable option then I guess I'm curious why haven't you gone for one before if you've matched with them? Is it just fear of the unknown or what others will think or something?

  • Well it ain’t straight…

  • Nah it’s not gay if they have all the body parts of a woman

  • If you enjoy it it's gay, or more specifically bi. If you don't enjoy it, maybe not settle?

  • Yes don’t do it it has a dick

    • How do I get pssy? 🥴

    • Meet a woman a trans man can't give you pussy

  • Yes, it’s gay.

  • Yes l those are guys

  • no. but you have a poor view of them.

  • What a retarded question. Gay means happy and yes faggot it is homosexual

  • since most trans-people are stuck someplace in the middle between the 2 genders. you'd likely be bi or gay if you found them attractive and/or slept with them.

    that being said I've known some rather convincing looking trans-women. who behaver and dress in a more feminine manner then some of natural born women I've know.

    since they would have a decent idea of what a man might like for a relationship and/or sexual partner. provided they made it to late teens or early 20s before they switched over that is.

    however until their able to safely transplant reproductive parts/organs from one sex to the other or grow/clone new working ones to install into a trans-people most won't be able to fully convert over.

  • Dating apps are trash unless you know how to use em. If you just want sex and nothing else it’s easy. Trying to find an actual date is what’s hard…look just post a pic of your ripped abs close up, have no shame, and hard flirt with these girls right off the bat. All you need is one reply and you can ask her if she wants to hook up.

  • Nice excuse. I almost believed you weren’t into pre-op trans women.

    • No excuses. Tried and try everything non stop. But as a woman I don’t expect you to understand being any woman can have sex with any caliber of man whenever she wants. Surprised your self esteem is still low trying to insult me. 🤔

  • It's gay.