Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Is it my fault that my “girlfriend” cheated on me?
Anonymous
My “girlfriend“ cheated on me; I put it in quotation because we’ve never had sex. I have been dating her for about a year. I’m very slow at initiating physical contact. I know some guys say that you should have sex as soon as possible before you end up in the friend zone. I’m pretty shy and in my relationships, I have always done dinner dates, hiking, wine tasting for a couple months and then proceed to sex. So, the first couple months, I didn’t push the sex thing; of course, if she wanted sex then I would definitely proceed for sex. I just wanted to make her feel comfortable with me. I was planning on pushing for sex soon but then Covid happened. During the lockdown, I found out that she had been having sex with her ex for awhile. I felt so impotent because I couldn’t even confront her about it. We talked recently and I told her that I knew she had been sleeping with her ex and she confessed that it was true. She said she did it because she wanted sex and that she felt that I didn’t want sex because I wasn’t saying anything about it. At this point, I’m not really mad about the cheating, I’m just whatever and I even told her that she should just go back with guy, they have a daughter together. She says that she wants to be with me and that she only did it because she wanted sex and it seemed like I didn’t.
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What Girls & Guys Said
11 23Nope, it's 100% her fault
A year?
No. I don't know her but based on what you described she sounds like a terrible person. If she wanted to have sex with you she should have asked you or tried to initiate it and see how you would have reacted. I hope you find a better girl that won't waste your time.
She's a bitch, she could of initiated sex, doesn't always have to be the guy
lol should've tried for sex mate instead of trying for the friend zone. The man is supposed to push for sex and the woman is supposed to slow you down if she's uncomfortable
You didn't tap it, so she found it elsewhere. Of course, that's no excuse.
Shit can her.
Unfortunately in her mind , Yes. You have to understand she's not right, but you'll never convince her of that. In her mind she doesn't turn you on. Women are really difficult when it comes to this pay to much physical attention to them and in their mind all you care about is their body. Pay too little attention physically to them and it's because you have no interest in them.
No. Not your fault.
that doesn’t mean you did all the right things. There was a problem you contributed to, but the person who was most aware of the issue made no attempt to communicate it before cheating.
that said communication may not have fixed things. She probably should have just broken up with you.
If she thought you didn’t want to have sex-she shouldn’t asked you about it. Having sex with ur ex is a DEFINITE red sign and she’s probably not serious about you. Also if she didn’t initiate sex with you that’s HER problem and she’s probably not sexually attracted to you so this relationship if def gonna fall apart. you did good tho u deserve someone better