Is it normal to want soft delicate sex with a regular partner and the occasional deep hard bitter sweet sex?

I have only ever been able to have slow sex passionate loving making sex with one partner. And he is much older. He used to last an incredibly long time, but he was a little too large so it got a bit chaffey after a while.
I enjoyed this style but would have preferred it with my smaller sized friends.
Now this is something I find really strange with a lot of guys. Why is there this obsession with changing positions every two seconds like its a marathon sexercise?

Why can't I have slow and sensual?

Sometimes I do want it deeper, but it always feels like these guys work themselves up then have the cheek to say I drain them.

I took control with a recent guy and he kept grabbing me trying to make me thrust harder and faster so I'd stop or slap his hands away at one point I leaned so far forward he couldn't get a grip of me. Looking back this could be seen as rape.
But he kept moaning I was going to make him cum really quickly if I continued. I did and he was able to enjoy it, we came together and he completely flipped out, it was the first time he really let go.
I could tell that was a bad move. And I haven't heard from him since.

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Most Helpful Girls

  • I'm the same way. I like to go slower.. feel every move. When they just pound away it loses that certain feeling. So usually I tell him to do it the way I like until I get off, then he's free to do it however he wants. I think the changing position every freaking 2 seconds is incredibly annoying... you find your groove, then they change it again. Ugh. They probably do it because that's what they see watching porn. think about it... it gets boring watching the same position for more than 30 seconds, right? But that's porn, this is real life. Tie his ass up, then you won't have these problems. Lol

    • Haha I'd love to be given the opportunity but again not exactly something they're prepared to do. The fear on this guy's face when my hand grazed his bum. I wouldn't dare penetrate it without his permission. And the fact he got so iffy about it I made it a joke, "one day I'll convert you!" The horror of his poor face. Haha. I think that was the effect to send him running...

    • Some men are just too damn uptight.

  • I think it's normal to want something soft and sweet once in a while

Most Helpful Guys

  • you like what you like. You have to have someone that respects you enough to make sex about both of you, not just him.

  • Most women I've been with like it that way to and frankly so do i

    • I've always thought of sex like this, it's one of the few free pleasures we have in life much like food it should first appeal to my eyes, then my nose, my mouth. The lasting effect should have my body feeling refreshed and nourished. Ready to take on the next challenge. You can only get that when you take your time and really get to know your partner in bed. Bonking away is for kids. I adore the way you appear to look after your partner, you're such a sweetheart. :-)

    • I couldn't have said it better myself and thank you very much

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  • Don't bother to over think...