Is It Normal For My Boyfriend To Be Acting Like This?

He tells me that once we move in together, he's going to try and have sex with me 3+ times a day. He says that whenever he looks at me he immediately gets a boner. He thinks about having sex with me almost all day. We haven't done it yet because we just started dating but I'm worried that he's starting to look at me as if I'm a fleshlight or something. Yes he still does and says romantic things but he's always saying sexual things too. Maybe it's my fault because I also say lots of sexual things, and I told him that he could bang me anytime and anywhere he wanted. I think it would be cool and everything, but I hope our whole relationship isn't about sex. Is it normal for him to be acting like this, and should I be concerned?
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  • I think he's maybe just super horny cause you've not yet had sex. Also, is he a virgin?

    My ex and I were each others' first and we both though we'd have sex more often, but it ended up not happening as much we expected just because we both felt satisfied sooner.

    I think he's mostly joking/exaggerating, but I think it's worth talking to him about it. If it's truly an issue, he'll appreciate knowing so he has the ability to act on it - and it may even be a moot point because he is exaggerating.

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  • Early in a relationship, or if you and your partner have limited time together, it is likely you will both want a lot of sex. Living with someone though you have to both be comfortable with a schedule. But it sounds like you are picking up that this guy has a compulsive need. No one wants to feel like a receptacle. If you feel that he does not have interest in you other than sex, you are right to put the brakes on.

  • Ya I would be concerned, any relationship built on sex is pretty much gonna end by sex, and it's pretty toxic relationship I've tried it, I would recommend not doing it

    • If I make him wait would that solve the problem? Or just frustrate him?

    • It's not gonna solve the problem, the problem is the sex pretty much is keeping this relationship alive before it even started, I guarantee if sex was off the table he wouldn't be with you. It would just frustrate him if anything. Sounds like he's already waiting around for sex so that wouldn't change anything, sounds like he's desperate enough for sex he's willing to do what you want just so he gets some, I don't think is priority is a relationship at all, it's literally sex

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  • I think he'll calm down when he gets laid

  • Totally normal. Reality will intervene. It's hard to manage more than twice a day will working, and not easy going to school.

  • Just deal with the fact that men need sex and its a woman's way of showing a man that She loves Him. As long as You are comfortable with it and there are boundaries then its perfectly normal.

  • You have every right to worry and he shouldn't be scaring you, I would start asking him questions to see what he says.. Please don't let him make you scared :_ -Hugs-

  • That's kind of normal in a new relationship because you two are exploring each other for the first time.

  • That's something you'll need to discuss with him openly before you move in together.

  • he's just horny

    • I shouldn't be concerned then? I wasn't sure if it was normal to be that horny.

    • nah lol. he will be back to normal after some sexy times with you

    • Alright thanks! I'm glad to hear that, I was worried lmao.

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  • The reason to wait for sex is to ensure that a relationship is not based on sex. The thing is sex feels really good, so obviously once you have it, it will be a significant part of the relationship.