Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health I'm a 44 year old single mom. I'm super busy and don't have time for a real relationship right now (nor do I want one). However, sometimes I just want some hot sex. I've ignored this desire for a while, but recently I started a "friends with benefits" relationship with a guy in my apartment complex. There was always sexual tension between us, but (for reasons I explained) I never pursued anything. However, a couple of weekends ago (when my kids were with their dad) we broke the tension and had sex. This last weekend (when my kids were with their dad again) we had sex 2 more times.
Even if I didn't have higher priorities right now I wouldn't be interested in a real relationship with this guy. He's 23 years old and I have no desire to be in a real relationship with someone that age. However, I am loving the sex. His sexual stamina is amazing and he goes above and beyond the call of duty to please me sexually. I get a huge ego boost someone that young/sexy would be so physically/sexually attracted/interested in me. I also am extremely physically/sexually attracted to him (but not emotionally)
However, there is another part of me that wonders if this is a good idea. I've told him directly I only want sex. He acted happy about that, but there is a bit of me that's worried feelings could potentially creep in for him. I'm also worried if it could potentially negatively affect my kids if they knew about me having a purely sexual relationship ( I have made sure to keep it hidden from them thus far). Although I don't want a real relationship now I am concerned this could be a problem if I change my mind later. I also feel a little dirty for wanting a purely sexual relationship and from wanting it with a much younger guy.
There's a huge part of me that wants to keep this up for a while because I am enjoying it a ton, but part of me wonders if it's a good idea. Is it a bad idea for me (a single mom) to have an explicitly purely sexual relationship with a guy? Or is it OK?
Is it OK for me (a single mom) to have an explicitly purely sexual relationship with a guy?
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Don't feel guilt it's fine
But he’s like small enough to be your son
I’m 21 and my mum is 43 so to me it sounds weird I mean you could have mothered him. Besides that he won’t get feelings why are you worried about that? He’s a boy and he’s a young boy he’s just using you for his sexual desires and fantasies. Men don’t generally catch feelings from having sex.
Yes...
It's ok I think, you're a grown women it's your choice however I would just be mindful of how your children may be seeing it but as long as you stay available to them you're alright.
Agree
Totally ok.
Your free and over 21 (18) having a child doesn't make you a criminal I'm sure that you are an excellent mother to you child , its probably making you be a better mom s3x does relieve tension, so cowgirl up or howl at the moon what ever you prefer its better for the whole family's overall stress factor
Is this one of your kids friends? Or is it really someone from the building?
When I read this question I asked why would it not be okay? I feel like the very problem with it is that it's a sexual and we look at that as a problem because sexual activity in our society is looked at in a negative light and has a negative stigma but it's absolutely fine weather if you're in a committed relationship with them or not and they're just friends because at the end of the day everyone needs affection
in my opinion you're fine
Yeah
It is absolutely FINE
A ladies has needs! There’s no problem with this if he is ok with the arrangement. 😋
nothing wrong with it. he likes it and you like it. then got for it.
Good that you are worried about this best friends with benefits deal. Nothing wrong with the idea, each their own, however when it involves a 21 year age gap that makes it a bigger deal since someone is more likely get hurt. Especially the young guy. Just make absolutely you both are on the same page. So think first.
Your a grown ass woman. Enjoy yourself. Do I need to say more.
If you aren't harming anyone, it's not affecting your kids in anyway, then do you.
Just because you are a mom doesn't mean you can't have sex. Your kids should always be your priority, but if you got that down, enjoy yourself.
I'd be happy to have that relationship with a woman I trust. I would never do it with some random person.
Don't tell your kids, bail out if feelings get involved, and enjoy the hot sex. I hear all the time about guys my age hooking up with single mums your age-- everyone has needs to be satisfied, so might as well get yours, as long as the kids remain your first priority of course.
Yes why not... As long as you kids don't know about it.. Because it may set a wrong example for them. Besides that its natural for men or women. To have an sexually relationship.
People need sex
Yep, why not. Just make sure the guy understands the nature of your affair as well