Is it racist for me to call my black girlfriend the n word during sex even though she's begging me to do it?

This is my first time dating a black girl I'm a white guy. I'm almost stunned that she asked me to call her the n word and she's called my penis the n word cock even though I'm white. I haven't done it yet cause I'm white and I don't know how to tell her that I can't bring myself to use such hateful language.
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  • People are into all kinds of kink. And never forget that, regardless of all the snowflakes out there, along with even mild disagreement over trivial issues that can get people called racist nowadays, it might not be racist, per se. But if you're uncomfortable with it, don't do it.

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  • It's between you and your partner. She obviously trusts you to tell you her kink. I thunk you should give her what she wants. I enjoy that sort of degrading talk as well. My husband is white but my friends with benefits is black and I like it when he calls me a "white bitch" and stuff like that during sex. Being degraded can be a turn on for a lot of people and it seems that she's one of them.

    It's all just kinky play and she WANTS it. Just give her what she wants.

  • Yeah that’s racist. There’s such a thing as self hating racism and it sounds like that’s what your girlfriend has.

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  • Please now, give the girl what she wants. And treat her like a 👸🏻… hold onto that with both hands and move her away from traffic walking sidewalk.
    You can be both…. It’ll probably change 50 times and grow old etc…

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  • I meeeeeean if she's asking you too call her that then I'd just do it, but like definitely ask her about it, especially if you're not comfortable saying those things to her, or feel like it's more self hatred rather than a kink.

  • Using the N-word is NEVER acceptable. I don't care if you are dating a black girl and her friends say it, or she demands that you say it, don't do it.

    It is an unacceptable word... period.

  • Nope.

  • I always use that word just usually not when any are around bro but hey sure go for it

  • Well sometimes I call him the N word to use me more and degrade me

  • in my opinion: as long as black people keep using the word, they can't pull the racist card if someone else does it. or else they're being racist.

  • No because you have her permission

  • That’s hot

  • Have a good talk with her to see boundaries.. then have at it once all the rules are set.

  • If it turns her on why not it's her thing giving her pleasure is what is important

  • It’s awkward I know. I dated a guy in an interracial relationship who loved to use racist dirty talk in the bedroom and wanted me to engage. He liked me to call him the n-word during sex. I did it for a while but was never really comfortable with it. You may find it’s just something you don’t want to do and that’s perfectly ok. Just be honest and tell her.