Guys, Is it just time to say I tried and walk away with my head high?

I’m 38. My boyfriend of almost 2 years, is 43. I love this man. I work full time, have 2 kids, keep house for him, feed him, etc.. he pulls his weight by making the house and electric payments ( he makes almost twice my income).. I by no means am perfect.. I get moody and emotional sometimes.. This may sound immature but sometimes (most times) I feel like a light switch/china doll.. I go to work.. teach high school chemistry.. come home.. no hug no kiss no I miss you no how was your day.. he’s hungry.. so I cook/pick up something.. he sits on his phone or tablet.. then around 9.. I know it’s coming.. he’ll squeeze my breast like a clown nose.. he gets mad if I don’t have sex with him every day or at least twice a day.. he says that’s why guys get prostate cancer from not using it enough. Like he won’t speak to me if I say no.. as in he’ll completely ignore me.. he usually ignores me the next day too until he’s horny.. boob squeeze again.. If I try to tell him.. I love having with sex you but I need someone that not only tells me I’m sexy but show me I’m sexy in order tonfeel sexy.. he gets very defensive and says it’s my fault.. I don’t ride him or suck his dick.. I didn’t know that’s how it worked.. he doesn’t ever go down on me.. in the few times he has he’s not even using his mouth but his beard.. so why should I? I’ve found myself not interested in sex, like it’s a chore, I usually fake my orgasm and deal with it later.. I know for woman sex and affection are different than guys but I don’t think I’m asking too much for the man that says he cares about me to tell me so and treat me so.. I shouldn’t ever have to tell a man how to treat a woman!! He says I have an amazing life, he’s great to me, and I shouldn’t have any complaints.. I know communication is key but I already know that approaching subject.. it’ll be my fault because of x, y, and z.. he’ll get mad and leave.. he’ll come back like nothing was said.. I’m just at a point, not sure?
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  • I'm sorry but I couldn't read any more after you said you come home from work, he's supposed to be looking after the house yet you have to cook as WELL?
    I'd be too embarrassed to allow my g/f to have to do all of that.. Has he no pride in himself? Tell him to get off his lazy arse and go do some work!!!
    Sorry I overstepped.. I apologise... and now I'll go read the rest of it!!!

    • Oh hell no... Is it time to leave? The time to leave was the FIRST time he tried to treat you as a skivvy,. Nobody is going to think you wrong for walking

    • He works too but not like a regular job.. when he has projects and he gets it done.. but yes, I buy, cook, and clean after, everyday for him and his son.. I personally think he’s bipolar but I know he’ll never admit to it

    • Bipolar? It sounds to me like you're making excuses for him, as if he has reason to act that way. How old is his son?

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  • So he makes sure y’all got a roof and money for food and I’m assuming bills and stuff too, and you take care of the house and cook and stuff on top of being a teacher. He basically ignores you except for sex but besides that he doesn’t treat you badly at all? I don't know if I personally would leave honestly. Not having to worry about the financials is a very big plus to me

    • I get that. I pay for all of our food. Last month 1200$.

    • You only put money towards food? He takes care of everything else?

    • Also I would think if someone cares about you they would want to tell you and show you. If I say I love you and get ok back as an answer.. when you leave and don’t even say your leaving.. if everything is the other person’s fault.. to initiate sex all you do is grope my breast and expect me to want to go down on you and do all the work.. if I don’t I get ignored.. that’s treating someone badly.

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  • I wouldn't put up with that if my partner was like that, I don't see why you should either. Sounds like a good time to move on while you still have some dignity.

  • Yes it is

  • You need to Spiele thivgs up- sounds like the relationship has gone stale