Is it normal for sex still to hurt at the third time and for there to still be a little bit of blood?

before sex we do make out, and I kind of grind on him with clothes on, he doesn’t rub my clit or give me oral because I told him that I felt uncomfortable with that so after making out he puts on his condom and lubes up the condom but when he inserts himself in me it still hurts for a minute I feel sharp pain and I always make him stop for a little because it hurts and then as he goes all the way in it stops hurting and starts to feel good. I just wish that everytime he begins to insert himself it didn’t hurt that bad.
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We have sex everytime I go to his house so like once or twice a month maybe it’s because i don’t have sex with him often?
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  • It's absolutely normal in fact I remember I was in pain for an entire week after losing my virginity I needed ice packs
    Another thing you might need more foreplay yeah that allow him to touch your area down there or do it yourself if you need natural lubrication as well as artificial you have to be aroused
    Also grinding against his clothes might not be the best idea that's a very sensitive area down there you could be irritating it think about carpet burn except not on your knees but in between your knees
    another thing to ask yourself or consider you may be allergic to the lubrication you are using or you may be allergic to the condom
    I found out that I can't tolerate condoms that well I do have a mild allergic reaction to them and it is irritating. If I use condoms I need to use a female condom female condoms can be found at your local clinics or planned Parenthood or you can ask your doctor to help you I'm not 100% sure if you can just go to the pharmacist and ask for them but I do know they're not sold over counter regardless the female condom for me is a lifesaver and the ring that I insert it rubs up against my g spots and give me a better orgasm and the ring that is inserted also drives my man crazy he loves it when the tip of his head rubs against the ring like extra stimulation

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  • Yes it’s normal it can hurt quite a while. You know my view lol hmm if you’re not ok with him touching you maybe you should grind without clothes longer. Until you are Super srouses. Practice doing it till you see cumming thrn have him go in

    it will hurt wayyy less if you’re on your way already. And grinding is a really efficient way to stimulate without touching.

    • Should I just rub myself or would that be weird?

    • I’ve never grinded on him without clothes before

    • 1 only problem is he mkght get so turned on he’ll cum before he gets it in 🧐😂 2 Do it it feels amazing, you’ll see. I think That may help you. It’s way more stimulating than with clothing.

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    • mostly due to you not being well lubricated by your own juice. while your being played with it also loosens you up a bit more to allow him to enter.
    • if your not comfortable with him rubbing your clit or give you oral yet by your request.
    • then you might need to rub yourself a bit. in order to loosen yourself up.
    • consider having him play with your breasts or nipple a bit also. rubbing or sucking on them can help. since their typically linked to a woman's arousal network.
    • also having him kiss your lips and neck a bit might help.
    • condoms are not fool proof when it comes to stopping pregnancy. so might want to also get some birth control or look into it. should be able to get from your primary gynecologist or a walk in clinic even. with to use both in case the condom fails or breaks.

    • wise to use both*

    • So condoms are not enough? I can't get birth control because of my parents if they find out they'll get mad i have a strict family

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  • You should know it's also weird for a guy to go down on a girl. With practice it becomes less of a thing but still the fact that he's offering to go down on you is mainly about you and not his own pleasure.

    I know it's strange but you sucked it up enough to have sex with him just keep being brave and let him eat you out. Maybe you'll feel better and have less painful sex.

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  • It'll get better with practice. If he can get you turned on enough, you might even find the pain erotic.

  • It can take several sessions for a hymen so stretch or tear permanently out of the way. In the mean time, use plenty of lube applied by you. Don't rely on nature.

  • Foreplay till the lube is not needed.

    Why are you comfortable with him having his penis in your vagina, but not with him touching your clit?

    Or try @vivant 's grinding naked suggestion.

  • Totally normal

  • It really sounds like you just aren't aroused enough. Like if I say I'm ready to go, I'm aroused, but my dick is soft. You're probably not aroused enough initially.

  • yes pain doesn't just go away after the first time

  • Take a couple shots or take some asprin before so you don't feel the pain as much. Over time itll stretch a little and get used to your boyfriends dong.

  • 1. Lube, lube, lube.
    2. More play in the foreplay = more lube = more fun
    3. Enter verrrrrryyyyy verrrrryyyyyy slooooowwwwwlyyyyyyyy.

    You really shouldn't be feeling a "sharp pain" if there is plenty of wetness down there.

  • You need to increase the foreplay. He needs to use his fingers first.
    it will help especially since you are inexperienced.
    Also if you aren't wet enough initially he will hurt you trying to go in.

  • You’re new so it needs time and more frequent to get use to it

  • I think you were not doing it properly

  • Yes, you need to have sex more and really get lubricated.

  • Usually you rub a girl's clit to get her wet more. That way once she is more wet it should be easier to slide in. You could put some lube yourself at the entrance and see if that helps.

    • I did still hurt and burned when i peed

    • Are you guys using water based lube?

    • Yeah

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  • Maybe if you let him give you oral or a handjob you'd be wetter and it would be less painful

  • No sure for the bleeding he is probably just being too rough and it can and will hurt no matter how many times you do it if the guy is too big and don't care about how he treats you

  • You have a low sex liboid. So it takes you longer to get wet down there so tell em to take his time n stop rushing you.

    • I don’t have a low sex libido

    • Why are you so dry ur only 19?

    • Im not im inexperienced

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  • Touching is a good thing to loose up muscles , if not it hurts

  • Just relax

  • Just give it time. It will get easier.

  • He should provide you pleasure, not pain

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