Is it normal for a parents to look into their teenage phone?

My sister went into my nephews phone and she saw that he was watching porn he got punished for it. by the way my nephew is 19 years old
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  • In my family it is normal IF my parents were paying the bill, you want privacy go get your own damn phone is what we were told, your own phone and only plan.

    Of course as adults, we could (if there was room) ask to have our phone put on the family plan, and pay the account holder our portion. Still technically in a way our own plan, we had to buy our own phone and pay monthly subscription for it.

    So if this 19 year old was on your sisters plan, I get it... if he has his own phone, that seems not normal, especially if he is living on his own.

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  • If the "kid" an adult and paying for their own service, then no, it should not be normal or okay to do this. If they are still underage and/or using mom and dad's service, then they should have the right due to the liability they face. But I would hope that it would be uncommon or based on a suspicion and not just a routine thing.

Most Helpful Guys

  • That's a very delicate question. If there is trust between parents and teenagers, talking about everything should be possible. I can understand that some control may be adviced about what teenagers do with their phone, but on the other hand the parents are showing a lack of trust. Anyway, punishing a teenager any age for watching porn is the most stupid action ever, and if on top the boy is 19, then the parent is completely wrong. The key is confidence and communication.

  • 19 is legally an adult, but if he chooses to live under their roof that is done in acknowledgment of accepting their rules. Socrates in Crito spoke wt length about what agreeing to live somewhere means about your acceptance of its laws.

    • Thanks for MHO

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  • And that's how people start being ashamed of their own bodies...

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  • If he's 19 then what the heck is she doing trying to control his life at all? Oo
    If she hasn't taught him the values she wants him to have by 18 it's *to late* and she has no right to punish him at all.

  • At 19, no way is that normal.

  • If he wants to be an adult, he should get a job (or two) and move out on his own, buy his own phone, and pay his own bills.

  • Maybe at 13-16 for safety but pass that age no way. And watching porn at any age is normal. Kids are curious best not to punish them for that.

  • 19…


    Leave off FFS!


    I’d be just as concerned if he wasn’t

  • At 19, it isn't normal.
    Also, punishment will solve nothing. Persuasion may solve things, assuming in this case there was a problem to be solved.

  • It's not normal. He is 19...

  • He's an adult. Why didn't he have a passcode on his phone. And why would he accept punishment? Sounds like it's past time for him to move out.

  • No pass code needed to access his phone? He's obviously an idiot

  • Parents should not be looking at a 19yo's phone, that's a violation of his privacy. It's probably okay for parents to look at younger kids' phones (under 16).

  • When my kids reach phone age, it will be flip phones only. And I will activate the trackers. 19 is a bit old for that kind of control, though.

  • She shouldn’t be going through a 19 year olds phone…

    17+ should when parents should stop that bs.

  • Yeah, at age 19 he knows what he wants to do and he's no minor

  • Asian parents do that

    • Many do... But thankfully mine don't 😬😬

  • ehhh no... lol

  • Honestly depends. Did he buy the phone? Does he pay his phone bills? If it's yes to both she has no business going through his phone. If not, then while he is still living under their roof, it's fair game.

    • I certainly wouldn't have been okay with my parents going through my phone, but I don't live at home, I bought my phone, and I've been paying my own phone bills since I was 12.

    • Also, if he really wanted to prevent that, he should have had a password.

  • Depends on the family, it was normal with mine

  • Not a healthy thing to do.

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