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Is it me or my vagina is just too tight for penetration?

I'm a virgin and really petite. Whenever i get turned on, I mastrubate but I only use 1 finger. But today I tried using a toy and I couldn't get it in and it hurt me a lot. Now I'm worried I won't be able to enjoy sex. Im saving myself for my LDR boyfriend and I never put 2 fingers in because I want him to do it for me. But now im very worried, what if he can't get put it in and it just too painful for me. I want to enjoy my first time too..

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  • There is a condition which causes involuntary tension, which prohibits penetration. For the life of me, I can’t remember the name of the condition, right now. But, the way around this is completely psychological. There’s nothing physically wrong with you. You just need to relax more. Put on some relaxing mood music. Spend quite a bit of time. Exploring erogenous zones on your body before you work your way down. it is a learned response, so keep doing this until you find it easy to penetrate. I wish you the best of luck!

  • Your vagina is tight. It’s just how it’s for some woman. If you’re wondering why let’s understand not everyone every woman, have same kind and size of lips on their face too.


    Not every man have same and kind of penis too. Everybody is made of same but with little differences in shape, size, strength, ability and Many more comes to this.

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  • Stay a Virgin so you will have high Wifey Value.

    • Not gonna lose my virginity... and kind of aborting the idea of toys. Today I realized I could be properly aroused only by MY MAN. Going solo without his presence is a waste of time.. Just need him on voice/video call

    • Finding a phone lover should not be to difficult but don't be giving out credit card. I am assuming you are over 18, right.

  • Guess you just answered your Own Question! You are VIRGIN, that means ur hymen is soo closed that will break on penetration. You need to get aroused more. Don't try Toys as that can tear it appart, and then if your boyfriend wants you virgin, is no chance to give him that Honour, so its up to you, how you want it to be first time.
    You can try fingers, as they can be retracted pretty fast in case you go too deep.

    • I’m going to have to call BS on that one. Regardless of what toy a woman puts in her self, she is still a virgin until such time as she is penetrated by a male partner. You cannot deflower your self personally. It takes a partner.

    • @mrmonogamous Thank you so much for telling this to people

    • www.plannedparenthood.org/.../virginity

      Check this one out, sound like word to word of what u said mr @mrmonogamous

  • I'm confused, you've tried penetrating with a toy but won't use 2 fingers? As for penetration problems there's two possibilities, either your not as aroused as you think or there's a medical problem.

    • well.. i wasn't aroused that much while trying the toy, i was really nervous. Maybe thats it

  • Don't rush it. as others have said use some lube. Get yourself off first by masturbation.. just go slow and keep exploring with your fingers and the toy

  • It has more to do with vaginismus than with being petite.

  • Make sure you are sufficiently wet before trying insertion. Use plenty of water-based lube as needed.

  • You’re probably not aroused and relaxed enough when using the toy. If you tense up and are not wet enough it will hurt.

  • Well you have to take more time to warm yourself up. Maybe use some lube and bigger toys.

  • Ignore the people saying use lube, vaginas make their own lube.

    it's normal to start out tight, if y. aren't relaxed, nothing will fit. Women who tense up enough can even push out a guy's penis after it's entered. It's meant to be that strong when tensing so it can push out a baby.

  • it's like doing the splits. some people can just do it right away, some need training. vaginas aren't rubber bands that need to be worn out xD they're muscles that need training to become flexible.

  • Use lube and relax.

  • it will open up as you use it more and the cock will open it slowly if you say to the boy slowly please...
    good luck

  • A penis will probably hurt because your hymen will break m. Yet the entire sex shouldn't hurt and as you have it more often it should hurt less each time until it doesn't hurt at all. My sister said that sex hurt for the first 4 times she had it and then didn't hurt anymore. My girlfriend never felt pain at all, but I was already able to fist her before we had sex.

    • I’m so tired of hearing about a hymen being proof of virginity. The overwhelming number of girls or young women have already had their hymen broken long before having sex. Have you ever heard of a tampon? Simply inserting one of those will do it. Horseback riding, motorcycle riding, jogging, gymnastics, just about any form of strenuous physical exercise will do it. a hymen is not proof of virginity.

    • @mrmonogamous Not saying it is, but if it hurts to insert 2 fingers, or it's impossible to the likliehood is that the hymen is still intact.

  • If u are arpused enough, a LOT will fit. U are not aroused enough u are afraid: this is ur problem.

  • Nice

    • You can rub it from outside without goinng in.

  • Please see uro.

    • May be a gynec?

  • Not whatever you want to put in will fit just use plenty of lube

  • Well I can’t answer that for obvious reasons

  • Did you start off slow and use lube? Since you are a virgin it wouldn’t be used to any penetration and would take time to get used to it

  • Don't use finger or sex toy, keep it for your lover, he will deal you sexually very carefully, I will guide him, how to have pleasurable sex with virgin

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