Is it normal that we don't make out anymore?

[Anonymous]

We have been together 3 years and when we first got together we would make out a lot and not to mention he was very giving sexually. He would give oral and finger. Now I feel like he is kind of selfish now. We barely make out ever. He says because his breath stinks (our culture eats stinky food) but a breath mint takes care of it like we had done. I don't expect it too often but once in a while would be nice. Same with in the bed. He doesn't really do anything to get me ready. I usually go down on him and then we have sex that's it... He does most of the work though with inter course lol. So is this common in long term relationships? It's not a big problem in my relationship, it'd just be nice sometimes to have. I swear the kissing and foreplay for me happens maybe once every few months.

[VanillaSalt]

talk to him about being more intimate... maybe have him go down on u for once... be sexy... be new... do it in the bed, on the sink, in the bathroom, in the car... the pool... find new ways and places to do it... spice up the blah that is ure sex life... it happens people burn out on sex i did it now i hardly care about it anymore... find what he likes and u like and try and make em fun again... consider a sex councilor... bad sex can stress out a relationship and make it stale... sex is necessary to build that attraction and hold it so do w/e u can otherwise u might lose him

what u describe is what i used to do... get hard with minimal foreplay and hit home LOL... also i did most of the work myself -.-

1 of the fun things about long term relationships is finding new ways to wow ure SO... new sex ideas are a good idea and seem to be ure main problem... i myself like to cuddle all the time... hands doing w/e they want form both sides w/o actually doing anything... teasing is awesome for building up the moment and u CAN control the speed u progress... he can really hurt u if he dont w8 till ure ready

also some advice outside this... never confront a man... if ure aggressive with him he will become defensive and u will have a fight on ure hands... but it is best to talk with him about it b4 scheduling a councilor...

[tsd8124]

its because the Honeymoon stage of the relationship is over and everything.. i have been dating a girl for 2 years now and we first started dating we would hook up all the time have sex anytime we could and now its like we have sex every now and then but we mess around and everything but its not all the time like it was earlier in are relationship.. i think its normal it doesn't mean anything is going on..

[WackyWeakWeird]

i think you should confront him about it. tell him everything, how you feel etc... maybe (maybe) he's not that interested anymore because you've been together for so long.