Is it okay to be kind of bi?

[ilikewriting]

I think I like girls, and I think I have a crush on a girl right now, but it feels a little different than a normal crush, and honestly less strong. However, that could just be because I was brought up to think that anyone who isn’t straight is "just very confused". I’m scared because I feel more comfortable calling myself straight, partially because of my upbringing and partially because I have such a strong preference for guys, plus, I’m still questioning if I even like girls. Is it cheating to just call myself straight unless someone asks more specifically? I mean, I’d basically be getting out of homophobia so I feel like it’s cheating. But I just don’t even know if it’s okay to be a little bit bi.

[Destiel_24]

Your attraction to women doesn't have to feel the same as your attraction to men, the same way you could be attracted to 2 different men but the attraction is not the same. Also it could be because dating or being with a women is usually very different to being with a man so it makes sense the feeling is also different

[ilikewriting]

That’s true

[LittleTurtleDuck]

It is okay to be either, none or both
Who you like does not define who you are
And it will all get clear in time
Don't worry and just (responsibly and safely) enjoy the feelings you have

[LittleTurtleDuck]

Oh and if you need someone to talk to feel free to send me a message 😊

[ilikewriting]

Aw thank youu

[4eyes2mouths]

Bi curious would be a proper term to use since you're still figuring out what you like. It's definitely normal. I find guys attractive but through my life I've realized that's all I really like about them. I've tried the whole experience with another man and it was just not my thing at all.

[4eyes2mouths]

Never really ended up having sex with a man and I'm definitely straight now.

[NamerOfStars]

It's okay to be whatever you are. Remember that your attractions are not your choice, but your actions are.

[sumreet]

It is more than OK; it is perfectly normal to be bi! I was confused before I married my spouse (woman) too but then I realized it is not confusing to like who you like.

[ilikewriting]

Thanks!

[DStover91]

Some guys will be intimidated by this because they'll be afraid of losing you to another girl but that just shows you what kind of guy they are

[In_Trance]

Kind of bi? A little denial there or what?

[ilikewriting]

I’ve just never really considered that I might be, and it all feels very new and foreign. Also, I like guys a lot more than girls.

[ilikewriting]

Not just more often, like the little high you get around your crush is better around guy crushes

[In_Trance]

It's normal. Not to worry. You're the only one that needs to be accepting of it. Whatever you like is fine.

[In_Trance]

again, whatever works for you is fine. completely normal

[ilikewriting]

Do you think for now, at least while I’m still questioning, that it’s okay to just identify as straight, or if someone asks specifically , mostly straight

[In_Trance]

Absolutely it is. Interact with guys; it makes you feel good. If you have the opportunity with a woman in the future and everything feels right, that's a decision you make at the time. You do what's right for you

[ilikewriting]

I like that, thanks

[In_Trance]

you're welcome

[Anonymous]

being bi myself, I don't have problems with bi people, actually I prefer them.