Is it okay for guys to watxh porn and masturbate while in a relationship?

I once read an article about porn and how it can affect relationships, how it can lead to cheating and not being satisfied with their partners. I recently found out that mu boyfriend has been watching porn and masturbate every once in a week or so, and that makes me worried. We’re not living together and we’ve been together for 3-4yrs now. We have sex like once a week but we can't right now due to the pandemic. I feel like he’s not satisfied with me because of what he does.

anyways in general is it normal for guys to do so, even if they’re in a relationship? Does it affect the relationship and is it something bad and i should be worried about?
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  • No anxiety when one masturbates (other than the risk of getting caught if that is an issue in the relationship). Often anxiety is a big part of what comes from partner sex: anxiety about how I smell, how my body will perform, will my body perform, does my partner like me, my body, how my body reacts etc. For many people, unfortunately, relationship sex is filled with so much anxiety that it is not enjoyable
    A person is tired and masturbation doesn't require the same level of effort, both mentally and physically to perform
    It is not painful. For both men and women, relationship sex can be physically painful and the inability to resolve the pain or effectively discuss it with their partner leads to the desiring relationship sex less or avoiding it
    A person is bored
    A person is bored with their relationship and wants to play out a fantasy in their head
    A person is stressed
    Because they like it
    They don't have to worry about getting rejected by their partner
    Their partner is sick, has their period or just doesn't want it when the partner does
    They want to do it quick or don't have the time required for relationship sex
    Their partner is traveling or away from their partner
    It's convenient, like in the shower in the morning or evening
    It is their best attempt to remain faithful to the marriage because they are really unhappy and don't have anyway to resolve marital conflict outside the bedroom
    They do not desire the kind of sex they will have with their partner
    It's fun
    They want to indulge in a fantasy that they are: too afraid, embarrassed or fear rejection from their partner to share with them
    They just want an orgasm and they know how best to get there in the fastest way possible
    To learn more about their own body and what they like and how to reach orgasm

Most Helpful Guy

  • it's definitely acceptable and normal for guys to masturbate and watch porn even in a happy relationship where our sexual needs are taken care of. I'm gonna use myself as an example: I'm in a sexually satisfied relationship but as someone with an exceptionally high drive, I still feel the need to masturbate daily (sometimes twice or more in a session). watching porn is the norm as it might be quite difficult to orgasm without visual/auditory stimulation. I also use sex toys as a masturbation aid as it helps me reach orgasm much quicker and the resulting orgasm is a hundred times more intense. so it's definitely a normal thing to do!

Most Helpful Girls

  • Girl trust me no 😑been there he's obsessed with masterbating and watching girls soon after he cheated cuz he not satisfied and go fuck other girlsss. And porn fuck that shit ruined a lot of relationship

  • Go on Reddit "Loveafterporn" and See The----SCORN. Hell on Wheels. xx

    • Thanks to Gag. xx

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  • Sex once a week is not enough for most young guys so of course they masturbate frequently... all guys do it. As long as the porn does not affect your relationship he is probably ok watching a little while he jerks off.
    When you do see him maybe try going for round 2 or 3... your thoughts?

  • That is why when i have a boyfriend. I do whatever and become his personal porn star

  • Yeah it’s perfectly fine

  • He is not cheating on you. It is pretty normal behavior especially with the way the world is today.

  • That's a matter for any individual couple.

  • It's not, it's called porn-addiction. And he's not doing it once a week, figure he's doing at once or more every day. Yes, it's sick.
    But wait... a 'relationship'? If you two are not together it's not a 'relationship'. The pandemic is just an excuse. If you want to have sex you can, and should.
    This is going nowhere.

  • It is absolutely nothing to worry about, other than that it may be more difficult for him to get off later, so takes more time. If that happens, ask him to stop the porn and masturbation and just keep working on it with you instead, so your vagina feels way better and he appreciates real sex again. Also, porn can strongly distort a guy's perceptions of what is hot and what is not. The women in the porn do nothing but work out, strike highly seductive poses that are probably not stimulating for them, are very expertly trained to pretend that the sex is way better than it actually is, frequently have plastic surgery on their breasts, vaginas, stomachs, buttocks, etc. You can be absolutely sure that they are probably not "the whole package", as their primary function is only to help men fantasize until they cum. You might also have to try some new positions and bring him back down to earth on certain surgical "perfections". It is probably nothing to worry about.

  • My longer gfs would tell me too. I had a higher sex drive so they would just tell me to go take care of it. Lol. They never were told no...

  • What do you mean not right now? You live in India or something?
    At your age, that’s the best you’re going to get with men. Better he’s doing it to porn and not the local whore, right?

    • Yes funny thing is, i actually live in india😂😂 so i guess you’ll understand

    • Oh yeah, whereabouts?

  • My personal opinion is that as long as it does not interfere with sex with his partner (depriving her because he’s jacking off all the time), and he is realistic about it being just a fantasy land, it’s OK.

  • Hell yeah!!

  • It's normal and only excessive porn watching is a problem. That means watching it more than once a day. You know there's a problem if he turns down sex with you in favor of porn.

  • guys will choose maturation because it can be less effort. porn is a slippery slope, however...

  • Yesssss...

  • I have in the past. I don’t see an issue with it, better masturbating than cheating

  • Its fine

  • It is normal. Do it together next time

  • fuck yes we are men nothing wrong with it but if its taking over your sex life thats different

  • yeah 100% as long as it's not too much