Is it normal to be 23 and yet still haven't had their first kiss? Am I that ugly?

I think I will die a virgin, even lip virgin, fuck my whole life for real
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  • My advice would be to develop an attractive personality. I have no clue what you look like. Maybe it is an issue or maybe not but I do know personality is largely the issue. I just got done writing a comment to a 21 year old girl who said the same thing as you. Her question was basically the same question. I see these questions so much on GAG. You're not the only one. In fact, it is normal I'd say.

    I had a friend, who didn't date until like 21. She was good looking in my opinion. She would turn down guys who were more than fit. Sometimes we cannot see what we are looking for even when it hits us right in the face. I came to find out this is an actual thing. It is called the reticular activating system. Anyway I can assure you this is also your problem because insecurity and it are not exclusive most of the time. At the moment your system is looking for evidence that you are ugly and not worthy. That is what you've trained it to do unknowably. Start seeing yourself hitting the target and how you can hit the target instead of focusing on that you missed in the pasted. Think of how you can get what you desire and see yourself getting it. This is for the purpose of training your system to recognize it when it shows up. Also develop your personality. There are books on this. You can even interact and then go into deep introspection of these interactions. I know for a fact this is how the old school dating coaches learned how to be social. Some and many of them were not naturally that way.

    There was a woman in the 1900s who wanted to marry a rich man. She was an average woman not overly beautiful. She developed such a well developed personality that she got the rich husband she was after. I assure you personality matters to guys more than society and they think.

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  • Being a virgin in that age or whatever age there is, isn’t the end of the world. Chill

    • Aaah okayyy I just see everyone in my group of friends having experiences and I dont, I just fee out of place u know?

    • It’s ok, everybody will have their moment. Just don’t mind it, just remember that someone out there thinks that you're sexy

    • Thank you it made me feel a lot better

Most Helpful Guys

  • Yeah well, with that attitude, yes.

    You're probably not that ugly. But your downer attitude and toxic pessimism is probably putting a lot of people off you.

    Think of it this way. Would you really want to date a guy who's always depressed and moody? Of course not, then why do you think they want a girl who is such?

  • No you're not ugly I would say you're very beautiful ugly only comes within it has nothing to do to the outside The outside is just an extra bonus. I would have to know a little bit more and I could tell you exactly how to get a guy

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  • I doubt you are “that ugly” though you have not included a pic.

  • no, fuck your stupid idealogy of deciding that at 23 you're not going to be kissed for the rest of your life.
    Honestly, don't be an idiot.

    • Damn girl, I'm sorry it was just a question. Its something that I feel, you can show I little respect for people's feelings too.

    • @SimpHunter007 nope.. not a single mom XD but whatever dude

    • oh i do for people that earn that respect asker :)

  • Maybe you just haven't met the right guy yet maybe you're not ready yet. There's a lot to catch out there not that I'm a germaphobe but I do keep myself pretty clean and you don't know where that person's lips have been I mean take the time to get to know him.

  • It's perfectly normal and I wouldn't imagine you're ugly any way, and please put that into your head.
    I was much older than you when I had my first kiss and it'll happen when it happens, there's no rush

  • I didn't kiss my first girlfriend until I was age 28, so it happens to the best of us.

  • There is nothing abnormal about it. The lower you standards the larger the dating pool.

  • It is and not in same time. Take your time untill you find someone great. For a serious man this is the worse feeling to like a woman and to know how she were a slut with others 🤣. You got me. Bonne chance ☀️

  • Have you tried online dating?

  • no one sets the standards in your life, but you. you might be what is called a late bloomer nothing wrong with it at all, hang in there girl, no you are not ugly

  • Its not common to not had a kiss but I think if you try to put some effort to find a good guy you will get that first kiss.

  • Don't listen to society. Probably the ones that say there's something wrong if you haven't by the age of 23 haven't themselves.

  • More common than you think for people to enter their 20s like this

  • Are you overweight and/or picky?
    23 is not that old, so age wise it's not a problem, pretty common actually. Especially with dudes.

  • do you want to private message? can u send me a pic?

  • what are you waiting for?

  • Not really. I was 20 before I lost my cherry. I would stop focusing on that and just focus on finding a cool guy you like and date. Sex is incidental to love…not the objective.

  • I used to think the same... but u'll find someone when the time is right

  • Come to turkey we'll make you queen

  • Not my problem!

  • The main damn question Do you have any guy in the friend zone?

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