Is it really that bad to lose virginity to a prostitute?

[Anonymous]

I am a 27 good looking guy. I decided after a lot of disappointment from girls to bring a prostitute home. She was good and surprised me after a premature ejaculation that I cam 3 time and spent a whole hour having sex and she cam and went overtime with me.
The thing that makes me feel sorry for myself is that she was saddened or a bit shocked when she knew I was a Virgin and basically got sick from dating.
She was cautious about having clients less than 25 but I still can't get over her reaction. It made me feel like I am self destructive but in reality I did it because I realized that I am not fitting in and I will never find the love that I want. by the way I had a bunch of friends but I was scared to have a one time with them and also had girls who wanted long term but I didn't sexually attracted to them to even try.

[Finchie40]

For each their own I guess , Me personally couldn’t have sex with a prostitute or pay a girl to have sex with me , it’s dirty and degrading to me to be honest. But I know there are a lot of Guy’s that can have sex with just about any girl period that just don’t give a fuck , it’s just something I honestly can’t do , I rather jerk off then stick my dick into a girl that has been around the block a shit ton of times , that is probably filled with STD’s so honestly man , me personally wouldn’t be proud and sharing with others if I went down that road period , and you honestly should go get checked by a doctor to see if you contracted anything. Even if you wore a condom , that isn’t going to protect you 100 percent , so honestly you should go get tested. I can’t tell you what to do it’s your life and your decision and your choice , I am just giving you some advice , so please don’t take it the wrong way. Not all girls’ are whores and sluts , so what was it that made you break off with those other girls you were dating? I know most girls’ are liars and selfish people but not every girl just spreads her legs that has moral beliefs so what was it that made you walk away from those other girls?

[Asker]

I have been having high standards throughout my life that I rejected many girls. Now that I moved to another country and started dating there I found that I couldn't get so many because of language barrier furthermore I found out that I am attracting toxic girls who are real weirdos and don't want to commit some were raped and were begging me to have sex but I didn't do it because I couldn't consider that it would be consensual to exploit someone's trauma. Anyways I did it because most girls I met even the good ones told me stupid stories of how they had sex in parties while people watching them. I wanted to experiment with sex in a transactional manner in order to avoid losing virginity to one of these girls or keep lowering my standards just because people exaggerate sex.. For me I don't feel like doing it again but I take your advice and I will arrange a test soon.. To be honest western societies got so ridiculous with it's sexual freedom that's also combined with tons of judgement.. I could have had sex with many people but I don't want to date people whom I am not interested in just for sex. Then I would be truly destroying myself. I am too much of a good guy that I don't want to accept that I manipulated people for my own pleasures..

[Finchie40]

Understandable, I tend to attract toxic girls as well , that have a selfish mindset that think they are always right and never wrong , that will set boundaries in the relationship with me and expect me to follow those boundaries but they don’t follow them themselves. Basically it’s not ok if you do this but it’s ok if I do it mindset Girls like that I kick to the curb where they belong. I only stay committed to a girl that treats me like I am her top priority over everyone else. , cuz i do the same for her , but the second she starts treating me like an option I start to put one foot out the door. I have yet to find a girl that knows the true meaning of a relationship, So to me they were good times , but not long times. for me I will only stay faithful and loyal to a girl that stays loyal and faithful to me but sadly these days it’s hard to come by , because most people in general can’t admit to being wrong , it’s always someone else’s fault My ex always pointed fingers at me before pointing fingers at herself first , she was easily vulnerable of choosing others before choosing me. She was a very selfish person that could never admit she was wrong. It wasn’t ok for me to go out with friends but it was ok for her , if I expressed my feelings of concern to her I was automatically wrong , that I don’t trust her , I am insecure , Ummmm bitch look at yourself in the mirror and let’s talk about who is the one that is insecure here. Most girls have a hard time admitting she is wrong period. I dated girls that got upset if i talked to another girl automatically assuming I am hitting on the girl or flirting with her when I clearly wasn’t , but when it came to her talking to other Guy’s I was just supposed to accept it and trust in her but funny how she couldn’t trust me. So I no longer waste my time with girls’ that do not know how to wear my shoes like she expects me to wear hers. If it doesn’t go both ways then it was nice knowing you.

[AviatorTom]

Everyone is different. You have a reasonable reason to have sex with a prostitute, and from your post, it seems to have been enjoyable. Just treat it for what it was.

There's a reason why prostitution is the world's oldest profession... and legal in many places.

Did you know that, during World War II, the US military authorized brothels in Hawaii for the benefit of sailors there?

[Asker]

Thanks for your thoughtful comment and understanding Man! I greatly appreciate it. What I did was legal in the country that I am living in as long as the lady is independent and that's what I made sure of.

[TipsyFr]

It is what it is mate you can’t go back on it, you had your reasons and I don’t think you should judge yourself too much because of it. You can easily meet someone for free though it’s all about confidence as in be confident for you not because women like confident men rather because I’m sure you’ve got tons of good qualities. If the women you meet aren’t to your liking change the scenery you’ll meet different types and hopefully ones that meet your criteria. Don’t feel bad about yourself mate we’ve all got stuff we’re proud of and not proud of that’s the fun part being on this big blue ball 👍

[saffoler]

Yes, it is

[Asker]

Why?

[saffoler]

Because your first time is special and it should be with someone who cares for you. Not someone who is employed by you

[Asker]

I used to agree to that belief which made my side weaker in the presence of the majority of girls who aren't virgin. I have always had a good ability to judge people and to control my instincts I didn't find the one before because I see that none of these opportunities would work for long term. In the end I won't find a virgin girl who's worthy of being special for a fair exchange. That's why I went that way so that I see girls whom I will have sex with the same way they see me :)

[AngryCarl2]

You're not losing anything, you're just getting your dick wet. Always practice safe sex.

[CubaPirate]

It right up there with your worst idea

[Asker]

Why do you think it's bad?

[fuddly]

It is good to get started
Maybe now with this extra experience you can find a regular girl
Maybe you had a mental block around sex but that's hopefully gone now

[Asker]

I had my reason that I wanted to get rid of it to a stranger so that no girl gets a special status with me. It's hard to find virgin girls and I think I was probably late doing that. Now I don't care about the girls meet much

[fuddly]

I hear what you're saying Although i don't see what a girl being a virgin has to do with anything Your standards were too high and you didn't wish to lose your virginity to a girl you didn't care about

[Jmmmfi4]

By 27 I say fuck it just do it

[Anonymous]

i'm not against it, to each their own

[Anonymous]

It will always be controversial

[Asker]

Even good girls say they were idiots when they were young and describe shitty ways that they lost their virginity... I would be an idiot to think that one of these girls will actually appreciate me keeping my virginity to her. I spared myself the drama so that I can be at the same level they are because this way I will never find a match who's keeping herself to the ideal.

[Anonymous]

Lol, that is sad more than anything else. It is amazing how low some men can go.

[Asker]

Probably not as low as girls who lose in clubs too.