Is It Normal For A Life Coach/Friend To Ask You To Cum For Him?

Serious question... I'm extremely confused by this behavior... I think I just got manipulated but I just wanted to double check... Honest feedback please...
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Updated Question: 1. Is It Normal/Common For A Friend/Life Coach Who Is NOT Romantically Interested... To Ask/Order You To Send Intimate/Sexy Photos In Lingerie? 2. Should I Warn Other Females On This Site About This Predator? Or is he essentially harmless? *I fear for young girls who don't have the mental capacity to break mind control techniques... He has the gift of persuasion... It's a extremely rare gift... And he uses it to dominate young girls and make them blindly submissive...
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I'll be honest this whole mess I got myself into reminded me of the movie "Get Out"... I'm glad I never visited because he totally invited me... I'm trying to find humor in the fact that I "got out" of that situation and besides my emotions I am totally fine... So it's time for me to suck it up and move on... Please enjoy this clip... My life gets crazyyyyyy
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=sRfnevzM9kQ
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  • Obviously, that is NOT normal and NOT okay. That's not what "just a friend" does, much less someone holding themselves out as a "life coach" (though, to be real, that's mostly a bullshit occupation anyway, so I don't really expect professionalism).

    The guy is clearly using his alleged status to manipulate girls into satisfying his own interests using obvious deception - and will make already-vulnerable women feel even worse. I would NOT call that harmless.

    • This was literally exactly what I needed to hear... Thanks for the validation and for leaving me details... I was being ignorant because I was sad and lonely... I jumped at the opportunity to get help... I mean that's exactly why I am on the site... For my friends and to get help will all my silly questions... I have NEVER met anyone like him before... He is literally the MOST intelligent person I've ever met... He's charming and the best listener I've EVER encountered... He studied me... I stopped commenting on questions because he was following my opinions and then coming to my DM to tell me why I shouldn't talk to certain people or why I should not have a certain opinion... Then in the same breath he explains what he wants in a wife and then started trying to mold me... Then explains that he was NEVER romantically interested in me and he doesn't know why I would assume he was... He wouldn't leave me alone... Even when I tried to put distance he insisted that I needed him in my life... And overtime I started believing it... Sorry for the rant... He's got my head all fucked up... He's all I think about and I blocked him on every social media app that he asked me to add him too... But I can't get him out of my head... He fucked with the wires and I can't even think straight... I am paranoid like crazy and preparing myself for some sort of retaliation because I blocked out his mind control... Damn...

    • He was very much grooming you. Abusers - whether sexual predators, cult recruiters, or scam artists, are very good at picking up on the traits of vulnerable people, and become very skilled at manipulating them, and one of the first things they do is try to separate you from anyone who is likely to know what they're doing or to help you. They poison your mind against the people who care about you, so they can slide in as their replacement. Thank goodness you are smart and strong enough to question them and seek help, because such people are VERY dangerous and don't care even a tiny bit if they hurt you - they just want what they want.

    • This was fucking Fantastic sorry for my sailor mouth but bloody brilliant 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 I am glad that I have such supportive friends on this app... It gave me the power to walk away... Like when I asked him why he would request my sexy photos or even accept them if he was simply JUST my life coach? His response... It was wrong and I am truly sorry... Please say you forgive me... I instantly forgave him... Told him I no longer wanted any help he could give... He wanted to make it right so we could just be friends... And I declined that too... He wants to be in my life... Not with me... But as my puppeteer... I'm a free woman... No one controls me anymore...

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  • They are there in the capacity to further your growth and development in life and all the situations that arise and also show how to apply yourself in handling, understanding and executing that which needs to be done and to be confident in all your transactions in life. It sounds as manipulation is in the air and depending on your gullibility or naiveness to certain situations you are being taken advantage of unless you initiated this behavior or manipulated the situation to justify your means which I seriously doubt. You are your own best advocate. Ax you grow and learn you will be able to decipher which is right and which is wrong. Be safd and stay aware and vigilant.

    • I will be more vigilant going forward... Thanks for the feedback

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  • Something I learned as a key in the past is whenever I asked myself "is it normal --" etc immediately applies that most of the time that it is NOT normal at all. I am sorry you have to encounter that type of interaction and situation. It is very uncomfortable and odd. This friend or life coach is crossing boundaries, and you don't want anyone to take advantage of you if you are not going to consent. Protect yourself, and remember it is okay to say "no" !

    • Thank you... It feels like a lot of boundaries were crossed... He apologized for asking for intimate photos... But I don't think an apology covers it... He should have NEVER asked...

    • Oh man 😰 I’m so sorry girl you have to be in that situation... I agreed with you, do your best to not be involved with this person in any way... he sounds like a major creep if you guys aren’t even talking talking with interest, dating, or any type of romance. Buy a pepper spray for your safety. Don’t be alone with him if you guys have any mutual friends, be in a group setting.

  • Is he a friend only, or a friend and a personal life coach? If this guy is a genuine and educated "life coach" of yours, he should not be manipulating his clients in any sexual manner for his benifits! A HARD NO! Don't let a guy regardless of his credentials lure you in and fool you by being nice and becoming your "friend".

    • I understand!!! It's definitely not happening again... Fool me once...💖 Thanks for the helpful feedback

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  • Probably not. If you did it thinking it was part of the life coaching then yeah you have been played with.

    • Thanks for the feedback

  • No... Does he really have the gift of persuasion or some are really easily tricked?

    • Thanks for the feedback

  • This is in no way normal. Its creepy. If this is a true life coach you should report him. If a friend you need to set boundaries and maybe reconsider your friendship. This is disrespectful and possibly a dangerous red flag.

    • I think it is dangerous too... Anyone THAT Charismatic and charming should be kept FAR away... He was showing red flags the entire time but I chose to ignore it because I wanted his help... I believed he was actually helping me... So I was naive... Thanks for taking the time to comment with real feedback... I appreciate you. 🎀

  • He's not a good friend or Life Coach.

    • I know 😢😔

  • Yeah that dosent seem right, that is not coaching you into a better person, he was "coaching" you to not question men and blindly do what ever they ask. inwas gonna say forget everything he fix to manipulate you but actually dont, silver lining now you know first hand manipulation tricks, everything he did is a red flag for any other men moving forward. I'm sorry that happened to you, really sucks when you find out trust and faith was miss placed.

    • Yes... He admitted that he was "training me" the entire time he's been talking to me... And that's bdsm related so it probably doesn't make sense... But I specifically told him I didn't want training from anyone who wasn't my Dom... He pushed past my boundaries even though he said he wouldn't and trained me to be EXACTLY what you said... Obedient and to not question male authority... Specifically his authority... He was saying that submission is a gift and how much he would love to be with a girl like me... He asked me to TRUST him will ALL my vulnerabilities... And I blindly followed... You are completely right 1000% thanks for the feedback

  • Not particularly normal. Depends on the dynamic in full I 'spose on whether it's okay, but from the sound of your response to it, sounds like whatever he did is predatory and not correct.

    • He offered to help me become a better woman... Appointed himself as my life coach... Offered his services to me... How is me sending him photos in lingerie supposed to achieve that? He was a manipulator and a liar... Thanks for the feedback 🎀

  • Well depending on what life coaching he does with you and has he showed signs of showing personal feeling that may affect the life coaching lessons?

    • Yes he has shown me he was romantically interested all the way up until I asked him straight out... I pushed away his advances and tried to keep him in the friendzone... He busted out like the freaking hulk and made a place for himself in my life... It was like slow torture... And at the end he accuses me of asking him to be my life coach... When that's not what happened... I didn't even know what a life coach was until he brought it up and kept saying if I had one I feel better... And he was the only one around and said he would help me... I offered to pay for his services what I would pay for my therapist... 250+ a session... He assured me that he didn't want my money he wants to do this for me for free... But it wasn't free... And he didn't do it for me... He did it for his on selfish needs but it's okay he apologized I guess 😔

    • Well it's not, 🤔 I really don't feel comfortable asking what happened in this session cause I don't know if you will feel comfortable but if whatever happened was not ethical then he should have stopped. Of course only if you didn't start it.

  • If he's your life coach, therapist, psychologist, psychiatrist, etc. then yes it can be. There is a reason it's unhealthy because they take advantage of your vulnerabilities. But the question really is how do you feel about it?

    • My feelings are hurt...

    • Remember, your feelings matter too. Do you know what your next step is?

    • No I honestly don't... I feel weak and sad... It feels like no one wants to truly be my friend... They always want something from me... And when I don't instantly obey then they retaliate... I just hope he doesn't retaliate against me... I'm sick of seeing posts bashing me by grown men with big egos and probably small penises...

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  • Friend and life coach are two separate things friend more acceptable than a life coach but both people are still very strange to be asking someone to cum for them... I would feel for life coach that's an ethics breach and for a friend that's pushing the boundaries of friendship a little too far...

    • Thanks for the insight

    • I'm not sure everyone would feel that way but that's what I think

    • And you are welcome

  • Not in the slightest unless he is coaching your sex life.

    • He was coaching EVERY aspect of my life without me even asking him to... Like he even made it point to "help grow my boobs" he sent me links of what clothes I should buy... What Underwear I should get and model for him... How he was going to make sure I was making my breasts bigger because that's what he wants on his wife... Small body and extremely large boobs... He was obsessed with it... Almost every conversation was about my breasts at some point... I thought all these things meant he was romantically interested so I played along after a while... And my emotions started getting involved because I was misunderstanding his cruel intentions...

    • Sounds like he was trying to groom you. Good riddance, a real life coach has boundaries.

    • I completely agree 1000% it's just that he's in my head... Like I can hear his voice in my head telling me what I should and shouldn't do... I blocked him but my brain is not coping... The wires are all crossed... I feel bad for blocking him because he helped me in the beginning... But I understand he crossed my boundaries... And he manipulated the situation to suite his needs at the time which is selfish... But I feel like I need him... Not romantically... But the need to go to him is so strong... I'm definitely NOT... I'm crazy but even though I'm psychotic I know when I've met my match... He's got a dark passenger with him... And he's dangerous...

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  • Well if he asks to watch that's another cup of tea, but asking you to get off? I mean that might make sense if you were sexually frustrated and spending a lot of time entertaining that frustration.

    • I am sexually frustrated and he knows that... He took advantage of the situation...

    • Just read your updates, that is totally wrong and manipulative. That would fall into the creepy other cup of tea I was talking about. It's like a therapist taking advantage of their clients, totally unethical.

    • That makes sense!!! Thanks for you help

  • ... What? He mind controlled you into sending sexy pics and masturbating?

    • Is that what i said? Nope don't think so... Try again...

  • He should lose his imaginary license.

    • I totally agree

  • Wtf you better fire him/report him

    • I just blocked him... My feelings aren't a game...

  • Oh no, that's far beyond normal. You were manipulated. I'm so sorry. Get rid of his ass immediately

    • Warn other girls. Too many are not mentally strong enough to say no. Saying from experience

    • Thanks so much for the kind words!!! I'll make sure he doesn't do this to other girls... Because this happens to 16 yr olds but they send ACTUAL nudes with their faces in it and that how they control you... I'm not dumb but he thought was and I let him believe I was so I could figure him out... And I did!!! Go me!!!

    • He's a predator... A wolf in sheep's clothing...

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  • Well, I suppose it could happen hard to say

    • Not sure what you're responding to but thanks

    • @secret6620 You're welcome

  • No, unless he's your friend... With Benefits. Else he's kind of weird

    • He was supposed to be my friend... But slowly but surely that changed... He insisted on coaching me... Then started obsessing about making my boobs bigger... I ignored it and wrote it off as enthusiasm to help... But then he started asking me to send intimate photos insisting it would help me... Reassuring me he has no romantic interests whatsoever... That I was safe... I followed willingly and that's on me... But aside from me just being stupid I do feel manipulated... I feel like the whole situation was manipulated honestly...

    • "as enthusiasm to help" come now. Our experience with sex hungry guys here on GAG should have taught you better 😂

    • I'm sorry to hear that though :( if there are more things like this and you have the slightest moment of doubt just hit me up, I'm not just here to write my random lazy answers

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  • I am sure he broke the law. 99.9999% certain. How to prove it in court is another story. I would not go back and report it wherever I could.

    • Thanks for the feedback 🎀 I really appreciate it 😢

    • Your welcome... I would not ask that of anyone who I didn't have that kind of relationship with.

    • Check with state laws with recording a conversation with out his knowledge and sue his pants off and if he has a wife and kids the divorce judge will not take kindly to him.

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  • Gurl... wtf

    • Yeah I'm an idiot 🤦

    • He was waiting for you to let your guard down... don't call yourself that hunni

    • Well I did and I am a fool... Lesson learned... He admitted that he's been "training" me bdsm related... Which also crossed my boundaries because I specifically stated I didn't want that... It's like he was trying to morph me into something but it definitely wasn't the BEST version of myself... He helped me but he helped himself just a little bit more... And I fell for it... ooooooo 😯🙈 I fucking fell for it... He's definitely smart and charismatic... But he made me smarter if anything...

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  • Life coach? What?
    So a friend asked you to come for him? If yes, ok.. This is something new. Sounds a bit weird but manipulative no

    • He was being my life coach at the time... He told me what I should do but he wanted to know the details and he wanted me to tell him when I was close... I told him when I was close and that's what he responded "cum for me"... And then he asked for me to do it three more times and in the middle he wanted me to send pictures and videos... But when I asked if his behaviors was because he was romantically interested... He almost seem revolted by the idea... He said I wasn't his type and he holds no romantic feelings towards me whatsoever and he's not sure why I would think he does... He said he NEVER mislead me but also apologized when I brought up the fact that... If he wasn't romantically interested and he was JUST my life coach... Then he's been overstepping by asking and commanding me to do things for him with no intentions of a relationship... He quickly agreed and begged for forgiveness... But how can someone be sooooooo smart and charming and not know he was taking advantage of me? It's like my feelings were a game to him

    • Saying he is not into u but get aroused by your pictures and coming for him is unlogical. He's smart in his field not in life. Same cliché with doctors, they are experts where they work and thats it. They do the same mistakes in life decisions like everyone else.

    • 1. Mention above this. For a normal friend is it unlikely to behave like this. He is interested something is fishy 2. Yes

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