Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health When I used to hook up once in a while back in college I felt it was more intimate to make them orgasm. In high school and today I feel the opposite (though except for one failed attempt I never really hooked up in high school).
What do you think?
Is it more intimate to make someone else orgasm or let them make you orgasm?
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17 62more intimate to make them orgasm
I felt the same way in college
I always like making my former girlfriend orgasm
It's more of a satisfaction to make my wife cum while getting licked/fingered at least 3 to 4 times. Feels a settisfaction of "giving".
But then I "take" by either fucking her half dozed face or jerk to a facial or cum on her hair.
Yuck lol. Especially the hair thing.
Hon... if i do it right and push your buttons correctly, you will just lay there and not care whatever I do to you. Orgams-overdoze. :P
Hmmm...
really its both for me. as it means she is opened up to me enough to let me get her there and i am opened up enough to her to let her know what all it takes to get me there.
I think it's a great question. I think it's certainly more personal for women as it requires being vulnerable but I think that's the turn on, getting your lover off long and hard and ss many times as possible. That's something masturbation can't touch, the thrill of getting someone else off
I think it’s intimate so allow
someone to make you organism.
Agreed
I love always pleasuring me man in every I can. I just feel it’s more intimate to make me cum it’s more of a n emotional thing for me
Definitely!
I think try to make the other partner orgasm is more intimate. But problem is guys can reach organism earlier if girl tries to help him and leaving the girl without organism.
I always have and still do make it a point to make her cum first. Sometimes just once, sometimes until she needs a break from cumming and just wants to go to sleep so she pulls me up so I can fuck her and then let her rest.
So, making her cum is the intimate part... when it's my turn she's getting fucked hard until I cum.
Now you think it's more intimate to let them make you orgasm?
Or you think it's more intimate to not make them orgasm? And only focus on cuddling or edging or something like that?
More intimate to let them make me orgasm
Out of curiosity, why is it an either or? Why not both?
Good point 😊. Tbh now that I’ve grown out of my hookup phase I consider both to be very intimate. Just wondered which people thought was more so (I think letting them make me cum is).
Well, if you change the word from intimate to romantic my intuition is to say it's more romantic to let the girl orgasm because it takes more work and effort for him. Plus, he has to hold off on his own pleasure satisfaction in order to satisfy her. And there's a beauty in that. But if done with the other person for the purpose of connecting with them, I think either orgasm can be incredibly intimate
Thank you. You make a very good point.
To make someone.
I used to feel that way
I've never came before.
It’s probably my fault since I don’t let him do oral or touch me since it hurts maybe I should tell him to touch me?
Guide him. Show him how you like to touch yourself. Especially your clit.
Do guys enjoy doing that? I guess I’m being too shy. I don’t know lol should I just tell him I want you to touch me? 😂
They love doing it! And yes 😊. Show him exactly how you like it.
We'll take all the help we can get, girls are really cute when they o
We love doing it!
@pink_and_inlove that's excellent advice from @Gwenhwyfar tell him to touch your clitoris & vagina with his fingers or even with his tongue, sensually and in a way that feels sexually pleasurable to you
I think it's more intimate when both partners make eachother cum. There's more pleasure when giving and receiving. 😊
Agreed 😊
The last 4 girls I've been with I haven't worried about me. I've been too focused on making sure that they had fun. I have fun making my partner enjoy themselves. Don't get me wrong, I can be selfish too. I try to operate on a 3:1 ratio, I figure given the effort involved on both sides that's fair...
Both
I think it's more intimate to make her orgasm.
Why don't you believe it's as intimate to make you cum? Better yet, why don't you both cum
Lol. Both of us cumming is just fine with me. But I say it's more intimate making her cum because it shows that I care about her and I'm touching her gently and erotically to make her feel good. There's no better thing in the world than that.
What if she doesn't like to be touched gently?
It's not more intimate for you to make her cum. You have no clue how erotic and intimate it can be for her to make you cum. It's in how it's done and what precedent you've both set.
True intimacy is when you are both in harmony. Not just one person taking over
Then I'll touch her however she wants to be touched.
Well, you are right that I have no idea! Since I'm a virgin. Haha
"True intimacy is when you are both in harmony. Not just one person taking over". I don't disagree with that. You're right!
Why are you a virgin?
Because I'm waiting for marriage. I have been since I was 12 and I decided to do it that way.
Wild...
Why haven't you gotten married yet?
Probably because I was sheltered as a child so I didn't get out much and I didn't have a lot of social interaction. So I never really learned how to interact with girls. I'm really, really shy, and I almost never talk to women at all. I've always WANTED to get married; I just don't know how to get a girlfriend.
You speak to me just fine. Really well actually
I too am/was really sheltered but going away to college really helped a lot with that
A lot.
Oh- thank you! (That's probably because we're on the internet, though.) Nice. That's awesome.
Just do what you do on here but in person
Lol yeah, I know. But it's harder when they're standing right in front of you.
Also, you can be more open when talking about things online. If you were in person, it would be considered "inappropriate."
I know but it's all a mental game. Pass that mental block and you'll thrive. It's pretty silly that you haven't had sex at your age. Pretty soon you'll be in your 40s and your knees won't work the same. Heck, I'm in my 20s and my bones hate me. It's sillier that you haven't been in a meaningful relationship. You need to do what's uncomfortable and take the first step to meet somebody. Your personality is pretty incredible all you gotta do is show it to someone in person
Okay. Fair points all around, I do admit. Thanks for the compliment. :)
You're welcome.
Also, I wouldn't recommend that the first convo you have with a girl be about orgasms... Just not a good look. But I don't feel like it's inappropriate to talk about people's desires. It's informative.
Lmao. Trust me; I would never do that.
Why not? There are certain cases where it would be relevant.
[Surprised and curious look.]. Like what?
I don't know about you but I have friends who openly talk about sex. So if we were in a restaurant chit chatting and you walked in and hopped in the convo and liked a person in the group, that may very well be the first convo you have with them. Or a game of truth or dare, charades, 21 questions... So many ones pertaining to a game. Being in flight, watching a movie with a sex scene in and y'all talk about the inaccuracies. At the club listening to a song that says "pop your pussy like this" you could ask them how they'd like their pussy popped? I don't know there are a few scenarios
Wait, wait, wait. So let me get this right. Some girls can be talking about sex and you're saying I can just butt in and make a comment? I thought that would be incredibly rude. Lol
And LOL. I need to go to more game nights, apparently.
I wouldn't even know what was inaccurate in a sex scene. Lol
"At the club listening to a song that says "pop your pussy like this" you could ask them how they'd like their pussy popped?". What? [Jaw dropped, aghast.] Lmao. I don't even know what to say to that. (But I don't even go to clubs, though.)
Why would it be rude to join an open conversation? by the way, my friends are about equal part girls to guys. You do. Game nights are amazing 😍 Don't you watch amateur porn? It'll give you a good enough understanding. As well as just talking to friends and people who've actually done it. Yes, yes you can. Just gotta have that swagger and confidence. Go to one after Rona. You might like it
Oh. Well, maybe if it was mixed company that might be different. I would probably still not butt in. I'd probably be too shy if it was an "adult" topic. Yes, I've seen it. But I don't judge people's performances. It's all beautiful love to me. Lol. You're funny.
Thank you. Voice your opinions! People want them to be heard. I'm honestly starring to suspect that all this shy boy nonsense is just a facade. Trust me, most of it isn't love. Half of it isn't beautiful and the rest... Heaven only knows
Okay What? Why do you say that? LOL. ok ok
Because you really really don't seem shy
Because, like I said, it's the internet. :)-
I know but I've met boys who were shy and reserved even across the internet
Well, different people approach the internet differently, I guess. I think it depends on the site, though. I guarantee you I would not be saying all the stuff I say on here on LinkedIn!!
True dat
It's great when you can do both...
I think it's VERY Intimate to bring Her the Orgasm ❤️
Receiving one feels Great, but Her's is what I Desire.
I like making her orgasm. That is intimate to me. Knowing i can provide to her that special time. But i love it when she does it for me too. Its a mutual intimacy we have together that matters and what it means to have a sexual erotic experience together.
I think it is great to get your female partner to orgasm as it takes them longer where a guy at times have to admit are easier to get aroused :)
Make me cum! Women only orgasm when the guy their with is the pinnacle of everything in her mind. With that typed, I find much more intimacy in foreplay.
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