Is it okay for my sister to have control over my sex-life?

[Anonymous]

Okay, it's not really sex-life. I am 18. I'm very cautious of getting pregnant or pursuing risky behavior with my boyfriend. I'm very sure that him and I are very mature.

We have made out and he left hickies on my neck. My sister found out and said I cannot be alone with him ever again. She is 31.

She goes out of her way to make sure we are not alone. What can I do to butt her out because it gets annoying and makes me feel untrustworthy.

I know she loves and cares for me though.

[Daniela1982]

How many questions have you seen asked on here about "Can I get pregnant when blah blah blah?" or "I'm pregnant, please help!"? More than a million teens get pregnant every year in the US. Your sister is 31 and has gone through all that stuff so she knows the score. You don't think at least half of those million teens thought that they were careful too, yet they got pregnant? Maybe they were busy sexting their boyfriend in sex ed. class instead of paying attention. Who knows? Sometimes you have to give it up and listen to the one who has experience with something that you don't. If it were me I would be grateful that my sister cared about me and and would guide me if I was doing something that could ruin my life. Ask her to give you a sex test to see if you know enough about sex that you won't get pregnant and that if you pass it that she would have a little faith in you and stop with her mothering. I'm sure she would appreciate that you value her opinions. By the way, where is your mother or do you live with your sister?

[HowAwkwardToBeAlive]

Um. Tell her that you’re an adult and that it’s your relationship. Tell her you’re not stupid and you know how to practice safe sex and you don’t need her breathing down your neck. Wtf, I can see why you’re annoyed.

[ohshee]

You have to under stand some thing we were all where your at now 18 and we thought we new it all lol we all tried to grow up so fast and even tho some choices we made were good there are some choices you need help with ,,, your sister was your age and if you d it down and talk to her she will tell you ,, you are doing the same thing she MIGHT HAVE but she didn't have a bigger sister looking out for her also understand this let's say you and dude do your thing you get pregnant guess who's slwsys going to be there for you. Not him it will be your sister also she's not trying to boss your around or take your fun away she's trying to be your friend and protect her. If ur grown up like you think you are then you need to be more honest with you always use protections if ur saying you do right now remember now your doing it twice because your sister is making sure of it. You really need to walk up out of the blue hug her and day thank you and tell her you love her

[integrale77]

I'd tell her she's clearly not getting enough sex herself if she's imposing herself on you'd sex life!

Set her up with a blind date and call the boyfriend round while she's out.

[JPrez]

Tell your sister to talk with me and we’ll work out a plan shortly.

[Ranasal_Gansen]

Well you are 18 I guess. I say if you want to do it just do it where she isn’t watching.

[jeremy_09]

if you're 18 it's 100% up to you

[Wise4myage]

No its not ok, because she's overreacting. So remind her that you are capable of being responsible. Unless your under 18, then she has no right to interfere.

[swettannie]

no offense, but your sister is a bitch

[Valnac]

Have a heart to heart with her and tell her how you feel.

[TheAfrikan]

It Is all okayshe is protecting you.

[steveranger]

Listen to her. She is experienced. She knows things better than you. Only having sex is not all. You should also focus on other things. They are more important than sex. You will come to know this in your late 20s. So avoid sex and pregnancy. Do it after 21 or whenever you are settled.

[steveranger]

If u you oh need any personal help message me

[gandolph3]

you are old enough to make your own mistakes