Is It Okay To Tell A Guy You Just Started Dating, You Are Not Ready To have Sex Yet?

[Lohulla]

Won’t that push him away..

[kellytheman]

No as long he a decent or good guy you won't push him away. If you just tell your not ready or want date a little longer to be more comfortable or trusting with him he would understand and wait til you are ready. Don't make him pressure or insult you calling you a tease to make you have sex with him. If he does that he just want to use you for sex and if that happens you need to kick him to the curb. If you feel that afraid you are gonna push him away give him a incentive like making out, give him a striptease or something also sexual like foreplay just to keep him interested.

[ChrisMaster69]

Perfectly fine, if he goes then you know you dodged someone that just wanted sex and not you.

just points to him not having any respect for you as a person.

[Lohulla]

Thank you..

[Agape93]

Exactly.

[Lohulla]

A connection more than sex is what I want , someone I can connect with on a deeper level.

[Daniela1982]

If the guy really likes you he won't leave and probably respect you. If he is some dink just looking to get into your pants he will dump you. Which would you rather have?

[melanieeeB]

Of course it is okay!!!
Stand up for yourself and your boundaries, if he doesn't respect you well then fucking leave him.

[Lohulla]

👌🏽

[Little_Bumblebee]

Don't be afraid of pushing someone away that won't respect your boundaries or not share your values or something else.

[katiesmuff]

If that pushes him away, then you are the lucky one and very happy to say goodby to him.

[SnakeBoop]

If it pushes him away, then that's called dodging a bullet.

[MCheetah]

It's best to tell him now rather than later, but yeah, that'll likely push him away. You shouldn't be selfish and should tell him anyway, though.

[RobT312]

Sure, it’s ok. Sex is only fun when you both want it

[Fatherhere901]

Of course it's not gonna push him away if you tell him you're not ready to have sex. It's gonna push him away because you assume that affection and sex are the same thing, so that means you're not going to be affectionate at all. And that, not being affectionate to him, is what's gonna push him away.

[ArrowheadSW]

If he approaches you about sex that early, by all means if you aren't ready for it, it is fine to tell him. If he is cool with it then that is a good thing. If he is upset over it, then move on. No one should have sex in a new relationship if they aren't ready for it.

[Sour-rose]

It's fine. If he ain't ready, well bye bye... NEXT

[Berethor]

He might leave or he might respect you more for not being easy.

[Tamera952]

Hell yea that’s ok. Get it out there ahead of the courtship, that’s a good thing.
It might push some away, but who cares?

[DonkeyDan]

If he's actually interested in you and not just having sex with you then no it won't push him away and yes it is ok.

[StephanieGirl75]

If he can't wait then don't date him.

[sissyalexa]

Absolutely fine to say your not ready, if it's an issue for him then just talk about it and see why 😊

[jshm2]

Eh... why do you need to?

Seriously, thats as daft as going into a resturant and telling the waiter you are not going to pay or tip until you are served, and happy with the food and service.

Sex is only something you have when both parties are up for it.

[Now_Here]

Of course. I believe it's really important to be honest and open regarding matters of intimacy and personal space and it should be discussed as soon as possible with understanding.

[Dragonstarterplus]

Unlike everyone else regurgitating the same "if he really cared he'd wait!" Lets dive a bit deeper. Sure if you're worth it he'll wait but how long do you expect him to wait? People aren't going to wait forever. Also, what other active interest are you going to bring to this relationship to show the guy you are actually serious about him? Cause usually its sex

So how long you expect a guy to wait and how you're offsetting no sex will be the key factors in play

[AvaOneLasTime]

It's right to tell him

[AviatorTom]

If that pushes him away, he's the wrong guy for you. Most guys will wait until you're ready for sex. Telling him upfront the way you feel about sex is a good idea. Honest communication with your partner is always good.

[Agape93]

Yes you can and should tell him. If he leaves, then he wasn't looking for a relationship, he was just looking for a place to stick his dick.

[Dargil]

If he asks or makes advances beyond what you are ready for, yes. But you have to remember. Men are validated by sexual intimacy. Within a reasonable time if he doesn't cum, he will go. Dry romance will not hold him long.