Is it normal to feel sad if your partner doesn’t get turned on by you?

[Anonymous]

It’s morning here in my area and I just don’t feel good about myself. A guy friend from work introduced me to his buddy. Since he knows I’m looking for a relationship. Me and this new guy have been talking to get to know each other. He just got out of a relationship months ago and I have been online dating. Well I spent the night at his house and nothing happened. This morning We were cuddling next to each other and staring into each other’s eyes and smiling. I was hinting to him I wanted something more and I was in the mood. He smiled at me and agreed to satisfy me. But he wasn’t hard and suggested to finger me instead. It made me feel awkward but I didn’t want to ruin the moment and I let him. I got wet and didn’t come and he tired of trying, and we left it at that. Then he looks at his cellphone and tells me he needs to get ready to go to work. I also told him I need to get home and wash up. Then we kissed good bye and I’m just thinking about what just happened and If I did something wrong.

I also want to avoid him for a couple of days. So we could give each other space. Am I making the right decision?

[Aakash_Hangargi]

That's a stupid decision lol sorry.

He might have not been ready yet or was not expecting sex.

But he should have got the morning would at least may be nervous he might have not wanted a relationship so he was thinking instead of being aroused as were it could lead to.

It's just an assumption of mine !!!

Donot avoid just talk it out it will lessen the awkwardness if you avoid them it's over or better you end it but it will be a stupid reason to avoid.

It would make him feel real bad

[Aelleden]

I mean sometimes you're just not in the mood you know, you could be laying down next do the sexieat woman in the universe and nit be hard it's ok.
Also he tried to make you cum and he didn't manage too it's alao ok, yiu can have good sex without cuming, it's not the ultimate goal in my opinion.
Just wait a bit and come back to him later and see what happens.
Maybe he had something to hide on his penis and got scared to show you or something like that also

[MrTuxedo]

Believe it or not, but there is such things as "guys not being in mood", sure it doesn't happen often, but sometimes, we just ain't in mood, same as you gals.

[talka20]

Maybe performance anxiety didn't let him het hard... maybe tired mentally/physically or maybe sleepy still atm... maybe has work timing in mind n knows it can be late if went far n did everything... thats how i feel can be possible

[AndrésC64]

It's not necessarily that he isn't attracted to you. It could be he was nervous. But of course it is disappointing.

[Wise4myage]

Id say that's quite normal.

[pizzalovershouse]

Yes cuz that's part of the excitement

[Cowboy6666]

Lol, Change your boyfriend. He missed a big and great chance with you.
Probably he just masturbated before meeting you or has low sex drive.

[Coolhand19]

Absolutely! Don't feel ashamed, though... it's their problem.

[2021biguy]

Maybe he doesn't want to rush into sex like a lot of women say.

[Z1pTD]

Yeah it’s normal to feel bad but also some guys just have trouble getting hard