Is it ok to remain friends with a guy who raped someone in your family?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Talk to a counselor. Figure out your priorities and what remaining friends with them would mean.

I've had similar issues with my family in the past—although nothing as severe as rape. Nobody wants to hurt the family, and so they gloss over the offense of one member as "forgiving" them. Strong group preservation instinct. Apparently it's not uncommon.

My sister refused to do that, and she had to break away from most of the family as a result. She is still close to a lot of us, but does not come to family events where the offending party will be present.

I am still friends with the offender, but I am not friends with them at any cost to my sister. I take her side 100%. I am friends with them on my own time and at my own risk.

[Drumlin2001]

In most cases no.
But reminds me of the film A Time to Kill. One of the experts witnesses is exposed as having a conviction for rape. As a 17yr old he was involved with a 15yr old. Turns out they later married and had been together for 40 years.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Absolutely not. What the hell?
Not only are you disrespecting that family member, you’re also disrespecting yourself, and enabling him to think it’s okay and forgivable.


Why would you even ask if it’s okay to be friends with a fucking rapist and a criminal…What the hell?

[Agape93]

Nope.
I hate 90% of my family. But if a friend of mine raped anyone, family or not, they're dead.

[laurieluvsit]

Yes... once he's been property castrated and served a couple of hundred years in prison!!

[Aerissa_Jade]

That would be harmful to the person that was raped, and only make things worse for them.

[Gordyshore]

What is wrong with you?

[OlderAndWiser]

You are known by your associates.

[RobT312]

Sorry , I’m not gonna be friends with anyone that raped someone.
that crosses the line for me, no exceptions

[Red_Arrow]

That would say a lot about you and none of it is good.

[summiter]

Why would you do that. He committed a felony and should be in jail.

[EmmaMary]

No, absolutely not.

[DonkeyDan]

Seems like a weird thing to even want to do. How does the family member feel about you being friends with them?

[pixie215]

no, doing that proves there are no boundaries and what he did was ok. when you know it was wrong

[jshm2]

Of course. How else you going to get close enough to eventually murder them?

[Miristheiss]

NO.
Is it ok to torture them to death?
Mmmmm, maybe.

[Fireguy17]

I would give that a hard no f-ing way.

[Gwenhwyfar]

No!!!

[anon1903]

You shouldn't be friends with a rapist whatsoever!

[elizamichale1]

Could be tricky

[Andres77]

He should be in jail.
So no!

[skytatoe]

Yeah I don't think that's a good idea lol

[ragooo8]

If true its kinda messed up

[RebeccaBI2000]

I couldn’t do it. I am surprised he is still standing. I don’t agree with being his or her friend still.