Is it reasonable for a guy to expect a BJ everytime during intimacy?

Question

Let's be honest. Guys really value BJs. If the girl gives a BJ everytime she gets intimate with him, BJs will lose their value. I think girls should preserve BJs for the most special days - birthdays, days when he gets you a special gift or takes you out for a romantic dinner. What do you say?

JessicaEarl · Accepted Answer

I think it’s reasonable to not doing EVERY encounter so it doesn’t get boring like you say. But I don’t think it’s very nice to do it only a few times a year if it’s something he really wants. I don’t understand why other girls think it’s so important to withhold sexual gratification from their guy. I would hate it if he did that to me. If you love him, make him as happy as you can! He’s not some animal that needs training. He’s your partner that needs affection. Sheesh

msmissydc · Accepted Answer

My take on this:. Either you like it too than why not whenever you both are in the mood.
If you can accept it but dont really like it I agree with you.
If you dont like it he isn't supposed to expect any BJs.

Also it it onoy one way or are you both getting oral that makes a difference too.
If you only give and he never does than I could agree with you too or even wouldn't give it at all.

PositiveFlight · Accepted Answer

I think that’s more than fair and reasonable. Honestly though, getting a bj has never really meant that much to me. I do love a woman to put her hands on my part, kiss it, and just explore my body that way. It’s relaxing and arousing. I love to do the same with her vagina/vulva but ultimately, I want vaginal intercourse. So a bj (if she is into giving them) would be better reserved.

kellytheman · Accepted Answer

I totally agree with you no guy should expect a BJ everytime during intimacy. I consider it a treat or bonus and her to show her appreciation to me if she gives me a BJ. Also if I go down on her I also don't expect her to go down on me and usually it turns me on more hearing her orgasm than her giving me a BJ.

NamerOfStars · Answer

I understand where you're coming from, but treating sex as a reward, or a motivational tool, just commoditizes it- and that's the beginning of the end of a relationship.

Daniela1982 · Answer

Does he reciprocate by giving you oral? Or do you like being played the sucker, litterally?

MrNameless · Answer

They don't lose their value, especially if you don't even get to have sex every day. BJs/oral sex can be a part of foreplay or a finisher. Not the main course.

Tyrael · Answer

By that logic, should guys also withhold oral for times where you treat them to a gift or a romantic meal? Should we just make all sex acts a transaction? Ludicrous honestly.

CA4444 · Answer

Nah I would not have any restriction… if it ever gets boring for him or you then you need to do something else that’s it… but if you don’t like it then it’s better for you to do less I guess…

Faith18letsgo · Answer

Yeah that makes sense to me.

all_hayl · Answer

If he’s “expecting” anything, I don’t think I’d call that intimacy. That’s called selfishness.

Rorobb · Answer

Your opinion is valid for some, but in my case with my Sweety during sex I eat her and to make me cum she prefers giving me a blowjob or handjob and I love it because I could relax and Feel her beautiful hair and face all the same time

jlee99 · Answer

If he goes down on me, I go down on him. Simple.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

BJ's don't mean much to me. They mean much less than sex anyway.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I disagree, sexual acts can't lose value based on how often they are done. It's not a currency.

Shedzij567 · Answer

Sucking by me is like so much part of a sex session, It actually gets me soaking wet doing it, My ex was also used to it so that's how we had sex. The only time I don't blow is when the Dick isn't clean or it's hairy.