Is it normal that I don't want to be touched anymore?

[Anonymous]

I used to be a very sexually active girl, I had the sex drive of a rabbit and could make a guy fall to my feet begging for it. So the start of this year I had a bad experience with a guy. He took me behind a bush and did as he pleased with me. That kind of messed me up, but I'm a strong girl and I continued on with my life. My last date was going well until he took me back to his and I felt pressured into sex. It's been 2 months since this and I have deleted all my dating apps, stopped talking to any guy and hate even masturbating. I just don't want any guy to touch me and I feel like I'm broken! Someone help me understand what's going on, has this happened to you and if it will ever end?

[Joti_Harrison]

You weren't pressured into sex, you just don't know that there exist a word, 'NO'.

You are not a child, If you know a guy is not genuine and all he wants is just sex before leaving you in the dirt, learn to say 'NO'. The more girls close their legs, the more men will respect them and work harder to get to know them and build true commitments with women, when they know they can not just sleep with any dumb broad that comes their way.

The best you can do is learn from your experience and be wiser. It is not rocket science to know a guy who genuinely cares for you. Let him learn to know you, don't give him the impression that he can get sex from you. The genuine guys will stay on. Don't just give sex to the many losers out there who will be non-existent in your life few months down the line.

Learn to respect yourself, and the people around you will learn to respect you.

[Asker]

Thank you for your opinion Joti_Harrison I really appreciate your help x

[super147]

I am not a therapist but I would imagine that the experiences you had have taken away the feeling of sex being something good and of sex being something in your control. Something that was yours has been taken and corrupted and now it doesn't feel like yours anymore. Perhaps like if there had been a horrific event happen in your home, it just wouldn't feel like a safe place anymore.

I strongly believe that you need help to work this out. If you haven't had any kind of counselling then you need it. I don't think that you will be able to do it all on your own.

[nala_rawr]

you probably just need some time to heal and get over what happened to u. it might take a while, but dont beat urself up for it. its not something u can really control.

[Joti_Harrison]

It something you can control. Stop having sex with every loser out there that says they love you just to get between your legs. Have some self control and decency. When you take responsibility for your actions, then you can work on yourself, and keep yourself for a man who is serious with you and respects you not just for sex.

[nala_rawr]

@Joti_Harrison im talking about how she's feeling being something she can't control, not the amount of dudes she fucking.

[Joti_Harrison]

Same thing I am saying. She can change how she is feeling by making a strong resolve and determination in herself that she will not give her body to any loser out there that claims he loves her before leaving her in the dirt. Read my post above to get a bigger picture of what I am talking about.

[Asker]

Joti, are you ok? You seem to be really adamant on telling me to close my legs and not be a slut. I understand that, this experience has helped me realise my faults and mistakes. I was looking for advice on if it will ever get better for me, not to be shamed. I would like to fall inlove one day and have a family and be happy. I'm worried that this won't happen when I can't even look a man in the eye anymore.

[AustinMan]

I'm so sorry that happened. You need to find a good therapist, and soon!! Find someone who has experience treating victims of sexual abuse. You can get past this but you need help to do so.

Godspeed!

[HandsomeBoxFlower]

File a claim against him and go see a psychologist. This isn't your fault! Maybe just take a break from sexual activity for awhile and focus on your self? Say get a self-help book about confedence and loving yourself, keep anything that causes you sexual stress/pressure out of your life, and focus on who you are? You then can slowly and gently begin to desire again as your decision delegates appropriately.

[Joti_Harrison]

It seem you don't understand how the law works. What claim is she filing against him? they were two consenting individuals who had sex, he didn't drag her into the bush, she walked there with him, and she didn't have enough sense to say 'NO'. I don't understand why soo many dumb broads these days complain about how guys manipulate them. Are they children? Why can't they think for themselves or don't they know the word, 'NO'. If you don't say 'NO' and allow someone use you through lies that he loves you, you become someone's bitch, simple.

[Asker]

Thank you guys for your help, I agree that I can't filed a complaint. It was my own fault for not being able to speak up. I am taking a long break, I don't even want to think about it haha. I have always struggled with power against guys, but I will work on it. Thanks again x

[Grumps]

Sex is attached to your emotions and payche. There's a reason why sleeping around is looked down upon. Because it's not meant to be shared with everyone casually

[Anonymous]

i guess dem vag nerves got desensitised from overuse. by the way you couldnt ever make ME begging for your cootie-filled parts.

as for being a strong girl the trauma is there. go seek therapy dont be an egoist. it will consume you from within otherwise... .

[Opinion Owner]

my cousin she was raped by a stranger and her parents never took her to a therapist becaues they wanted to keep it secret from society and she commited suicide. now they regret, bbut its too late... .

[Asker]

I couldn't help laugh at that first part. But thank you for your help. I will talk to someone eventually. Cheers

[Opinion Owner]

you are welcome good luck.