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Is it ok for a white guy to play with bdsm with his black girlfriend?

Ok for starters, I am white and my girlfriend is black.
We have been wanting to get into bondage for a while and a couple of days ago we decided to go to a bdsm store thats in our city to have a look for a few toys.
She basically wants to be restrained in a few positions and spanked, flogged, tickled and for me to use a vibrator on her while she tries as hard as possible to resist having an orgasm until the vibrator forces it out of her.

The girl in the store made a comment that a white guy shouldn't be whipping a black girl, we both found the comment extremely rude considering it was an adult store and we are a couple thats been together for 4yrs in a loving relationship.

am I missing something?
What do people here think?
In the context of our relationship, is there anything wrong with us getting into some bdsm?

To be honest, I didn't even think about colour until the rude attendant mentioned it.

What do you think?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • There are always going to be those who have their views, rules, and guidelines of how a interracial relationship should/shouldn't be (inside and outside of the bedroom).
    Try your best to ignore them because the moment you start letting other peoples negative comments get into your ear, that is the moment they have won.
    You may start to view your relationship differently and have self doubt.
    Silence that noise and do what you both enjoy!

  • That is so stupid lmao it's not like you're race-playing! So now certain races can't take part in types of sex because of their skin color?
    From a black woman to you, a white man: Go whip that ass!

    • Oh that ass is getting a whipping tonight and she's gonna be tickled silly.

Most Helpful Guys

  • With any form of BDSM it is mutual consent and understanding of the limits unless you make it public , it is completely private between the two of you.
    My view is that it is for you to organise the context. Would she have passed any comment if you were same race and you wanted your girlfriend to role play as a desperate for cash street hooker.
    The girl should have kept the comments to herself

  • I don't see why it would be wrong to do so.
    Are racists really going to conflate that back to slavery?
    Its play, white or black does not matter. What matters is that it is a dynamic you both enjoy and that works for you. If that is BDSM go for it! Nothing to feel ashamed or guilty off.

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  • Bind and beat that girl!! Clearly you both want it. The store clerk was completely out of line. Just out of curiosity, was she black?

    • Oh that ass is getting worked over tonight and she's going to be tickled like crazy haha.

    • Give her a few strokes of the cane or crop for me!!

  • The girl in the store was incredibly unprofessional and as someone who works in a sex shop, you would think she would be more open minded, or at least keep her stupid opinions to herself.

    If you want to do it, and you're lady wants to do it, then there is zero issue, man.

    You both have yourselves a good old time and fuck what narrow minded idiots think, it's literally none of their concern.

  • If you guys enjoy it, then go nuts. As long as it's enjoyable for both partners, legal and consensual, then it is of nobody else's business.

  • The hell with store girl.
    Do what your heart desires.

  • The girl was being a dumbass, ignore her.

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