Is it normal that my boyfriend gets a boner all the time just by me sitting next to him and having my arms wrapped around him?

He is constantly getting a boner over and over again even when we’re just sitting on the couch and my arms are around him I wonder if that’s normal?
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If this guy is so turned on, why have I had to initiate everything:(?
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  • do you like to wear mini skirts and/or dresses... if you do it's very normal that he gets boners... not to brag 1/2 of the guys get a boner from me without even touching them of course i'm wearing a short dress or skirt most of the time when they do... i too give them a blowjob i never really gave just a handjob... if you have to initiate it each time don't worry he's just afraid to ask... i remember my 1st time i kept hiking my skirt up higher and higher then i used the excuse oh it's so hot in here mind if i take off my clothes... and it was only then i gave him a blowjob after he finally asked me to suck him... i enjoyed i hope you do too... but it's definitely a good thing he gets boner's from you... don't worry soon enough he'll have you sucking his dick everyday.

    • I wear regular length skirts and dresses not short lol

    • ok maybe a little leg is all he needs regardless he's very attracted to you whatever your doing it's working... do you like turning him on?

    • I guess it’s just new to me seeing a guy that turned on around me

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  • 100% absolutely normal... the penis does its own thing. Could be you, could be nothing to do with you.

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  • Yep totally normal.

    An erection does not necessarily indicate mental arousal, it could just be physiological but the 2 often go together.

    I suppose you have to initiate because he either fears rejection or is trying to be respectful or simply lacks the confidence and experience to initiate or escalate.

  • It's normal. Trust me on this. The neural circuitry connecting his brain (including the emotional centers of his brain) to his erectile response is kind of amazing.

    • Jay I saw your update question. I can't say for sure why you're having to initiate all the physical affection. If I remember correctly he's like 21 or 22? So maybe because he feels like his being older and still wanting to be super sure that you're comfortable he's holding back. But from your previous posts I remember that you guys have done some sexual stuff without actually having intercourse. I think it's likely that he still wants to make sure you don't think he only wants sex. But at this point in your relationship I think you're comfortable that he doesn't. And it's normal and natural for you to wish he would initiate physical intimacy. I'm sure in time that he will.

    • Thank you Jay for MHO! 😀

    • Of course lol you’re my favorite raccoon

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  • Sounds like he has a fast erectile response. It may be embarrassing, but that's not a bad thing, sex-wise.

  • Totally normal. Try not to tease the poor guy too much without a release though.

    • As for why you've had to initiate, some guys are too afraid of not appearing "gentlemanly" enough and won't give in to their urges out of fear. But I promise you that he wants it a hell of a lot more than you do. Just let him know that he can take you and let off some steam ;)

    • Yeah I’ve told him that I’m ready already and that i want him inside me

  • A newbie. It might work if u tell him to stay calm and give it time. But, really huge him.

    Or, u can help the guy out.

    On u really. Help a niggah out, man.

    • I’ve helped him out I gave him a hand job and a blow job he’s not a virgin at all but I am

    • Oh, okay, I see now. Nice, but a challenge. When a guy is activated (that's what I call it active) it takes time to calm down. Like complexly. 😁😄 Ur gonna have to tell him to wait or u could, u know. Lose ur virginity and have ur way with him.

  • At this point in his life he can be changing clothes and a slight breeze will give him a hard on that a pipe wrench couldn't even turn the skin on it

    • He is 23

    • I still get that but not as often

  • DUH!! HE LIKES YOU, DUMBASS!!

    • Well I just don’t know if it’s normal for a guy to always get a boner

    • Just from doing simple things like sitting together side by side

    • @sweetandshyxo Younger guys get hard when a beautiful lady just smiles at him!! HE IS TOTALLY WANTING YOU!! But you are totally in control, and BE A LADY!! Make him PROVE how much he ADORES you!! It isn't wrong, or bad, and millions of women do it, and love having men showing their love, before they let him share something very intimate, when you are ready!

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  • It's perfectly normal it means he finds you very attractive and you turn him on!

    Don't be offended by it he hasn't got as much control over it as you might think. Feel assured if you ever want sex he'll be ready for action all the time!

    • Do guys that are like this not last long in bed?

    • It's difficult to say he might get over stimulated and cum quick but for men how long you last in bed is more about technique. Starting slow and building up using the C. A. T is one of my tricks!

    • @sweetandshyxo does he last long when doing the other things you mentioned?

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  • Eh I guess but you need to get him to learn to control it otherwise you will be cumed in or on before you even get warmed up

  • Men have them ALL the time. Don’t think it’s just about you and how your sitting lol.

  • your Pheromones and his raging hormones. Chemical love.

    • If a guy gets a boner many times from being with you that day does that mean that he came? And then got a boner again? How does that work? Lol

    • An erection doesn't mean ejaculation. It's like a female who gets 'wet'. For one thing, men get them throughout day even without stimulation... but we have much more control as we get older. Basically your pheromones trigger hormones in him that make the brain think sexual contact is possible. He's probably using all his strength not to touch you all over. [shrugs] And then there's stimulation that keeps happening, which multiple erections in a short period of time would indicate. probably a combination of being near you, his hormones, physical contact, and chafing pants... and of course touching and kissing each other. That opens the the case of painful 'blue balls' if his body is convinced it will have sex, but no ejaculation happens. That will seriously hurt him for at least the day. There's a lot of pressure build up.

  • my ex was like that too sex anytime anywhere

  • At your age given his attraction yes. Enjoy it it doesn’t work quite so easily when you’re older.

    if he’s so turned on why do you have to initiate? He’s probably unsure if you want it or trying to not pressure you. He may assume you know he’s always interested so thinks by letting you initiate he’s being thoughtful. If you’d like him to initiate sometimes let him know.

  • No hahahah that's crazy

  • Super normal!!!

    He’s shy cause he likes you and he wants to respect your feelings

  • It's normal, I'm saying this out of experience.

  • He's attractive to you and loves you, it's a good sign it's like a girl gets wet from sitting on her guy's lap and this doesn't mean anything abnormal when I was in the doctors waiting room years ago, I got sexually aroused just by me and this girl stared each other down and I felt bad about it. Thank God I getting my head together.

  • Lol damn he wants you bad

  • If i don't masturbate in a day i will have all the day a boner just from seen a cut girl from 100m
    If i get olso touch then i precum.

  • i've got the same condition such him.

    • u have to initiate every because he is shy. and maybe he think, by asking u to do something sexual is rude and. might deteriorate the relationship. u are the one who has to offer to him.

  • Hi there. Welcome back.

    And yes, that's normal

  • Completely normal

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