Is it normal to feel sad and cry after sex because you wish that you were married to each other and is it normal to feel a bit empty?

[Anonymous]

Or does this mean that he’s not the right person for me? I think I’m just letting my insecurities get in the way maybe. Also during sex today I was kind of questioning my whole purpose of life.

[ohsheeT]

You guys need to go out and do something you guys need to get away from his parents so you can yell and scream and just f*** each other's brains out if you can't do it in the house then build a tent on the outside in the backyard and do it there but you guys need to do something on your own it will bring you closer together and it'll be a beautiful thing

[VIVANT]

Normal to feel how you feel given your hopes abs aspirations abs mutual plans of marriage…Similar to how a person wanting comment will feel with a friends with benefits. If you were cool with casual sex or casual dating but that was not the plan it wasn’t your plan it wasn’t his supposedly, and in my opinion it is not right to create conditions where you will invariably to feel that way, so something’s gotta give.

I understand the money issue etc but no reason you guys can’t get engaged and get an apartment & save up. Young poor and broke is normal but it’s not a disease 😂

he doesn’t need to unless you with money he already knows you want to marry him I honestly don’t see why he needs to save more before you all can live together. He has enough money get an apartment when you Are out of your house and all that stress. you’ll feel more energy to work you’ll save up and you will both have an income to put to marriage.

Honestly jay you are already having sex you living together living together is nothing to lose bc there no bar you haven’t crossed.

in my opinion , if he doesn’t want to get engaged and live together, I’m not saying he’s A liar but he’s dumb and he’s procrastinating and you need to think on your own about your own life decisions.

what bothers me here is he KNOWS how much you suffer in you suffer in your home and how you are basically captive at times and it Interferes in ANY plan. If I was cynical I’d say in some level even if unconscious he likes the safety valve if you not being able have much Freedom bc it leaves him free.

It’d be what if you both moved out and get a place he can still hang with his friend who I’d be free to wake your own friend without your parents breathing down your neck.

He already said he wants to marry you’ve been together two years you’re having sex and you’re trapped in your home. It’s time to get out and he needs to be serious about what he’s saying. Thus isn’t you testing him to see if he why’s married he claims he DOES want it. He’s acting like it’s just sure thing but if you are any something you gotta work for it.

honestly he should be helping you move out if so that for a friend let alone a boyfriend. I HAVE done that for a friend & if I could help YOU move out I would.

And if there’s some reason you can’t get a place you can absolutely still get engaged. you can use friggin Cheerio as your ring or twist tie. It’s symbolic the money doesn’t matter.

you’re feeling lonely after feed bc the sex is feeling cheap bc it’s not in the co text if living commitment. At this point I’d stop having sex with him. Not as a test ri punishment but bc it doesn’t feel right. When he’s committed you’ll feel it. Right now he’s being immature and that happens it’s ok it’s part of life doesn’t Amir him evil, but that doesn’t mean you need to put up with it.

part of being mature is not just looking after riggers but looking after tour keep some. If you ignore your feelings and let this eat you up you’re gonna be exabytes by 25 and you should only bait he beginning then.

I know you love him and he loves you but that doss not mean it’s the right situation. Please don’t ignore your feelings I think you mom did that’s king the way and you don’t want to be bitter. It’s Terrible curse.

your so lucky to be starting life don’t wreck it by trying to be the bigger person. If it feels off it feels off. And no movie or camping trip is going to fix this ish even if you COULD which your parents may not let you.

im not saying dump him. I’m saying take yourself seriously and if you’re crying after doing something stop doing it! Sort out the issue and solve it.

look. Standing up for yourself I’d important for the relationship as it is for you. If your gonna last you need to be all in which includes being all in for yourself. If you start giving up little pieces here abs there you’ll be gone and your relationship with yourself as well as well him, will dwindle. And he need two be honest with you. both of you need to be honest. If he answers abstractly- call bullshit. Don’t let him say I got this la babe or I love you or it’ll be fine. Your not a child you are an adult adults make plans.

life moves forward with it without us. If he’s not moving forward and your with him you’re both stuck and in 5 years…. you do not want to be right where you are now. Not bc three something wrong with it but bc it’s Five years later.

I know people who got engaged with a plastic ring and married with 200$ to their name & they worried though it together. I understand being careful but you can be TOGETHER and be careful…Money isn’t really an obstacle you just have to want to be together and be willing to work.

Usually, when you know who you want to spend the rest of your life with your why to life to start as soon as possible. His he’s sun is in the clouds he needs to join you on planet earth, just my opinion, with love 💕

[VIVANT]

😭 😭😭😭 the typos they weren’t there when I wax typing. I can’t 🥵 Well if you need a translation— lemme know 😂 so sorry 😃

[Asker]

It’s okay I understood what you wrote thank yoo for answering. And I also think that another reason why I feel sad sometimes is because I don’t always want sex but let it happen because I don’t know how to say no.

[LazerBean]

No idea, we waited till marriage to have sex so we've never run into that problem.

[Asker]

You probably hace more money than us 😭 anyways i like your new picture you look great

[LazerBean]

Probably not a whole lot much more one one 18 year olds salary lol but thank you!

[VIVANT]

Haha yeah you do look great—you’re looking like whole commercial there 😂

[CharlieDMX]

It means you got emotional and vulnerable after sex , which is normal. It's time for you to think when you are heading, decide what you truly want, and then ask your boyfriend what does he want. If you don't want the same, it's time to leave him then

[Asker]

He’s promised to marry me since the beginning but he doesn’t want to do it unless he has 20,000 in the bank or 30,000 this is going to take a while i think he has like 6,000 in the bank but also he wants to travel with me

[Asker]

We just had sex and he left out of the room twice and im sad all alone

[CharlieDMX]

I feel you. Unfortunately, his promise is useless unless he has decided on a timeframe to achieve his monetary goal. I understand wanting to be financially stable to marry because I'm on the same boat...

[CharlieDMX]

... however, wanting to get engaged to someone also means sitting with your partner and establish goals as a couple, like both saving to buy a house, set a reachable target, and a timeframe

[Asker]

He is planning to do it in 2 years he said

[CharlieDMX]

Has his salary improved from when you started dating yo this day? I am asking because you mention you are already 2 years in and he has saved 20% of the goal. You love him, but you have to be realistic

[Asker]

He’s working so I think it has improved but now someone scammed him and took his money so now I don't know

[CharlieDMX]

I'm sorry for him, but to be honest, I find hard to believe that is not an excuse. Mark my words, he's not going to marry you

[Asker]

Are you sure? He talks about having children all the time, he looks at apartments and shows me, Last time I asked him he said that he had 10,000 in the bank I don’t know how much now, he refuses to move out unless he is financially stable, and he told me once he saves up money with medical assisting we’ll move out

[Asker]

And of course for both of us moving out means getting married.

[Iron_Man]

Don’t have sex until you’re married problem solved

[Asker]

We’re not financially stable enough to get married so the problem remains…

[Iron_Man]

Just don’t have sex wait

[Asker]

The thing is I don’t know how to say no. He obviously enjoys sex and if I say no maybe he won’t be happy

[Iron_Man]

It’s worth it wait till marriage

[EaterPeter]

Yes.

[Bklynbadboy12]

What stopping you from doing these things

[Asker]

Lack of money both of us

[Bklynbadboy12]

Okay so work on changing that I you want to be with him don't let anything stand in your way