Is it normal to be in love with 2 men?

Is it normal to be in love with 2 men?
So basically I have had a crush on a guy at
my job for 3 years now. He turns me on badly. Insane sexual attraction to him.
But my partner I love and trust. He’s turns me on too and is attractive too. Is an animal in bed!

But I just want both of them.

I want them both in the same bed with me and I want to bare both their kids.
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I want to be in a deserted island with both of them. I want to F—K both of them every night. One of them is Afro American, and the other Puerto Rican. One of them is likely bigger than the other. They used to work in the same job. HOW DO I GO ABOUT telling them this. I want 2 Husbands
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Most Helpful Guys

  • You don't say how old you are, how long you've been with your partner, or even what you mean by partner. I assume you're not married, or you would call him your husband. You don't say whether you have children. You do say that you love and trust your partner. These words have meaning, and you don't fling them around lightly.
    It sounds like you're in a real bind! And there's plenty of pain to go around. And you're gonna hate what I have to tell you. But in this world, we can't have everything. Nobody can have everything, or everyone. No matter how great your partner is, there are always going to be people out there whom you will meet, and whom you will be attracted to, and around whom you can build fantasies of having a better life than the one you have with your partner or spouse. It's happened to me, and it can happen to everyone.
    But alas, we can't have everything! In life, we have to make certain choices, and we have to decide upon what values we will stand. You see, love is a choice. Love is a choice we make when we say, "I love you, I choose you now, and I will continue to choose you in the future when neither of us is so attractive anymore." Otherwise, if it's just based on feelings, we all know that feelings are changeable. And if you feel one way about your partner one day, and the next day you'd rather be with someone else, and you act on it, well, how then can anyone ever trust you, ever trust anything you say? Are you a woman of your word or not?
    Believe me, I know how hard it is. But if you love and value your partner, and you want a future with him, then you are going to have to do the right thing for him and for you. You may have to soak your head in a pail of cold water. You may have to change jobs so you're not faced with the other guy every day. But guess what: Ten years from now, when you look in the mirror, you will be proud because you did the right thing. Even when every drop of your blood, every synapse of your brain, every cell of your body is CRYING OUT for this other person, you will know that you did the right thing. It may be brutal going through it, but it's a tremendous feeling that you stood strong did what you knew was
    right in spite of everything! I wish you the best, and may you be blessed!

  • You better be sure your partner your with is confident in who he is and test the waters with dirty talk or fantasies but start with his fantasies first and see how that goes a few times then dirty talk about you guys and another couple then swinging and just ease into it and test the waters. Odds are dirty talk is as far as it’s gonna go but definitely if you decide you’re gonna have a go at the other guy let your man know and if he says no you either don’t take it any further or you end things and then do whatever don’t cheat. Be better than that

Most Helpful Girls

  • Even in the poly world, there is going to be one main guy. The other guy gets to play second fiddle.

    Maybe they would agree to flip a coin to see which role they get. But you have to be open-minded and fair about this. You have to let each of them have another live-in girlfriend who they have kids with.

    • Are you’d serious? I don’t want it to be that way. I want to love them equally. Does that happen the other way around too? There’s a main girl and a non-main girl?

    • I talked to a Canadian woman online that was poly. It was on a dating site and I had some questions. The poly thing is supposed to be about love. Poly =multiple amorous=love. (at least that's what the polyamorous community says ) But the Oxford dictionary says that "amorous = sexual desire. So let's just go with the polyamorous definition, and say this was all about love. The Canadian woman had a husband, two boyfriends, two fuck buddies, and she said she was traveling to Spain to visit her daughter. She said she had a hookup lined up in Spain. So do you think this is all about love or lust? And of this gaggle of guys, who should get to be the top dog? Yes, that world has a hierarchy, and everyone must know their place in the group. So when Christmas rolls around, and if they're all equal, whose family is she going to visit? All of them? She'll visit her husband's family, because he's the top rung on the ladder. And like I said, your two husbands might each like to have a girlfriend or second wife. You have to be understanding and accept that, or your house of cards could come tumbling down on you. Now just imagine if you have kids when that happens. Forget this poly thing and just go for ethical non-monogamy. You only love your husband, and the other guy or guys, are accessories.

  • So ask them both out and find out which one you like better when you know them. That is what dating is for. To get to know people. You might not like either in the end. Fantasies can be funny like that.

    • TURE LOL

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  • I love getting fucked in my pussy my ass my tits and my mouth by my very dark sexy black husband and several other very dark sexy black men all at once

    • MMM-HMMMMM……… Go away troll

    • Get em sparky! Reach for the troll spray

  • So basically this is just another threesome question?

    • Threesome marriage, cause I want to be in an island alone with those two men and give each of them 10 kids

  • Prepare to get rejected twice.

    • Unfortunately that is possible to happen I speak from personal experience

  • It's not normal, but your emotions are what you allow them to be.

  • Uh I feel you on this. Having 2-3 husband's for sex and baby making would be amazing but I'm too loyal so I can't. And I don't think it's normal for everyone but might be normal for you so no judgement. Do whatever makes you happy

  • It's slutty.

    • How is that sluty. I’d stay with those two men and them alone

    • More than one man is slutty.

    • Tell that to your Brad Pitt friends and F—K boy friends.

  • That's just greedy :))

    • How is it greedy?

  • hmm, I would just not call this love...

    to me, personally... to be in love means to have a mutual feeling that involves TWO people, to be in love is not a one sided thing

    to me, what you said next is what really is... you said you have a crush on this guy, a crush is infatuation, it is not love...

    to me, what you are describing is more of a very sexually charged fantasy that you really enjoy having, not exactly what I would call to be in love

    not judging though...

    • You know what. This actually helped me a lot. Thanks for not being rude to me and putting me down like everyone else in this comment section.

    • most welcome, was just trying to share some perspective...

    • When you ask this kind of question, which no one really cares about as it is your business, you are inviting people to flame you. Or maybe you are just trolling.

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  • That's totally normal. I'm happily married and still have my crushes. Nobody available, so there's no temptation. Keep in mind that you know and trust your partner, while you've never spent any personal time with the other guy. What's specifically attractive about the other guy? What about him attracts you that your partner is lacking?

  • I am married to the same person for 52 years. lover her dearly. I also am attracted to a younger women who I worked with 30 years ago. So the answer is yes.

  • No. Not in society.. lol

  • Normal, yes.
    Good, no.

    You need to pick one and stick with them. The partner is going to notice that your eye is wavering.

  • Have you brought up the idea of a threesome with your partner

  • No honey, this is called LUST not love.

  • I seen you calling other women hoes for this, but you think the saMe way

    • No because those women we F—King everyone they see. You Dad, your Gramps, your Uncle and your Brother. I ain’t saying anything like that

  • Try it. Maybe they're game. 😊

  • Very normal

  • Not if I'm one of them

  • From the streets she came and to the streets she shall return

    • Men say they want 3 or 4 wives. But you ain’t telling them this. Now are you?

    • Never said guys couldn't be thots. However it's more important for a woman to protect her virtue. I'd never date a girl who got packed by 2 guys at once. You can't come back from that.

    • Oh , so it’s not important at all for a guy to protect his virtue? GOT IT

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  • sounds like threesome times

    • It’s a threesome marriage. Because I’d bare both their kids, and both of them would protect me and their kids.

    • ok thats up to you have a talk about it

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