Is it hard for a guy to sexually satisfy a girl who had sex with many guys before him? Is it a big competetion there?

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  • It depends. Different women are after different things. Some are jaded and love being drilled by above average-sized cocks. But many women want other things from men like love, respect, honesty, loyalty, tenderness, and passion.

    Just because a woman has been with other men doesn't mean that she is sexually demanding.

    I had quite a few girlfriends in my life. None of them were virgins before we met. But they loved me. And, as far as sex, I'm not quite 6", but they loved my cock and were more than satisfied.

    I met one lady when I was 36. It turned out that she was 30. She was adorable.

    I discovered that she had been sexually abused on a continual basis for over ten years from early childhood by her step father. It drove her to alcoholism. She got married and had a son when she was 17. They got divorced and she gave custody to her ex because she was messed up. She moved to California but she and her son visited on holidays and summer vacation and they remained very close.

    She was hypersexual and orgasmic. I'm sure that was a result of her abuse as a child. Because of that, her alcoholism and self loathing, I'm sure she had quite a few sexual partners in her 20s.

    But she kicked alcohol, enrolled in therapy, got a career, and was working hard to survive and be normal.

    When I met her, she was smart as a whip, sweet, funny, tender, and living on her own. We got along immediately. I soon fell in love with her and she loved me. She is the first woman I ever loved with my heart and soul. She was honest, loyal and totally monogamous. She was perfect.

    I kept my apartment but lived at her house for over a year. Went on vacations and did a lot of fun things together. It was idyllic.

    Sexually, I satisfied her completely and she made me feel like a sexual god. Her entire body was sensitive and erogenous and she taught me about the erogenous nature of my own body. Interestingly, she wasn't all that interested in cunnilingus. She loved fucking most of all.

    We eventually separated for reasons that are complicated but had nothing to do with cheating or anything mean. A good part of it was my fault. I didn't understand the miscommunication. I think part of it stemmed from the fact that she couldn't completely trust men and was afraid of abandonment. She thought men just wanted to use her. But I didn't figure that out until years later.

    She moved back to Colorado to be near her son and mother. She never remarried.

    Anyway, my point is, sex isn't a dick competition for most women. It has more to do with communication, connection, trust, wanting to please each other, being playful and passionate, and learning what works for your partner.

Most Helpful Guy

  • What are you striving for? A reputation? A relationship? Mutual pleasure? If you're wanting a reputation, then it's a competition. You need it read her body language like a pro. You will have to give her mind blowing foreplay and orgasms. So wonderful that she'll be talking about you to all her friends. For a relationship, there is more involved than just sex. It needs an emotional connection, personality match, similar sex activities. For a hookup, be good at foreplay and last longer than a few minutes, long enough for her to enjoy it.

Most Helpful Girls

  • If you have a good size I don’t think so.
    She’s masturbated b4 multiple times too. Probably since teenager like me. And I did it with GLASS stuff. Glass isn’t soft. I found that 6inches plus, it can be better than glass.
    So.. just be sure that you have given other girls BIG Os before getting with her. If you know you make other girls loose their minds in bed.
    I think you’re good. Don’t matter how many guys she had previously. Because even if she had 2 guys before you. She was still having sex with them a plethora of times. And that’s if you don’t even know if she secretly cheated on them or not.

    I just know that if a woman is sexually frustrated or you don’t give her orgasms. She will turn to toys. And there’s a higher chance of cheating from her.

  • Some guys know what they are doing, some don't. It has nothing to do with competition.

    • yes, but still one guy is going to be better than another , what if you would want the higher sex level?

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  • Take things slow and build up to more intense sensations. Start with light touches, kissing, and caressing, then gradually add in different kinds of stimulation like vibrators or anal play. Experimenting with different kinds of pleasure and allowing her to explore what she likes can help you both achieve satisfaction. In the climax grab her bazookas like you're hanging off the edge of a cliff.

  • Apparently not. At least from my experience.

  • No, it's not. After I divorced and started dating, I learned that the competition isn't all that strong. Women told me I was the best, and I didn't think I was anything special. What magic thing did I do? I paid attention to them instead of just banging away. Seemed like the most natural thing but apparently most men don't.

  • Well if you pay attention and learn how to do things then it won't be an issue. Learn how to give a girl a good orgasms or 10 before you even think of cuming

  • No. Probably easier, actually, as she is likely to be less inhibited and more open to showing the guy what she likes.

  • no not a all, if she's sleeping with you there's an obvious sexual attraction

  • It's a competition if you're running train

  • I've never had a problem.