Is it really true that men find BPD women the most irresistable?

[Filthy_Immigrant]

I was reading this article and I wonder how the fuck is this possible?

https://www.psypost.org/2020/06/men-are-drawn-to-borderline-personality-traits-in-physically-attractive-women-study-finds-56961

as a person who was raised by a BPD I gotta say that I find women with this mental illness extremely repulsing! hell I dont care if she is as hot and fucks like Lisa Ann, Alexis Texas, Masarati XXX or any of my other top favorite pornstars.

but of course there are still men out there who do proof the above article right, look at Johnny Depp! wtf was I not surprised when miss AMBER HEARD was diagnosed with BPD during the defamation trial she initiated on him. this is clearly what BPD folks are known for

another person who is officially BPD is Angelina Jolie yet ironically look at the hell she put Brad Pitt through.

till I still wonder why men are still drawn to these type of women despite them being she-devils in the flesh? is it because perhaps women with BPD are good in bed? I mean obviously BPD are not just known for their high ass sex drive, but they are notoriously more known for engaging in reckless sex

[DaveJord]

So here is the deal with BPD woman and I guess men as well.

These types of borderline personality discords, seek out their "victims" very carefully. They excellent at love bombing. They can make you feel very special, because they come on so fast, they excellent interpersonal skills, and they tend to be highly functional, success driven people. It's all a facade though.

The problem is that people with BPD always have an extremely highly level of insecurity. They are excellent at making themselves appear as highly confident and functional people, but the true driver behind that seeming to be self-confidence is their deep-rooted insecurity. They use that high believe in themselves to hide their insecurities.

These types of people are very good at "managing" their relationships in way that limits your exposure to their true self's. But over time, usually within a few weeks or months, they cannot maintain the facade any longer. Their true self comes out. They find it impossible to maintain the false imagine they have maintained... it becomes too much of a struggle for them emotionally... and then their own insecurities begin to take over.

They start feeling that they you are making them feel inadequate, because you expect them to live up to being the person, they presented themselves as. But deep down they know they are not or cannot be that person. It a total mind screw they put themselves through. Eventually they start projecting their insecurities on to you, and that is when the emotional abuse and manipulation starts.

But initially most men are attracted to these women, because they tend to be highly energetic, lots of fun and very good at love bombing. On a good day they make you fell like the most special person in the world, and on a bad day they tear you down. They have this need to control your emotional state based upon their own emotional stay, and they can flip from good to bad on a whim. They gaslight, then blame shift and put you through a emotional rollercoaster as a mean to exsert some type of control over their exterior environment... because internally they are not grounded.

Basically, they know subconsciously they are not in control of themselves, so if they can control you in some way, they are able to feel as if they are in control of something.

But in general, when this type of behavior is found in an attractive woman... men are draw to her like moth to the flame. Literally like the moth to the flame. And subconsciously the BPD types know this and use it. It gives them a sense of self-worth and value knowing they can draw power from it.

If you have ever date someone like this, the one thing you must know is that you never can call them out on it. If you have not dated a true narcissist, or BPD type, the second you draw attention it... they will blow up on you ticking time bomb.

[Filthy_Immigrant]

amen brother. I never dated one but again I was unfortunate enough to be raised by one and today I suffer from chronic depression, general anxiety disorder and ptsd thanks to that person who raised me. reading your whole OP just reminded me of that person

[DaveJord]

I was married to one, and I failed to protect my children from her. The courts did nothing. It is lifetime regret of mine. She cut me off from my children and they now they hate me for it.

[Filthy_Immigrant]

damn brother, I'm sorry to hear that! that shit kills me. but oh well the truth will always prebail and your kids are not gonna stay kids forever. but I hope your kids will be fortunate enough to know the truth while you are still alive, unlike me

[inhua]

only feminized simps and white knights find them irresistible

[Filthy_Immigrant]

true! simps just dont value their miserable lives do they?

[TruthBringer]

I've been in a relationship with someone who has BPD. It was the most toxic relationship I had that affected my mental and emotional health greatly. Took me a while to recover from that relationship. Longer than the average person tries to get over a regular relationship. I can guarantee you that people who get into relationships with those who have BPD are often unaware about the person having BPD.

The following information is acquired not only through personal experience, but also after extensively researching this disorder and the experiences of non-BPD partners.

What makes these people so 'irresistible' is that they mirror your characteristics, making you think you have found your 'soulmate' because you have "so much in common". When in reality, they have projected your qualities and interests back to you. It's all fake. Without you knowing, you've fallen in love with a fabricated persona. They do this to REEL YOU IN.

The issue with these people is that they get very close to during the idealization phase. In their minds, you are the most perfect person who will solve their problems. And they will treat you in a way that has you fall head over heels for them. They make you feel important and special... Just until you make one small mistake that does not fit the script they have for you. In their minds, you are supposed to be flawless. Of course, you can't uphold such an image, so they start to devalue you. That's when all the emotional abuse starts. Going from such a high to such a drastic low, then back up and then back down again causes what we call a traumabond. And It's only AFTER the relationship established or even ENDED that people find out they were dealing with someone who has such a disorder.

Remember, people of the Cluster B often go for highly empathic/caretaker people. People who are less likely to have healthy boundaries, because they are so willing to give. That's the perfect prey for these Cluster Bs. It's only after the empathic person gets burnt and starts putting healthy boundaries that the Cluster Bs stay away. Those with BPD are no exception.

So, it's not that people who have BPD are irresistible, it's that they bait you with a fake persona to reel you in, have you fall in love with the persona, and then subjugate you to all kinds of abuse (whether they can help it or not). I can write a book on people with BPD and what makes this disorder so toxic and destructible to not only the person who has it, but most definitely for the people around them.

I hope this answers your question.

[Filthy_Immigrant]

thanks! this is exactly what my mom was while raising me. she treated me like a prince when I was a child because I was smarter than my two older brothers who are both high school dropouts and decided to do nothing with their lives it wasn't until my middle school days that she started to noticed how unperfect I was and then started treating my like I was a parasite growing out of her all the way till the time I moved out when I was 23. now thanks to her I suffer from GED and chronic depression

[TruthBringer]

@filthy_immigrant That's a classic dynamic Cluster Bs bring to their children. There is the black sheep child and the idealized child. The idealized child won't remain idealized for long. Those with BPD are known to rub their dysfunction on their children, causing PTSD and make them emotionally stunted. That was the case with my ex, she got her BPD THANKS TO her mom. It's a constant cycle of idealization and devaluing the child. One day you're the best, the other you're the worst. I'm sorry to hear you went through that BS. It was already enough for me to be in a relationship with one, I can't imagine having one as a parent. That must be a horrific experience.

[Filthy_Immigrant]

thanks, its all cool. I think it could of been worst. but oh well as of now the only thing I can do is not repeat the vicious cycle

[Wwwyzzerdd]

BPD women are good at acting. They can be master manipulators. I wouldn’t call BPD traits attractive, these women have terrible personalities that are not attractive at all.

[Filthy_Immigrant]

I agree but for some odd reason simps and manginas flock to these bimbos like gnats to a pile of shit

[LogicBomber]

Don’t the majority of women fit into this category.

[Filthy_Immigrant]

yeah its very common in the west and feminism has really helped spread this illness A LOT

[grega239]

Dont do it. Dated a girl with bpd and i payed for that mistake

[Filthy_Immigrant]

like I said in my op, I was raised by one. so no thank you