Is it possible to make love the first time?

[Anonymous]

Me and my long distance boyfriend have been dating for a long time and soon we’re going to meet up for a while and eventually move in together if things work out. He’s had a lot of sex while I’ve only been with 2 men. The only thing he hasn’t done is make love. I want to feel special because everything is new to me but nothing is new to him :/ Do you thinks it’s possible to make love the first time we meet since we’ve talked for a long time? I know both people have to participate in order to do of course.

[Anonymous]

So I just met my long distance boyfriend (of 2 years) for the first time a few weeks ago. I thought we wouldn’t be able to keep our hands off each other, but tbh, when we met, things were a lot different than we both expected lol.


We were excited when we met each other the first time in the airport, but once he dropped me off to my Airbnb and I showered up and ate we hung out again and things felt awkward? The whole week I was there it felt like we kinda hit restart on the relationship because being in person together was completely different to talking on FaceTime all the time.


It wasn’t until the 3rd day, after he took me out to a movie date and walk around his city, he parked the car outside my rental and I brought it up. I asked him how he felt and we both finally spoke about. We spoke for an hour in the car about how things felt weird and we weren’t sure if it would work. We both felt sad and defeated, but talking felt sooo good and sooo right.


Something changed the next day and we went to a theme park with my sister and his sister. And we were flirting so much! And having a lot of fun. At the end of the day I asked him about it and he said we have nothing to worry about and winked at me 😉.


So my advice to you is it make sure to slow down in the beginning of things don’t pick up right away! Also don’t go into it with expectations! Make sure you guys spend time in the beginning communicating (unlike we did) because that’s what’s normal for your LDR and take things slow and easy if that’s what you need.


3 of my older sisters were in LDRs longer than me and said they also felt awakwardness when meeting for the first time. Of course everyone is different and you may not have the same experience as us.


If y’all get sexual right away then go for it! If it doesn’t happen then don’t be disappointed. Just make sure to communicate!


Have funnnn and keep us updated lol. I’m curious to know what happens 👀

[Opinion Owner]

We didn’t do anything even remotely sexual until the very last day. So you may do it right when meeting or it might take you a little longer. You won’t know until you’re with him.

[RaceMaster]

Sex outside of marriage is a sin and is punishable by eternal damnation, you have to repent and believe that Jesus is your lord and savior. Then you can make love all you want with your husband. Anything else is a sin.

[YoMan1]

If you're comfortable with having sex with him, then have sex with him. If you're not, don't. I would suggest first seeing how he is face to face then decide.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he's a guy that's had an easy time getting a girlfriend most of his life