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Is it ok for a female that's 22 to be walking around in panties and bra around her brother that is 13?

Me and my girl got into a argument because I think it's weird of the kind of relationship she has with her younger brother it all started off of a picture she sent me wearing nothing but panties and bra I noticed in the background laying in bed was a skinny male figure so immediately I'm like wtf who is that and before I can say something she like do you see my brother in the background so I'm like that's not normal to me what kind of incest stuff u got going on then she tells me she walks around the house like that all the time me personally I think it's weird and isn't normal my girl has a nice body plus nipple rings tattoos etc. They play around a lot and her brother goes a bit too far he young he does stupid stuff like pulls his privates out in front of her and when she's in the shower he would pull the curtain back crazy stuff like that so recently while having a conversation I she says to me that her brother said he doesn't care what I say that's she his girlfriend and she sends a message saying he loves me 💏 so I'm like yo this is not normal at all and y'all on some incest stuff so she goes off on me cursing me out and hangs up on me and says I'm tired of you saying this incest stuff its very annoying and that she is the only one in her household that jokes with him and plays with him there is nothing wrong at all with playing with your siblings but I just feel they go a little over board with things I mean I grew up different that type of stuff didn't go on in my household growing up I have 2 younger sisters when I'm at my mom house and want to lounge around or spend the night I have some basket ball shorts or sweats on and my sisters wears shorts or sweats as well I feel after a certain age you shouldn't be walking around like that but I guess she grew up different so she's pissed off at me for the moment so I didn't even bother responding when she went off on me we will talk about at some point but how should I go about this?
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  • There are people in this world that have villages where people are pretty much naked their whole life and for them it is no big deal. There are nudist communities in North America, Europe , Australia, and who knows where else where public nudity is completely acceptable. There are some countries where nudity in one's own home with family is acceptable. And there are lots of homes even in the US where family nudity is acceptable. And where that is not quite accepted, partial dress, such as bra and panties, is acceptable. But in all of these situations, it is a non-sexual atmosphere. It is what is expected and does not carry a taboo stigma.

    But what you described does not fit those situations. Her brother pulling out his genitals is a sexual act that should have been stopped, not tolerated or laughed about. Him pulling the shower curtain open on her is wrong and her accepting that is wrong. And him calling her his girlfriend is way off base. The fact that she is not only tolerating that but seems to encourage all of this is way wrong.

    And where are the parents in all this? I would say that that family is screwed up and your girlfriend has accepted that messed up way of being. She will probably bring you nothing but grief if you stay with her.

    • Well said my friend you are right i usually only make my incest comments when she tells me the crazy stuff that goes on and it gets her upset I can't change how she grew up which I do feel is weird I feel maybe I shouldn't have said it I usually go back and forth with her in a argument when I know I'm right but this time I just left it alone

  • Well just have three letters to express what I think WTF men are you serious right now that's not cool I mean she's hot his no kid anymore WTF that's not normal we all grew like you Bro you should tell her to straight the fuck up its inappropriate

    • I really don't think she gets it man I mean if she grew up like that she thinks it's ok I guess I just have to tell keep that kind of shit to herself

    • Yeah Bro I grew up like you respect in the house I mean I never saw my sis in lingerie neither in bikini I prefer to keep my distance I mean that's what you have to do when you grow up but the problem is not her it's that 13 year old mother fucker who is checking his sis you are in deep shit but I am sure you'll make it *brofist*

Most Helpful Girls

  • Maybe it was only a moment. Or she stays all the time with her brother? Maybe she just got naked to take a picture for you only for a moment. It has happened to me to undress to change clothes and then to remember that I left my clothes in another room so I went to get them fast even though my dad was there. So it was just a moment and because I was in a hurry. And with you are in your underwear it's similar to when you are at the beach. Maybe she considers a taboo only to get completely naked in front of her brother.
    Or sometimes with a person of the other sex can be like this: she may think that it's her territory and her right to do whatever she likes and ignore that her brother is there. If he doesn't want to watch he can go. While he may think that she should be more careful.

  • I don't know... maybe try to talk to your girl more about. Don't let her think that you're suspecting on anything or something.
    Personally for me, I don't find it weird when my brother sees me in my underwear. I'm 19 and he's 17. Usually, he doesn't care if I flaunt my body... but only inside the house.
    He just says "Piss off, sis!"

  • No. By 13 he is sexually aware/curious. By the boy exposing himself it clearly demonstrates inappropriate behaviour and his sister needs to stop what she is doing. Where are the parents here?

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  • Try to tell her that it is unhealthy for a kid at that age to be exposed to that an it could cause detrimental effects to his mental health.

    • I agree.

  • I'm 23 and my 10 yr old brother sees me naked (nothing sexual) and I'm fine but it really depends on the person. My family is like semi-nudist, we're fine with being naked in front of each other (my parents aren't usually naked at all) but we usually wear clothes. Although in your situation, her brother seems to be sexually attracted to her and you should figure something out.

  • Not at all.

  • I grew up with only sisters... I ended up having fantasies about 2 of them because they didn’t wear much around me. One had nightgowns that were pretty much see through too. It didn’t help that I’ didn’t date till I was mich older.

    • Bro same i got so hard around them in the pool at night. Playing little games

  • Look they are siblings just being siblings and are comfy enuff to not hide anything. I'm 47 and my bro is 45 and we run around in our underwear all the time because it's comfy. Who cares, it's my house. He's my brother. It's not like there's any weird sexual stuff. I even wore a long shirt with no undies before bed a few times and he just makes sure he looks elsewhere.
    Sometimes he inadvertently frees a ball while adjusting. I either ignore it or kinda jokingly say I'm gonna knee him unless he covers them. He knows I would do it repeatedly so he usually fixes the undies right away.

    Maybe you as the poster are just overthinking it? Think of them as best friends. Who cares?

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