Is it normal that I don’t Want to have sex with a girl I really like?

I normally love casual dating and sex but I’ve fallen for 1 girl quite hard but I don’t actually want to have sex with her. I just want to cuddle her whilst she’s fully clothed.
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  • Yes it is, and its the most sincerest form of intimacy in a committed relationship as it transcends sexual desire and the urge for physical pleasure which can often impede and even complicate relationships. In a casual sense its much easier to do as you describe. Your interactions will be centered around sex and wanting to get off with that person. Now that you found someone who you've fallen for in a deeply emotional sense, sex becomes a psychological barrier to your feelings for her. Sex and love are not always connected, or even ever really the same.

    Sex is fun and hot of course but even with a partner you love in such a romantic fashion, as a man you're still objectifying her. Hormones take over. You are now using her body to satisfy primal urges to get off. It becomes about those urges and objectifying her body rather then the powerful feelings and love you have for the person. That's why you don't want to have sex with her.

    If the feeling is mutual, a celibate relationship is ideal for the two of you. The thing is, are you willing to give up sex altogether if it meant being with her or would she approve of you having your sexual needs met with other women if you came home to her every night?

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  • Maybe this time you want to take things slow or you're aware of your patterns with girls after you sleep with them. So take your time. It's totally fine to cherish her.

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  • Sure. She means something to you. She is special in your eyes and not just an object of attraction or pleasure.

    So suddenly, it is not that you don't want sex, but you want to be with her and you want it to be about her. So instead of going in wanting sex, that moment will come, and it will be something special. Centered on both of you and mutual sharing and not just the gratification - physical and emotional - that you get from sex.

    As a male, by evolutionary instinct, you are driven to impregnate as many females as you can. However, men are more than the sum of their evolutionary instincts and you have been lucky enough to meet that girl that triggers in you the desire to care for her and protect her. You want the feeling of sharing with her and being held by her.

    So suddenly, the sexual instinct moves to the back of the line and being with her is about more than being satisfied by her. That is rare, especially in this self-absorbed generation, but you hit the jackpot - and no need to question it.

    Hopefully it will work out. All the best.

  • Sounds like you just want to be friends or take things slow, and there is nothing wrong with that.

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  • U don't have sexual attration