Is it ok jerking off having a girlfriend and living with her?

[Ardanot]

I'm in doubt if it is ok, specially watching porn (not to mention with other person online, that would be out of bounds I think) what do you guys and girls think? Should I do it?

Yoy can PM me if you want to debate with me

[undefined-intentions]

I'd say watching porn and masturbating is okay (and I do so myself), while sexting with other people is crossing the line.

But: if you're very guilt-ridden over it, talk to HER about it! Ask her if it bothers her or if she's okay with it, and do whatever the two of you agree upon is okay.

[BorHab788]

I think you should ask your girlfriend to watch porn with you while you are having sex. That would make it less likely that you would want to jerk off to it when you are alone.
I think it IS ok to jerk off to porn when ur girlfriend isn’t there, but most girls wouldn’t approve.

[Tricia720]

My boyfriend and I have a very healthy and exciting sex life. Yet I masturbate more than he does and to porn at that. He doesn't mind it one bit.
Doing it online with someone else? No, that is pushing it for me.

[Ardanot]

I agree with you, we also have a very good sex life but sometimes I think that I have more urge to masturbate than to have sex and that worries me, as well as if I masturbate not performing as I should

[Tricia720]

My boyfriend and I take turns once a month trying something new. Could be a new position, role-playing, toys and/or fantasy. You two should try that and see if that doesn't help with the performance issue. I notice when I get bored I tend to masturbate more. Once I tell my man this, he does his best to step up. Talk to her about this.

[Ardanot]

I guess I should talk it with here bust she doesn't masturbate so I'm afraid she takes it as a bad thing. About sex never had any performance issue but I'm a bit worried I could have it if I masturbate too much. Trying new things once a month would be perfect but she likes pretty vanilla sex while I'm quite naughty and up to anything she asks me to try (always told her that but she never comes up with anything) although I usually enjoy sex.

[Tricia720]

You both need to be on the same level or YOUR needs will never be met the way you wish. Within the first few months of me dating my boyfriend, we got the awkward "learn each others sex needs" out of the way. If you're too uncomfortable discussing it then how would you have have that inicredible sex that makes fourth of July look like jackfuckinshit rofl. Both parties should be selfless lovers in the bedroom. She might just be shy opening up at first.

[Ardanot]

We have been together for almost two years and I do really know how to make her enjoy to the point where she can barely move, and I do really enjoy it but sometimes I feel I need something more kinky since it is pretty vanilla sex. The times I let slip some of those things she was like are you joking no? So I don't know what I can really do to advance forward that way and try new things.

[Tricia720]

Well everyone has needs. Be honest with her and be open. But be prepared for some awkward tension if she hears something she isn't comfortable with. That's all the advice I have. But start small and grow together is the only advice left.

[Ardanot]

Thank you very much for your help and advices, I hope it goes well doing it as you suggested.

[Jessjochen]

I know my partner masturbates to porn. Can’t say it bothers me.

[RandomLoser]

Most women seem to be disgusted by this. They prefer a man who never thinks about sex (neither with her nor with other women).

[Jessjochen]

@RandomLoser don’t think that’s true.

[RandomLoser]

Getting sex becomes more rare for a man the longer the relationship is.

[Jessjochen]

@RandomLoser probably a bit but that initial passion goes a bit.

[Ardanot]

We've been together for 2 years but we have now more sex than before and I think it will go like this for now at least

[RandomLoser]

@jessjochen Nothing to do with passion. Women give sex to men in order to get a relationship in return. When he's already there for 3 years she no longer has a reason to open her legs.

[Tricia720]

@RandomLoser That's the dumbest thing I ever heard. I was with my ex for 7 years and we fucked like rabbits. I was the one initiating most of the sex we did have. Only reason we broke up is because he got into video games and neglected ME. So suck that one.

[RandomLoser]

@Tricia720 that's extremely rare and is not the norm

[Berethor]

Porn is just movies so it okay, unless the guy spend too much time on porn and neglect his girlfriend.

[Tea-Spaghetti]

Yup it’s ok

[Iron_Man]

That’s between the two of you handle your own business

[Ardanot]

She doesn't masturbate, as far as I know she never did, and I'm afraid about asking her and she believes that I lost interest in her

[Twalli]

You shouldn't need to if they don't withhold sex.

[Nicholasgr]

Masturbating is perfectly normal and it's not cheating so yes it's OK and you can do it as much as you like if it doesn't bother your sexual life.

[abc--123]

Its fine

[ManMale]

No. It ain’t okay dude

[billluc69]

sure, do it toghter

[Anonymous]

Of course its okay, nothing serious about watching porn to fulfill your fantasies

[H3xaD3x]

Many girls find it as loosing interest towards her. They hate when guy is looking pictures of other girls than watching p0rn. up to have a chat?

[RandomLoser]

@H3xaD3x most women don't want him having any sexual thoughts period. They just want the relationship and the money. Male sexual lust frightens and disgusts them. What do you think causes that whole MeToo hysteria. Just slap a woman on the butt and she'll seriously started crying that she feels violated and traumatized for life, and will want to punish the guy for life and castrate him. The female brain evolved very different from the male brain.