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Sexual Health Is it normal to have less sex in an almost 10 year old marital relationship?
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I think am going to a state of sexual deprivation in my married life.
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8 48Common but not permanent. Your guy just needs to be shaken up. Try something unexpected.
Unfortunately this is quite common. A lot of people struggle with it
That why married women cheat!
That is not healthy at all.
Have you brought it up with your husband to find out what is the problem?
Yes we have had a talk and he says that he has reached that stage of his life when he is not much interested in physical relationship.
That does not sound healthy for him to say. if I didn't know better I will say he is probably having an affair outside of you guys relationship. Smh!!!
REALLY? Damn, he's older than my mom then? She's 104. I'm just a kid at 75 and am horny every single day. I WISH I could have a physical relationship!!
Both me and my wife continually have more and more time together intimately. Dont know about others , although both of us keep creating spicey scenarios to try up to 10-15 hours a week. All good in my marriage.
If you feel sexually deprived then you are sexually deprived. Perhaps your husband has a medical problem? It might be worth talking to him about it.
pretty common, thats why people try to "spice up" their love life
It's not normal at all Nayana. No sex is a bad thing. Why aren't you two fucking?
Yes it can be normal to get in a rut but there are things you can do to spice it up and get that spark back. Dress up in lingerie, roleplay, etc. It takes great effort to maintain after a number of years of marriage.
I haven’t had any since before Halloween I’ve been married for twenty five years now. I’m going crazy
Can understand how you are feeling. Thanks for the opinion.
Drives me crazy not doing it
It is normal but very unpleasant and disturbing.
Everything is normal in marriages.
It's normal, but it's not very good.
Sex is definitely important.
It's time to spice things up in the bed, giving him sexy surprises etc.
Probably he's having a busy time at work, so just choose a time where he is more free and in relaxed state of mind and give him a sexy surprise.
Be open to new stuff to encourage his curiosity.
You can start doing stuff which you were not ready to do before
I already had a conversation with him about it and he says that at this point of life he isn't very interested in sex, so he couldn't be physical like before.
This might be a temporary phase due to the stress of the daily life. Anyway there are many reasons if this continues. It can be due many factors like lack of exercise, or too much exercise, work pressure, reduction in hormone levels, decreasing health etc.
Try to do a medical checkup occasionally to be informed about the blood pressure, sugar levels etc. Also there are many foods and habits which increases or decreases libido. Does he drink too much coffee?
He drinks more tea and very less often coffee. He eats mostly vegetarian food too.
Good. Some vegetables are really good at increasing libido. By the way, are you sure that he doesn't want intimacy like he used to or is that an excuse for any recent insecurities he might be facing?
Yes he doesn't want to have sex. From later part of last year we have had hardly much sex and I feel that it's something wrong with me but he says that all is good with me and he isn't much interested.
Okay. You guys should work it out. He should feel that something is to be changed. You guys are probably in your thirties it's too early to lose interest in sex in a relationship. At least four times a month is healthy. Better do some research on how to boost the sex life and sex drive
Have you thought about simply asking him if he'd be okay with you finding a side guy specifically for a casual relationship? You might just be surprised by his reaction.
Its not normal to be honest but the busy life and people leaving in joint family or big family makes it very uneasy for frequent sex. However if they are is a healthy relationship between the two there is always a way or plan that can be made on once or twice a month for some nice pounding at some resort or far away from family where the two can spend a time together.
Time to turn up the heat. What does your husband like?
Well it may be normal but not essential
You can definitely work on it to make it exciting again and increase the sex frequency
As regards men, I believe they are always hungry for sex
Yes I guess it is
spunk it up a bit then. buy some toys and sexy underware and supprise him ask him for sex in places u wouldn't normally
how often do u have sex and what positions and where?
Monthly twice or thrice in bedroom. Mostly missionary or doggystyle or cowgirl.
@nayans so how u gonna spice it up then?
In our country there is a trend women want less sex before kids and after they are mature mom they need more and opposite for men. You can try to reduce his workload if possible so he can have more energy or weekends can be dedicated for this.
You both have to work int. You can get it back!