Is it normal to ask my boyfriend if he wants sex?

[Anonymous]

He barely starts it

Im the ones asking him

I feel awkward

He never says he wants it or that he desires me

Its strange

[Reece12345]

Hi, sorry to hear that. No, it's not good if you're the only one who's asking.

Have you tried talking to him? Ask him what's going on, and also how things could be improved (also remember that it take two to tango and he has to make effort to).

Do you spend a lot of time together? Just asking since that's an indicator of his interest in you on broader terms.

[Asker]

We work together And i spend 1 day per week at his house or he in mine

[Reece12345]

Gotcha, so you're coworkers? Nice. So your only see each other a couple days a week outside of work? Just asking cause maybe it might bring you both closer if you hang out more than that (if I understand right)?

[Asker]

I dont know

[Reece12345]

I've just noticed that a guy who really likes you will want to spend all his time with you because he wouldn't want to be anywhere else except than with you. You're the person that gives him the most happiness and that's why he wants to spend as much time as he can with you. If he doesn't spend much time with you, that shows a lack of interest in you. It shows there are other places he'd rather be than with you. And that's not love. Pretty straightforward. I don't know much about your relationship with him, but have you thought about moving on and finding a guy who wants to spend all his time with you? That's like the real test if whether a guy is really into a girl. He wants to be with you all the time. And I'm sorry if I've misread anything here, by the way!

[Asker]

This new year he decided to spend with his friends not with me isn't it normal that he also wants to spend time with his friends? Sometiems even myself i want just be alone maybe and watch movies or do my spa session my hair, my bath day Alone isn't it normal?

[Asker]

Ummm... also must day he spent 10 month in jail Been married 22 years to a woman who put him in jail When we started dating he used to say he doesn't want to rush, he needs space Now he values his free time more i guess But honestrly sometimes i dont even feel like his girlfriend... just his friend... his buddy doesn't hug or kiss me sometimes Like... i feel like a random tree sometimes

[Asker]

I dont want to fund a guy who will spend all his time with me I want someone who i like And with this guy i clicked on so lany levels He mentiones being soulmates I think its pretty deep Not always you find a soulmated and i think we found each other

[Reece12345]

Good for you. Finding a soulmate is like so hard. Sometimes it takes time to settle into things. But in the end, you need to be happy. It's tough to take a step back and look at the big picture... Like, taking everything into account, are you happy with things the way they are?

[Asker]

Im confused

[Reece12345]

I think that if you're not happy you should find someone who you can be happy with. Like in the end, your happiness is what counts.

[SnowedIn]

Yes because that is communication. But you need to talk to him that sometimes you need to be asked or him to initiate. If he can't do that or won't do that, perhaps you need to find someone more sexually compatible.

[Agape93]

It's good to communicate. If he won't, you should. Otherwise just break up

[Summeroflove]

Maybe you could be doing other things and save sex until marriage. Maybe try having a stronger romantic life and not making it all about sex

[JPresidente]

Most guys you would think would want it all the time. He must have low testosterone.

[Sparkie460]

Apparently he has a lower sex drive than you do. It's kind of odd though if he's around your age

[Asker]

45 he is

[Sparkie460]

Have you tried talking to him about this?

[Asker]

Not yet

[Sparkie460]

I think it needs to be discussed. It's not right for a guy not to want sex. Is he taking any medication that might cause him to not want sex

[Asker]

He just rejected me I asked what he is doing He said relaxing i asked if he wants netflix and me come over He said no

[Asker]

Sleep pills

[Sparkie460]

Oh. Well ok. I'm older than him and I would have been over before you put your phone down. Lol. It could be the sleeping pills. You can Google the side effects if you know the name of them

[Mrmr123]

Maybe he likes you to make the first move with sex, take control and the lead or seduce him?

[Wise4myage]

Nothing abnormal about that.😊

[CubaPirate]

Absofuckinglutley is as hot 🔥 🥵 😍 AF he should be over the moon 🌙 about it

[Thirsty4more23]

That’s odd. Usually the guys have to ask for it! But I’d b all over it if I had a girl that wanted it just as much as me! Haha.

[Bklynbadboy12]

It's very strange are you sure he's not cheating

[Tulipsxoxo]

Either that or the OP's boyfriend has little to no desires for sex

[Asker]

Yes he is not

[Bklynbadboy12]

How can you be so sure

[Asker]

Not sure anymore

[Bklynbadboy12]

Why what happened follow me so we can chat and analyze this

[Asker]

Well... He said he loved me yesterday He wants to see me And today he said he is hangover and wants to relax I asked if he wants me to come to watch netflix and relax together He said :"no im good, honey" ... so yeah What in the fuck, you know...

[Bklynbadboy12]

Damn I'm so sorry

[Asker]

Not sure how to feel about it

[Asker]

He said even he feels like shit i can come But he feels like shit says wants to sleep Thats why doesn't want to meet

[Asker]

He didn't ask me how am i And yesterday need saying all those i love you you are part of my life you are always in my head...

[Bklynbadboy12]

Follow me I want to chat with you

[Asker]

You can answerhere

[Bklynbadboy12]

Cool

[Anonymous]

I assume he was the one that asked you out and hit on you

[Asker]

Yes as 99% of all the couples start

[Opinion Owner]

Why am I not surprised

[Asker]

Its common sense The water is wet.. .

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah I always hated and resented the world and nature for being that way but unfortunately it will never change, hence why the forever alone community will always be male-dominated